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1 Pressing Fear Preventing You from Doing Live Broadcasts

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Fear.

Sneaky emotion, it is.

I knew of live broadcasting on sites like Facebook, Periscope and YouTube for months. But I avoided diving into the live broadcast game.

I cowered to my fear of criticism.

I worried about trolls finding me, criticizing me and exposing me through live broadcasts.

I resisted the fear.

The fear grew.

Eventually, I hit the broadcast button, went live and fell in love with live broadcasting.

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I discuss this concept from a shadowy apartment.

The Live Broadcast Fear

You may hate how you look on camera. You may hate how you sound on video.

But if you are human, and not enlightened, you likely harbor some fear of criticism. Maybe a terror. Maybe a slight tremor. But some fear of being criticized exists in virtually all people.

Hitting the broadcast button for the first time helped me dive into the fear. Not so bad. I came to love doing live videos.

But being criticized by unhappy, unclear folks who projected their fears onto me was the most uncomfortable and direct way to purge the fear of criticism and its surrounding fears I had clung to.

Being criticized is the simplest technique to get over the fear of criticism.

Being criticized does not elicit a a pleasant feeling. You may fight the person. Or maybe you feel embarrassed. Maybe you feel self-conscious. Or combative, or ashamed, or like a fraud.

Whatever the emotions, these feelings arise in a live setting when doing broadcasts, and even though most bloggers keep their cool it feels unpleasant to be skewered in a live video setting.

Accept this Fact

I saw the fun and love I spread through live videos. Sure I saw the traffic, and sales, and comments and clients and sweet increases in all things Blogging From Paradise.

The benefits of doing live videos grew stronger than my fear of criticism, so I started doing live broadcasts.

Some critics tried to roast me. I sat with the feelings, even though I wanted to squirm from the negative emotions I felt after being criticized, and I cleared these energies. Not entirely. But largely.

Clearing a heavy chunk of my criticism fear alerted me to this truth: I am the mirror. I simply reflect back to an individual what they do not like about themselves.

If someone comes along and leaves a snarky comment on Periscope about your alleged low number of views, said individual feels unhappy about some life struggle, in their experience. Their criticism has everything to do with them and nothing to do with you.

Remember; you’re the mirror, not the object of the criticism.

Being with criticism is the only way to make this realization. You need to clear the fear and dissolve the sting to see clearly.

Important Note

Live video is an authentic, genuine, powerful medium for inspiring people, for being human, for being vulnerable and for being open.

Do not misuse this platform by fighting critics, skewering critics or making fun of critics because these people are in pain. Critics fear, predominantly. Otherwise, they would not hide behind avatars and funny names taking cheap shots.

Critics are not cowards. Critics are afraid, and lash out in their terror, at you. The lashing out may appear to be courage, or boldness, but it is false bravado, supported by a house of cards.

Don’t even take the high road. Just be compassionate with critics who appear to toss a volley your way during a live video. Note a critical comment. Move on to the next moment, offering service and inspiration to your viewers.

With practice, you will release the fear of criticism to become a live broadcast and traffic generating dynamo.

Ryan Biddulph inspires you with his courses, 100 plus eBooks, audio books and blog at Blogging From Paradise.

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Face Newbie Blogger Fears Early to Accelerate Your Success

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Do you genuinely want to hit the ground running with your blog? Face newbie blogger fears early. Do not mess around. Do not play around. Never be anchored down by doubt. Face fears, feel fears and you will feel so good, and free, and ready to succeed through your new blog because fear cannot hold you back if you face it, feel it, release it and proceed.

Life as a solopreneur feels fun, freeing and highly challenging because you do not possess the resources of more established entrepreneurs or people working for a company. The #1 tool in your new blogger arsenal is a willingness to face, feel and release deep fears related to being a newbie. Do this; be golden. Fun, freedom and expansive success awaits you because your generosity, creativity and willingness to connect just accelerates your blogging success…yes…even as a new blogger. How cool, right? No new blogger needs to struggle, fail and quit before giving themselves a chance, because fear is the only thing standing between you and what you need to do, to succeed. For example, I routinely tell new bloggers to buy courses or eBooks for due diligence material. More importantly, I tell them NOT to rely solely on questions and answers through Quora for their due diligence campaign because free platforms pale in comparison to trusted, premium resources from the top bloggers, in terms of research materials.

What can you do to accelerate your new blogger success fast? Nudge into the fear of spending money on training resources, feel the fear, release the fear and buy the course and/or eBook. Doing this, you begin taking the course and/or reading the eBook, putting your new knowledge into action, succeeding more quickly. Meanwhile, most new bloggers who refuse to face their fears keep asking questions on Quora, relying on strangers, possibly skilled but usually unskilled bloggers to supply them with non-vetted answers for critical blogging research. How in the heck can you rely on this most crucial of information if you have no idea who offers the answers? Can you see why this method is totally unreliable, for getting your blogging research? A few skilled bloggers offer some keen insight but step out of the fear-vibe into the abundant, successful vibe by investing money in a top blogging education.

If you can either pay for a Harvard education or ask some stranger on the street for their free advice, what seems to be the more intelligent decision? Invest money in expert advice? Or save money to get advice from some stranger on the street who may or may not know what they are talking about? Can you see why so many new bloggers struggle, fearing to invest money in the best blogging advice, choosing to get free, unreliable blogging advice from the general blogging public?

Pay up to play up. Invest money in your blogging education to move higher in blogging circles. Be a fear-diver; keep nudging into fears to better understand how to succeed, feeling and releasing these confining, restricting forms of bondage. Face newbie blogger fears early and often to remove the shackles that hold you down. Doesn’t it feel better to dive into fears routinely so you can accelerate your blogging success, even as a newbie?

