I published a post on my blog recently about how to identify and slay blogging limiting beliefs.
A few reader comments nudged me to write this post.
I suffered from a destructive, self-sabotaging, horrific limiting beliefs for a good 6 years of my online career.
Clinging to this limiting belief:
- handcuffed me
- made me work myself into sickness
- created extended failure
- frustrated me
- destroyed my creative talents
- drowned out my intuition
Killing this limiting belief helped me:
- land features on some of the world’s most famous blogs
- write and self-publish 126 eBooks
- tell my authentic, inspired story
- travel the world as an island hopping pro blogger
What is it:
Underdog Syndrome: seeing yourself as an underdog who needs to overcome insurmountable odds to taste sweet blogging success.
I saw myself as the ultimate blogging underdog for nearly 6 years of my blogging career.
I was the bum, broke security guard from Jersey trying to make good.
Unfortunately, when you see yourself as an underdog you subconsciously:
- create obstacles for yourself
- repel money
- repel profitable ideas
- repel successful influencers
- fail for years
- experience some success, but with a constant, continual struggle
I had some sweet success online over this 6 year stretch.
But with continual struggles.
I clawed like a wolverine to make ends meet.
I fought like a Nepali wild man to be heard.
I worked myself to the bone, getting sick, and almost dying in India because I was trying SO DARN HARD to succeed, to cease being the underdog, to overcome an invisible foe, and imagined enemy, I created myself.
Finally, I decided to slay Underdog Syndrome.
I haven’t looked back.
Here’s how I did it.
How to Slay the Demon
I so appreciate the many successful bloggers out there who do their best to help their readers BUT I stopped reading blogs whose core theme was:
- nobody cares about you as a newbie blogger (you are 1 grain of sand out of billions, so you are the ultimate underdog)
- you need to work hard for 5 to 10 years – or longer – to “overcome the odds”
- you need to pore over a single blog post for 10 to 15 hours – or longer – or else it’ll be average at best, or pure garbage, at worst
Guys, I admire every successful blogger out there.
I love them, really.
But some top shelf, tremendous, compassionate, empathetic bloggers are simply projecting their limiting beliefs onto you.
They *mean well* and genuinely want to empower you, yet, they saw themselves as the Ultimate Underdog for much of their lives (and may see themselves as Ultimate Underdogs, to this day) so naturally they built their blogs around the core messages I shared with you above (i.e., nobody cares about you, you are a speck in a sea of sand, you need to work yourself to the bone, to overcome endless obstacles, etc…).
If you, too, see yourself as suffering from Underdog Syndrome, stop reading these blogs.
It’s just your career, happiness and livelihood, on the line.
Fill this blogging void with my blog, or similar blogs where creators empower, entertain, inspire, uplift and remind you of the unlimited power you always have access to.
Look at Tony Robbins.
He’s the most famous self help coach on earth and is worth hundreds of millions of dollars because he makes you feel like a champion not an underdog!
- you are whole and complete, as is
- you are deserving of all good things now
- you are worthy…WOW you are worthy!
- Underdog Syndrome is an ego-induced mental state often consistent with bloggers who imagined themselves to be up against impossible obstacles, or whose egos needed the drama to feel fulfilled
- most Underdogs – like the old, unhappy me – have a real tough time loving and accepting themselves
- You choose to see yourself as an Underdog and can stop seeing yourself as an Underdog
The Ultimate Reminder
Blogging is an energy game.
Meaning, you choose to vibe a certain way (feeling grateful, whole and complete, happy, and just plain having fun with blogging) and you’ll attract:
- Eureka moments (profitable ideas, clever ideas leading to viral posts, etc)
- influential bloggers, who you’ll befriend and build prospering partnerships with
- increasing amounts of money and freedom
- ideas for inspired action, and of course, you’ll act on these inspired ideas to free yourself and to free your audience
Tips for Overcoming Underdog Syndrome
- Surround yourself only with loving, empowering, compassionate bloggers (these folks will make you feel like a champion versus making you feel like an Underdog Chump who needs to struggle for years before making it)
- Pick 2-5 bloggers whose lives seem amazing to you, and follow their every post, check out their eBooks, check out their products, comment on their blogs and share their content on social media (learn from them, support them and move into their Empowered Circles)
- Meditate, do EFT tapping, build a gratitude list and follow daily habits to raise your energy, so you can face, embrace and release your Underdog Syndrome, to become the Blogging Champion you really are
Are you suffering from Underdog Syndrome?
