I published a post on my blog recently about how to identify and slay blogging limiting beliefs.
A few reader comments nudged me to write this post.
I suffered from a destructive, self-sabotaging, horrific limiting beliefs for a good 6 years of my online career.
Clinging to this limiting belief:
- handcuffed me
- made me work myself into sickness
- created extended failure
- frustrated me
- destroyed my creative talents
- drowned out my intuition
Killing this limiting belief helped me:
- land features on some of the world’s most famous blogs
- write and self-publish 126 eBooks
- tell my authentic, inspired story
- travel the world as an island hopping pro blogger
What is it:
Underdog Syndrome: seeing yourself as an underdog who needs to overcome insurmountable odds to taste sweet blogging success.
I saw myself as the ultimate blogging underdog for nearly 6 years of my blogging career.
I was the bum, broke security guard from Jersey trying to make good.
Unfortunately, when you see yourself as an underdog you subconsciously:
- create obstacles for yourself
- repel money
- repel profitable ideas
- repel successful influencers
- fail for years
- experience some success, but with a constant, continual struggle
I had some sweet success online over this 6 year stretch.
But with continual struggles.
I clawed like a wolverine to make ends meet.
I fought like a Nepali wild man to be heard.
I worked myself to the bone, getting sick, and almost dying in India because I was trying SO DARN HARD to succeed, to cease being the underdog, to overcome an invisible foe, and imagined enemy, I created myself.
Finally, I decided to slay Underdog Syndrome.
I haven’t looked back.
Here’s how I did it.
How to Slay the Demon
I so appreciate the many successful bloggers out there who do their best to help their readers BUT I stopped reading blogs whose core theme was:
- nobody cares about you as a newbie blogger (you are 1 grain of sand out of billions, so you are the ultimate underdog)
- you need to work hard for 5 to 10 years – or longer – to “overcome the odds”
- you need to pore over a single blog post for 10 to 15 hours – or longer – or else it’ll be average at best, or pure garbage, at worst
Guys, I admire every successful blogger out there.
I love them, really.
But some top shelf, tremendous, compassionate, empathetic bloggers are simply projecting their limiting beliefs onto you.
They *mean well* and genuinely want to empower you, yet, they saw themselves as the Ultimate Underdog for much of their lives (and may see themselves as Ultimate Underdogs, to this day) so naturally they built their blogs around the core messages I shared with you above (i.e., nobody cares about you, you are a speck in a sea of sand, you need to work yourself to the bone, to overcome endless obstacles, etc…).
If you, too, see yourself as suffering from Underdog Syndrome, stop reading these blogs.
It’s just your career, happiness and livelihood, on the line.
Fill this blogging void with my blog, or similar blogs where creators empower, entertain, inspire, uplift and remind you of the unlimited power you always have access to.
Look at Tony Robbins.
He’s the most famous self help coach on earth and is worth hundreds of millions of dollars because he makes you feel like a champion not an underdog!
- you are whole and complete, as is
- you are deserving of all good things now
- you are worthy…WOW you are worthy!
- Underdog Syndrome is an ego-induced mental state often consistent with bloggers who imagined themselves to be up against impossible obstacles, or whose egos needed the drama to feel fulfilled
- most Underdogs – like the old, unhappy me – have a real tough time loving and accepting themselves
- You choose to see yourself as an Underdog and can stop seeing yourself as an Underdog
The Ultimate Reminder
Blogging is an energy game.
Meaning, you choose to vibe a certain way (feeling grateful, whole and complete, happy, and just plain having fun with blogging) and you’ll attract:
- Eureka moments (profitable ideas, clever ideas leading to viral posts, etc)
- influential bloggers, who you’ll befriend and build prospering partnerships with
- increasing amounts of money and freedom
- ideas for inspired action, and of course, you’ll act on these inspired ideas to free yourself and to free your audience
Tips for Overcoming Underdog Syndrome
- Surround yourself only with loving, empowering, compassionate bloggers (these folks will make you feel like a champion versus making you feel like an Underdog Chump who needs to struggle for years before making it)
- Pick 2-5 bloggers whose lives seem amazing to you, and follow their every post, check out their eBooks, check out their products, comment on their blogs and share their content on social media (learn from them, support them and move into their Empowered Circles)
- Meditate, do EFT tapping, build a gratitude list and follow daily habits to raise your energy, so you can face, embrace and release your Underdog Syndrome, to become the Blogging Champion you really are
Are you suffering from Underdog Syndrome?
If you feel super inspired and like a blogging champion who appears on world famous blogs you can sign up for my course here.