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How to Promote Yourself without Bragging and Repelling Readers

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You do know promoting yourself freely constitutes one pillar of blogging success, right guys? Bloggers need to be clear, confident and relaxed enough with self to appeal to us. Who wants to follow someone with low self-esteem? We seek out bright lights, not bloggers slumming around in the blogging sewer, eh? But self-promoting is a fine art for the discerning blogger to master; go too far, bragging your butt off, and your arrogance repels readers. People despise someone who speaks about self all day long because these over-compensating buffoons, deep-down, fear they are not enough. Bad trait in a leader. I figured it’d be easiest to self promote by simply…..self promoting like the dickens.

Example; buy our new course. Yep, Sue-Ann and I plan to make you happy as a blogging pig in slop with our new course. Do you see how I got right to the point? No beating around the bush. I promoted me, and, Sue-Ann, clearly explaining why you need to buy our blogging course….by saying….buy it, and you will be a happy blogger. Promoting yourself through virtually all content you create is the easiest, simplest way to find the happy medium between being a shy guy or shy gal and being an arrogant, boastful, bragging clown. The real secret is to keep promoting self through all the self-conscious, anxious, money-related, appearance-related fears most of us cling to, before we become clear, confident self-promoters.

Put Attention on Your Readers

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Let us rewind for a moment, shall we? Time to review how I promoted myself by putting attention on you, you rocking readers of Blogging Tips Dot Com. I promoted self because I promoted my eBook. I make money every time you buy the eBook. Cool. Feels good to me. But did you notice I asked if YOU felt disgusted, and if YOU wanted to drink up sweet blogging freedom, before I promoted ME? This is one secret to promoting your products and services without looking like a dingbat. I helped you by putting the attention on you, making my self-promotion about you and me. We both win. You access a freeing, fun, valued resources and I access an energy we call “money”. Fair exchange, methinks. I never come off as bragging, being boastful or outright being a cocky jerk because I make it about US. See how thinking about everybody, and bringing folks together, benefits everyone? Cultivate your sense of compassion guys; developing this skill helps you go far in blogging, and, in life.

Be Subtle in Sharing Your Accomplishments

Feel free to share your accomplishments if you feel doing so boosts your credibility. But never be a flat out braggart by speaking about yourself in boastful, self-centered, self-serving tones. Why? Doing so turns off folks because braggarts secretly do NOT believe in themselves, and need that facade of boastfulness to even dream of trying to succeed online. Every braggart is broken. Point blank. Even if you achieved immense worldly success and appear to be happy, the appearance is an illusion, as you do not believe in yourself, and people who do not believe in themselves cannot succeed in leading others. Be subtle in sharing your wins. Be delicate in sharing your feats. Humble yourself. Allow other folks to do the bragging so you promote yourself from a relaxed, chill, attractive energy.

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Why Is a Blog Better than a Static Website?

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First off guys; everybody requires different needs online. Some folks love static sites because a static website checks all boxes for you. Experience sweet success without blogging one bit. Can, and does, happen, quite a bit online for entrepreneurs. But since we blog on a blogging tips blog, you arrived to learn more about blogging tips, eh? Good. In most cases, blogs are better options than static websites for a whole host of reasons. I believe reason #1 is the dynamic, easy to update, nature of a self-hosted, WordPress dot org blog. Imagine wanting to share help via online content. Updating static sites is a slow, blocky, inorganic, pain in the butt process. Nobody wants to struggle just to share helpful content. Do you? Of course not.

Blogging gives you the platform for publishing helpful online content quickly, easily, seamlessly, thru a properly formatted, easy to digest medium. Yep guys; it is called a “blog post”. Think how easy it is for me to write and publish this post in 20 minutes and think how easy it is for you to read, process and use this blog post in a few minutes. We both win. But imagine if I tried to share this information through a static site? Not only would it require well over 20 minutes of my time, the content would be formatted in ugly, not easy to digest, fashion, and neither you or I would benefit as quickly and easily. We both lose.

Blogs offer unlimited branding and monetizing potential due to the rich library of blog themes, robust plugins and monetizing options available via a WordPress dot org blog. In essence, these blogs seemed to be designed solely for the purposes of standing out, offering service and yep, making a sweet online income, too. Not so with static sites. Updating a static site may seem like a pain but trying to customize the site to be a one of a kind web portal, seems highly difficult to virtually all entrepreneurs. Static sites do not boast the same massive library of themes for choosing, to maximize your branding potential. Plug ins? Pulllleese….non-existent. Monetizing potential takes a hit because some affiliate programs turn you down if you do not offer a rich library of trusted content on your static site, and as we already reviewed, updating your static website with fresh, helpful content proves to be a Yeoman’s task. Like, trying to walk this 140 pound dog, around NYC, as I am doing now.

How about the fun factor? Blogging – to my biased eyes hehehe… – feels much more fun because of the skills you learn, the energy spent practicing and the overall sense of fulfillment learning how to blog effectively on a WordPress dot org blog. I have oodles of fun and a genuine feeling of accomplishment learning all the in’s and out’s of blogging, and, I feel so good helping folks through this rich, robust medium. Again; biased eyes here. But for most entrepreneurs, blogging proves to be a richer, more enjoyable experience. Of course you face more challenges and you need to put in significant time and energy to learn and master multiple skills with blogging, but most of us want to enjoy the work, and, we want to work, to render useful service.

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