If you feel super inspired and like a blogging champion who appears on world famous blogs you can sign up for my course here.
How to Develop Super Human Confidence in Your Blog
Baby steps, my Young Blogging Padawans.
New bloggers, baby step your way to being super human confident in your blog. Being wracked by doubt, with a little wild excitement mixed in, you cannot gain unreal confidence in your blog today. But slowly and steadily gaining clarity gives you the foundation upon which to become a highly successful blogger who feels bold, knowing your blog rocks.
I am about super human confident in my blog. I am developing the same level of confidence in my eBooks and courses, too. Why? Believing in my blog and premium offerings helps me to help more people and I also make more money too, which is neat, considering I live a worldly life.
Follow these tips.
1: Feel and Release Fears-Doubts Aligned with Your Blog
Before you become confident, you need to purge any lack of confidence. I know this feels bad but tis a necessary step to become super duper confident in your blog and in your premium offerings, too. Sit with doubts, those nasty traitors. Be with your fears about self, your writing ability and your blog presentation. Feel these unpleasant energies. Clear the energies. Proceed from a clearer, more confident, space. Confidence is borne of clearing a lack of confidence. Do messy energy work to become uber confident in your blog and in your blogging abilities.
2: Surround Yourself with Loving Bloggers
Loving, caring, compassionate bloggers see brilliance in you when you cannot seem to see it in yourself. Although all confidence issues flow inside-out, you need a network of supportive people around you who believe in you, versus being around haters or negative nellies. Never, ever, ever surround yourself with poverty conscious, failure conscious bloggers. Are you running a cyber charity? Are you a therapist? No! Negative people stuck in fear and failure throw negative cross currents into your being, shaking your already fragile confidence in your blog.
Hang with folks who believe in you and who believe in your blog. Pros share where and how you can improve but they always believe in someone who follows their dreams, and will instill that faith in you, and in your blog, too.
3: Write Your Butt Off and Publish Content Like the Dickens
Writing and publishing content is like breathing to me. I do not lose confidence in my ability to breathe because this is an automatic, auto-pilot, process. I just breathe without thinking about it. Ditto for writing and blogging. I wrote and blogged for 20,000 to 30,000 hours so now it is an automatic, easy process I have super human confidence in. I do not even think about it because I do it routinely, automatically, on a type of auto-pilot borne of making writing and blogging a habit.
If someone criticizes my blog, it is like someone criticizing my breathing; sounds weird, or funny, but it stirs me not, because I have equal confidence in each.
4: Do Energy Work
I do not play around; 3-4 hours of energy work daily allowed me to face, feel and release blog doubts, to become the clear, confident blogger I am today. Consider meditating, or doing yin yoga, or doing Kriya yoga, and power walking. Or do it all. I spend 3-4 hours doing each – collectively – daily, to expand my awareness so I can feel and clear doubts and so I can blog mainly from an abundant, generous, relaxed, detached vibe.
Be confident guys. Believe in your blog. Follow these 4 tips to succeed and to become super human confident in your blog.
Should You Search for New Blogging Niche Ideas?
Ask yourself that question and you will get an answer that best suits you.
I went with the blogging tips niche for people who want to circle the globe. But I did not go for this niche to be new, edgy or different. I had lived that life for many years. This made sense for me. I was being genuine, honest and as authentic as one can be. Perfect match. But if I chose a new niche from an energy solely of financial gain, being popular or some other fear-based driver, I would have fallen flat on my blogging face.
Why would you ask someone for new niche ideas? What is the energy or intent there? Do you want the fast track to success? Or are you in a creative space, wishing to do something different? I see searching for new blogging niches as being a waste of time considering the endless, established niches we already have at our disposal. Why waste time and energy searching for some niche if you have all the niches you need right before your cyber eyes? Toss in the fact that you need to research the niche inside-out if you have no prior knowledge and you invest a significant amount of time just to get the blog off of the ground. Makes no sense to me.