How About Helping Versus Pitching Top Bloggers?
I often get pitched guest post ideas from bloggers I do not know. Although I appreciate the offer I never take up these folks on their offer because I do not know them, their brand or anything they do. No way do I have the time to actually research the individual; I am a busy bee. Another email bites the dust. I either ignore the email or note guest posting closed long ago on my blog, then include a link to one of my eBooks, like this branding eBook.
Who guest posts on my blog? People who generously helped me, asked for nothing, expected nothing and relaxed. Relaxing is key. Bloggers who help me from a chill vibe often befriend me if they practice writing to hone their blogging skills. From there, opportunities multiply fast. Sweet backlinks on top blogs often flow your way. Traffic and profits increases slowly, steadily expand over time. Blogging buddies supply you with blog post ideas through their questions and problems. Everything grows because you helped top bloggers versus pitching them aka asking them for help. Even if you pitch a valuable guest post idea, the guest post idea serves no value unless you publish the guest post on a trusted, authority blog boasting a huge, loyal readership. Pitches seem worthless until content and links actually appear on top blogs, going live and public, for the world to see.
I often advise helping bloggers freely for months before considering any ask or pitch. Most times, blogging buddies invite you to guest post on their blogs. Blogging success flows to generous people because you get what you give. This is one of the advantages of blogging. Give freely, relax, trust in the process and receive easily. Place your needs to the side. Take care of your fellow blogger. Help them out via a retweet, Facebook Share or perhaps by promoting the blogger on your blog. Nobody needs to struggle blogging. Nobody needs to spend 4 hours daily sending blind pitches to blogging strangers. How about this? Spend those 4 hours patiently, persistently and generously helping people in your blogging niche. Help fellow bloggers to earn their trust. Assist fellow bloggers to befriend fellow bloggers. The split second you earn the trust of any blogger, you plant seeds for a beautiful, thriving, warm friendship. Gaining the trust of fellow bloggers inspires traffic and profits to flow to you. Forget the concept of pitching. I pitched 2 people during my 6 years of running Blogging From Paradise. One blogger pitch served as an experiment with an established, pro blogger and the other pitch served as the direct way to guest post for a 2 million member blogging community.
My 13,500 plus backlinks on Blogging From Paradise flowed to me after I pitched only 2 souls. Imagine that for a second. Observe the raw power of making friends, helping people, expecting nothing and being generous. Capitalize on the passive element of befriending bloggers through generous service. Tonight I will spend 90 minutes walking around my neighborhood. During that hour and a half, my blogging buddies will promote my blog and spread my word. Ditto for my 8 hours of sleep tonight; my blogging buddies grow my traffic and profits around the clock, adding an immensely powerful, passive element to my blogging campaign.
Being generous has some serious perks.
Should You Blog About Everything?
Blog about everything? I know this idea may be on your mind. Newbie bloggers especially ponder the idea.
I know blogging about anything on your mind seems like a good idea to new or even struggling bloggers. Maybe you gain mojo because you post daily, blogging about anything popping up in your dome. But this is a bad idea. Nobody should blog about any and every topic for the clear reason that nobody follows a specific blogger based on the blogger’s random thoughts, save world famous celebrities who built up a big following through some other niche.
Imagine a movie star begins blogging. Movie stars boast tens of millions of fans around the globe. Anything the star does, people hang on their every word, right? Imagine the icon publishing posts on a wide range of topics interesting to them. People read because of the star, not because of the wide range of broad topics. But imagine being a new blogger with zero followers. No movie stars read this post. Readers head for the hills the moment you change topics because no jack of all trades bloggers build credibility. Who has the time, energy and focus to be an expert in 5, 10 or 20 niches? No one does.
Blog About Everything?
Humans specialize. Doctors and lawyers do one thing and do it well because where attention and energy goes, grows. Imagine if your doctor delivered mail and picked up garbage professionally, too, working 2 jobs in addition to their medical practice. Would you trust her doctor skills? No. Of course not. People trust specialists because specialists devote all professional time and energy to one venture. Generalists? Nobody trusts someone who tries to master 2 or 5 or 10 skills simultaneously because thousands of other people master 1 skill, in these areas. We follow specialists and trust specialists. Generalists fade away.
If you want to blog about everything just ponder the specialist versus generalist point. Blogging about everything is trying to be a generalist. Nobody trusts you. Even though blogging about everything seems easy, seamless and almost effortless, people stop following your blog on each topic change. Imagine blogging about puppies one day. People who love puppies find your post, read it, enjoy it and follow your blog. Tomorrow, you publish about Chinese food. Puppy readers – who followed you for puppy content – skip the post…..most stop following your blog because puppy fans want only puppy-themed content. You just lost readers, for good.
