I published a post on my blog recently about how to identify and slay blogging limiting beliefs.
A few reader comments nudged me to write this post.
I suffered from a destructive, self-sabotaging, horrific limiting beliefs for a good 6 years of my online career.
Clinging to this limiting belief:
- handcuffed me
- made me work myself into sickness
- created extended failure
- frustrated me
- destroyed my creative talents
- drowned out my intuition
Killing this limiting belief helped me:
- land features on some of the world’s most famous blogs
- write and self-publish 126 eBooks
- tell my authentic, inspired story
- travel the world as an island hopping pro blogger
What is it:
Underdog Syndrome: seeing yourself as an underdog who needs to overcome insurmountable odds to taste sweet blogging success.
I saw myself as the ultimate blogging underdog for nearly 6 years of my blogging career.
I was the bum, broke security guard from Jersey trying to make good.
Unfortunately, when you see yourself as an underdog you subconsciously:
- create obstacles for yourself
- repel money
- repel profitable ideas
- repel successful influencers
- fail for years
- experience some success, but with a constant, continual struggle
I had some sweet success online over this 6 year stretch.
But with continual struggles.
I clawed like a wolverine to make ends meet.
I fought like a Nepali wild man to be heard.
I worked myself to the bone, getting sick, and almost dying in India because I was trying SO DARN HARD to succeed, to cease being the underdog, to overcome an invisible foe, and imagined enemy, I created myself.
Finally, I decided to slay Underdog Syndrome.
I haven’t looked back.
Here’s how I did it.
How to Slay the Demon
I so appreciate the many successful bloggers out there who do their best to help their readers BUT I stopped reading blogs whose core theme was:
- nobody cares about you as a newbie blogger (you are 1 grain of sand out of billions, so you are the ultimate underdog)
- you need to work hard for 5 to 10 years – or longer – to “overcome the odds”
- you need to pore over a single blog post for 10 to 15 hours – or longer – or else it’ll be average at best, or pure garbage, at worst
Guys, I admire every successful blogger out there.
I love them, really.
But some top shelf, tremendous, compassionate, empathetic bloggers are simply projecting their limiting beliefs onto you.
They *mean well* and genuinely want to empower you, yet, they saw themselves as the Ultimate Underdog for much of their lives (and may see themselves as Ultimate Underdogs, to this day) so naturally they built their blogs around the core messages I shared with you above (i.e., nobody cares about you, you are a speck in a sea of sand, you need to work yourself to the bone, to overcome endless obstacles, etc…).
If you, too, see yourself as suffering from Underdog Syndrome, stop reading these blogs.
It’s just your career, happiness and livelihood, on the line.
Fill this blogging void with my blog, or similar blogs where creators empower, entertain, inspire, uplift and remind you of the unlimited power you always have access to.
Look at Tony Robbins.
He’s the most famous self help coach on earth and is worth hundreds of millions of dollars because he makes you feel like a champion not an underdog!
- you are whole and complete, as is
- you are deserving of all good things now
- you are worthy…WOW you are worthy!
- Underdog Syndrome is an ego-induced mental state often consistent with bloggers who imagined themselves to be up against impossible obstacles, or whose egos needed the drama to feel fulfilled
- most Underdogs – like the old, unhappy me – have a real tough time loving and accepting themselves
- You choose to see yourself as an Underdog and can stop seeing yourself as an Underdog
The Ultimate Reminder
Blogging is an energy game.
Meaning, you choose to vibe a certain way (feeling grateful, whole and complete, happy, and just plain having fun with blogging) and you’ll attract:
- Eureka moments (profitable ideas, clever ideas leading to viral posts, etc)
- influential bloggers, who you’ll befriend and build prospering partnerships with
- increasing amounts of money and freedom
- ideas for inspired action, and of course, you’ll act on these inspired ideas to free yourself and to free your audience
Tips for Overcoming Underdog Syndrome
- Surround yourself only with loving, empowering, compassionate bloggers (these folks will make you feel like a champion versus making you feel like an Underdog Chump who needs to struggle for years before making it)
- Pick 2-5 bloggers whose lives seem amazing to you, and follow their every post, check out their eBooks, check out their products, comment on their blogs and share their content on social media (learn from them, support them and move into their Empowered Circles)
- Meditate, do EFT tapping, build a gratitude list and follow daily habits to raise your energy, so you can face, embrace and release your Underdog Syndrome, to become the Blogging Champion you really are
Are you suffering from Underdog Syndrome?