What do you love talking about? What is your biggest passion? Start there. Select that niche. You already have an ample supply of information in your noggin and the confidence to discuss the niche in clear, cogent fashion. Who cares if the niche is new or old? The blogging tips niche – my main niche – has been around for a few decades. Who cares? There is nothing new under the sun blogging-wise but thousands of new bloggers join our ranks daily. I also find that I seem to be converting people to blogging the more I persist in creating and connecting, keeping at this gig, being present, helping spread awareness about a pretty cool blogging niche, and, about a pretty cool way to help people and to free yourself.
Go with What You Know
When it comes to picking a blogging niche, go with what you know. Pick a niche inside of your blogging and knowledge wheelhouse because being armed with knowledge, experience, and a pulsating passion for discussing the niche makes you stand out from the blogging crowd in a major league way. I created this blogging course in under a day. Imagine that? 6 hours of recordings and oodles of blogging knowledge, packaged into a course that I created in under 24 hours. Imagine how much I needed to know about blogging and how confident and clear I had to be in myself, to ship in 24 hours? I go with what I know; sure doesn’t hurt me.
But when you pick a new blogging niche you have no knowledge of, it takes you 2 months to create and ship the course. Not good. There is the quick, and the dead, in the blogging world. We need be patient, persistent and generous to succeed online but in the same regard, adding years to your learning curve by deviating from what you know is a foolish blogging idea. Why? Go with what you know to prosper mightily over the long haul and to hit the ground running.
But Is It Worth the Time?
One of my favorite check up blogging activities involves asking if some blogging action is worth the time. Someone may ask me to do something to benefit them. Sometimes, I do it. But often, it is not worth the time I would put into the action. Why? My time is precious. All time is precious. Thinking how a specific action leverages your presence in a specific amount of time gives you clarity in making a decision.
Someone may ask me to guest post on a blog completely out of my niche. Is it worth the time? Almost always, nope. But even if I do it once I likely never do it again because I only have so much time daily to work with, and I cannot spend 1 second trying to connect with an audience who has zero interest in what I have to offer. Just my gig. I have too much to do daily, to do anything otherwise. The secret for any new blogger is to learn this time posture tip and to put it into action before your schedule gets filled with clients and speaking to customers and creating and connecting. New bloggers believe they possess all the time in the world but this ain’t true. New bloggers need be as ruthless with their time or else other people will trample all over their time.
Imagine if someone asks you to self-publish an eBook on an unknown platform because the person enjoys reading eBooks on the platform. Would it be worth the 3 hours it took to write and proofread and ship the eBook to put it on a platform for one person? Nope. Waste of time. But you would be surprised at how many new bloggers or struggling bloggers make this foolish decision, choosing to waste their time for one person with weird, exotic tastes. What WOULD be worth your time? Write the eBook, self-publish on Amazon and gain access to an audience of hundreds of millions of people. This is smart use of your time because 3 hours of work gives you access to millions of people. Do you see why I promote my Amazon eBooks all day long?
Speaking of, buy my eBook:
because this read melds perfectly with the topic of this blog post. We need turn down or release certain online partnerships that do not resonate with our blog, brand, schedule and overall energy. I released a few of these over the years because I was not resonant with the gig. Accepting out of a sense of guilt, or, loss of opportunity-money, would have completely wasted my time. I would have needed to own that one, big time, because if you say “yes” to an opportunity you do not vibe with, you waste time every split second you engage with the business partner, or, in the business opportunity itself.
Check your value filter. What do you most value? Before you do anything with your blog, ensure this activity aligns with your values. I value writing to help people, I value promoting my eBooks and I value promoting my course, too. Which is why you see me guest posting here and on a gazillion other blogs while publishing 5 or more posts to Blogging From Paradise these days. I spend time on what I value to help more folks, to succeed and to have fun enjoying the ride.
Do the same before you decide to engage in any blogging activity.
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