Change Topics Lose Readers
Visualize the following day; you publish about relationships. Everybody stops following your blog. Perhaps a few relationships-focused folks read the post. But you lose trust the moment you shift topics again. Ultimately, who builds a large, targeted, loyal following, blogging about relationships? Relationships bloggers who blog about relationships 100% of the time. Specialists devote all blogging energy to mastering one topic, spending thousands of hours covering the topic, become skilled and trusted in the niche, build credibility and become successful. All multi topic bloggers blogging about everything fade away and vanish.
The world makes room for specialists. Generalists? Nope.
Pick one blogging topic. Blog about one thing. Focus on one discipline. Be a specialist, not a generalist, to be a leading blogger in your nice. Face your fear of releasing multiple passions to make room for a single passion. I know you fear letting go. I did too before creating Blogging From Paradise.
Google loves specialists too. Google turns its cyber nose down at generalists. I scanned a popular blogging key phrase a few moments ago. Guess what? I rarely note SEO but tidying up one blog post with some details for optimizing helped me reach page one on the search engine. Why? I specialize in the blogging tips niche. Apparently. Google interpreted through its complex algorithms that I published thousands of valuable blog posts on a single topic 100% of the time, virtually. Google traffic rocks. Impress the search engine gods by gaining search trust. Specialize. Stick to one blogging topic. Never blog about everything.
Let go the urge to blog about anything that comes to mind. New bloggers need release this notion to build the foundation for a successful blogging career. Specialize by picking one niche you love blogging about. Be a specialist, not a generalist, to succeed with your blogging campaign.
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Avoid this Blogging Wake Up Call to Enjoy the Journey
Blogging need not be a lesson in harsh wake up calls. You can and will largely enjoy the journey by knowing this: success finds generous bloggers. Let that idea firmly impress onto your mind. Be with it. Allow the idea to worm its way into your consciousness until being generous becomes part of your being. Helping people for free boosts your skills and increases your exposure. Skilled bloggers with massive exposure become successful.
But one wake up call seems to find most bloggers who refuse to learn this lesson. Bloggers need to struggle, fail and suffer because they try to get money and traffic by focusing solely on receiving methods, versus giving generously of their time and talents. Imagine this scenario; a blogger writes and publishes one blog post weekly. Cool. But the blogger sits around and does nothing else blogging-wise for the remainder of the week. Hmmmm…this is not being generous, guys. This is being stingy. Bad move. At week’s end, the blogger did not make a penny of profits. Panicking, the blogger immediately analyzes their various income streams. How can they maximize profits through the streams? What is wrong with their income streams? Did they pick the right streams? Or did they pick the wrong streams? What gives?
Struggling bloggers then spend 2, 3 or 5 hours analyzing their income streams, focusing all of their attention and energy on the GETTING aspect of their blogging campaign. Terrible idea. Why? The reason why you struggle to get is because you refuse to give generously of your time, energy and talents. The income streams? Nope; not a problem. Your lack of generosity is the problem. The wake up call is most bloggers focus heavily on getting when struggling to drive traffic and profits when they should be focused heavily on giving generously. Giving generously leads to greater blogging profits. Instead of writing and publishing one blog post weekly, how about writing and publishing 2-3 posts weekly, weaving some stories into your blog posts? How about you spend 4-8 hours daily generously reading blog posts, commenting genuinely on blog posts, promoting other bloggers and yes, promoting yourself, too?
Put in the giving time to make getting easier and easier. No need to slam into the cold, hard wake up call of focusing selfishly inward, trying to pin your struggles on inanimate, lifeless income streams. You have a giving problem, buddy. Time to be generous. Time to step it up. Write a guest post daily or perhaps, every 2-3 days. Go ahead. Do it. Begin video marketing. Build bonds with bloggers. Help them out. Practice writing. Gain invites to guest post on blogs from your niche. Blogging becomes more fun, more enjoyable and flat out easier if you put in the time, generously helping folks.
Focus heavily on giving. Your star will shine if you generously serve people. On the contrary, blogging and life become so much harder if you obsess over your income streams, analyzing, over analyzing, focusing, wasting precious time and energy on getting, when you should be giving more freely. Blogging feels more fun, too, when you focus heavily on giving, because we were designed to give, to be generous and to serve folks. Doesn’t it feel amazing to help people? Of course, it does. Enjoy the blogging journey and avoid this painful wake up call….plus….you get to sleep in, hehehe 😉
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