If you feel super inspired and like a blogging champion who appears on world famous blogs you can sign up for my course here.
Why Does It Take Time to Be a Successful Blogger?
Successful bloggers implore you: it takes time to succeed.
I advise following your fun, helping people generously, trusting the process and seeing the blogging journey through. I mention in my eBook how time saving tips make your journey easier. But in the same regard, this journey takes time. Impatient bloggers weed themselves out. Generous, patient, persistent bloggers succeed. Sometimes, successful bloggers realize not the time element and how it works, and never explain in detail why it takes time to succeed. Why do you need to be patient? Why does it take time to succeed? I uncovered 3 reasons why it takes time to be a successful blogger.
1: It Takes Time to Practice a Skill So You Become Really Good At It
Today, I can write 10 to 20 blog posts daily if I so desired. I could easily create 20 videos daily.
10 years ago, I could write 1 blog post weekly and feared doing videos, to where, I never recorded videos as a newbie blogger.
Generous practice plus time made me prolific. Nobody gains skills in 1 day. Humans gain skills practicing 1 craft daily for months, then years. I love basketball. A handful of NBA players disclose how terrible they played after picking up a ball for the first time, 5 or 10 years, prior. Patient, persistent practice and time polished their skills to the point they became successful enough to go pro. Blogging is no different. Successful bloggers practice daily for years before being skilled enough to become a pro.
2: It Takes Time to Gain Big Exposure
Gaining big exposure for success takes time. Every creative act expands your presence a little bit more but those little bits add up over time. New bloggers blind themselves to this concept, believing 1 day and 1 blog post gives them successful exposure enough to make money and gain clout. Nope. Time reveals persistently generous bloggers because getting massive exposure requires months to years of generous, patient, persistent service.
No human can begin blogging at 8 AM as a new blogger and land a Forbes appearance by 12 noon. Nobody knows you. You have no exposure. Humans require time to create and connect in enough spots to gain success promoting exposure. Relax. You are on the way. But allow for time and generosity to leverage your presence. Time is required to be seen in many places.
3: It Takes Time to Uncover and Feel and Release Fears
Do you want to know why I wrote this post? I uncovered this reason a few moments ago. I noticed one income stream yield lesser amounts over the 2 days prior and felt a tiny but palpable surge of fear. Aha! I got you. Feeling fear, I released it and proceeded. I blogged for 10 years. I still feel tiny fears if an income stream yields less money, day to day, based on my expectations. But I needed to face this fear to make more money. New bloggers generally have deep fears concerning money, success and freedom. It takes time to feel and release fears concerning making more than $1 a day until you vibe at the $100, $1000 or $10,000 monthly – or more – level of blogging income.
Time unearths fears for feeling and releasing, to reach the next level of blogging success.
Time is a great blogging ally.
All you need flows to you over time.
Generously create, connect, follow your fun and nudge into fears.
Success is yours.
What Does Your Blogging Network Look Like?
I do nothing on my own.
Everything is a team effort.
As I teach in my blogger networking eBook, the way to increased, ever-expanding blogging success is to look for, grow and tap into a huge, loyal network of blogging friends through the power of generosity. Be generous. Help people. Shout out fellow bloggers. Release expectations. Get super connected. Most of us understand this is how to succeed online; be generous and get connected because 100 is better than 1. 100 friend efforts are far better than your effort alone.
One basic problem arises for most new or struggling bloggers: overcoming the deep fear of networking. For odd reasons, humans cling to pulsating fears concerning reaching out to other human beings. Bloggers fear being rejected, failing, being criticized or giving up credit for their blogging success. Honor that fear. See how far you get on your own steam. Not only that, the agony of micro-managing makes you sick, broke and quite dumb, if you are honest with yourself. How silly of you! Why do everything on your own today? Why not comment genuinely on a few blogs, retweet a few blogger blog posts and mention a few bloggers on your blog? Begin networking. Build a network. Succeed online.
What’s It Look Like?
Be honest, my blogging sweet robbins. What does your network look like? Is it even there? Do you even have a network? Many bloggers publish a post, share it to Twitter and Facebook and sit there, dumbfounded. Do you honestly believe your network just materializes out of thin air? Nope. But if you buy my eBook, follow my 13 steps and build your blogger buddy network by being generous, you can land on famous blogs, earn coin and drive traffic to your blog, too. Everything hinges on your honesty. Admit having only 1, 3 or zero blogging buddies. Truths set you free to network generously and successfully.
How to Grow Your Network
Simple. Be generous. Begin now. Publish a thoughtful, personalized comment below. Be seen. I cannot read all comments but the thousands of people who read blogging tips tend to read comments. Somebody eventually reads your blog comment if you comment genuinely and generously every day on Blogging Tips after reading posts. Someone clicks your link because they love your comment and want to meet you. One visit to your blog later, you may have a blogging buddy, or even a client or customer. Or maybe you have a loyal reader. This is networking 101; be generous, engage people and you build your network.
But do not stop after commenting on Blogging Tips. Branch out. Go wide. Read and comment genuinely on other blogs in your niche. Make more friends. Life gets easier and easier if you have more blogging friends in your corner because these folks inspire you to keep going, plus your friends amplify your presence exponentially.
Be generous and genuine. Reach out to more bloggers every day. Networking is a bit uncomfortable sometimes if you look for immediate returns but gliding through these temporary feelings helps you tap into something special with your blog. Connected bloggers have no issues growing their blogging business because 100 is better than 1. Remember that they next time you try to go lone wolf with your blogging campaign.
Are You Leveling Up with Your Blog?
Every time I reach a new level with my blog, I notice another level invites me. I do not work harder. I never work longer. I love what I do and keep generously helping people but think of how to go wide as I level up. Think of that one for a moment: consider how to go wide, and what it means.
I write and publish multiple posts to my blog. Each post gains views. Going wide. 4 quality posts beats 1 quality post. But I go even wider by writing and publishing multiple guest posts daily. I speak to 2 or 3 or more different blogging audiences, going wider and wider, increasing my exposure and expanding my presence online. But I go even wider as I level up; I contribute on Quora and on the Warrior Forum daily. Leveling up is uncomfortable sometimes but always freeing. Leveling up helps you see greater success versus hitting blogging ceilings.
Be More Generous to Make More Money and to Avoid Lulls
I speak to bloggers who suffer lulls. One client signed up 4 months ago but no clients signed up since. The appearance of a 4 month client drought, or lull, simply indicates a lack of leveling up and a lack of generosity. Even if no clients signed up during your 4 months of leveling up, your eBook sales would triple. Audio book sales would jump, too. Plus you would open 2 new income streams. This just happens. Be generous and blogging will be generous to you.
Being more generous by helping more folks across multiple platforms feels uncomfortable sometimes. Who wants to go wide when doing so means leaving your comfort zone on a daily basis? I love blogging. But I feel uncomfortable writing my third post on a train ride to Connecticut. I will go super wide when I reach the destination though, publishing a combo of posts and guest posts to level up effectively, reaching more people in less time.
Most Bloggers Never Level Up
Most bloggers write and publish a post to their blog weekly. Struggles ensue because they never level up after publishing weekly for 3-6 months. Be more. Serve people generously. Go wide. Publish blog posts and guest posts more frequently to expand your reach. Increase blogging traffic and profits.
Why do you think most bloggers never make $100 during their careers? Few bloggers regularly level up, playing small to be comfortable, dodging their fears. Of course, their fears manifest as 0 dollars and 6 blog visitors daily for the next 12 months UNTIL they level up, go wide, be generous, leave their comfort zones and face their fears. This is not a fluffy, pleasant process but we all pay a fear tax to level up and to become successful bloggers.
Pay Up to Level Up and to Play Up
Pay up by spending time and generous energy reaching as many people as possible through blogging. Guest post. Publish more frequently to your blog. See increased blogging responsibility as more fun and freedom and service. I enjoy freedom offline because I level up online. I pay up, level up and play up in higher blogging circles because all top bloggers paid the same dues to reach the top. Why do top bloggers hobnob with one another? Top bloggers respect how other top bloggers pay their dues on this blogging journey and connect deeply with one another, co-promoting each other’s success.
The fun and freedom you experience through blogging is well worth the effort and discomfort of leveling up.
If you need a guide for facing blogging fears, grab my blogging mindset eBook on the way out.
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