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1 Quick Way to See If You are REALLY Shy or Embarrassed about Promoting Your Blog



Me in Northern Cyprus spreading the BFP word.

Me in Northern Cyprus spreading the BFP word. Don’t worry; we’ll go on a T-shirt world tour below.


Many aspiring bloggers rock.

They are doing their best to spread the word about their blog and brand.

Even veteran bloggers are doing their best to promote their blogs effectively.

But they still come up short.

Here’s why: sneaky subconscious beliefs trip you up.

Almost like walking on a sea of marbles in pitch black conditions, you will trip, slip and fall again and again until you find firmer footing.

The worst part about tripping up routinely is that it feels impossible to end your failures.

You can’t build bonds with influencers.

Blog traffic feels like water in the Sahara Desert.

Blog comments? A veritable chorus of crickets serenades you kindly – but passively – with each new blog post.

How can you stop tripping up?

By addressing an all too common blogging block:

Being embarrassed or shy about promoting your blog.

Embarrassment, Shyness or Coyness

You may *talk* a big game about believing in your blog.

Maybe you fancy yourself the PT Barnum of Blogging, being willing to hawk your wares like a carnival barker drunk on self-promotion.

But when it comes time to step things up a level, you cower like a puppy with its tail between its legs.

In Istanbul, Turkey.

In Istanbul, Turkey.

In truth, when you have the opportunity to:

  • Submit guest posts to top blogs
  • Get featured on world famous blogs
  • Build profitable friendships with top bloggers
  • Let your authentic, inspired, entertaining writing voice out with each post on your blog

….you freeze!

Because deep down, you feel embarrassed or shy about promoting your blog.

The reasons run from here to Hades to Heaven and back.

Deserving issues. Worthiness issues. Low self-esteem. Lack of self-love.

Lack of clarity about your blog. An ego-based stubbornness to try to do it all on your own.

Since this is not the Dr. Phil Show – although I may be the blogging equivalent (with much more hair, perhaps more rugged looks, and much better abs) – I will not delve into the reasoning part of being stupid embarrassed about promoting your blog.

Let’s just say: You are shy or embarrassed about promoting your blog because:

  • You aren’t clear on it
  • You don’t believe in your blog (I mean, REALLY believe in it)
  • You don’t believe in yourself (I mean, REALLY believe in yourself)

What’s the Big Problem with Being Shy or Embarrassed to Promote Your Bloggy Blog?

Energetically, you are telling readers to: “stay away!”

If you hide away from readers – on some level – readers will hide away from you.


In New York City.

You may see some success. Make some inroads. But you will self-sabotage, implode and reach a serious sticking point if you don’t feel clear and confident in yourself, and in your blog.

Here’s 1 quick way to see if you are – or aren’t – embarrassed about promoting your blog.

1 Quick Way to Call BS on Your Bravado or to See if You Do NOT Feel Embarrassed to Promote Your Blog


Design a T-shirt with your blog logo and URL plastered on it.

Wear the T-shirt out in public.

Easy peasy.

You will IMMEDIATELY see where you are at, clarity-wise, when you begin the design process online.

Then, when you order the shirt, and receive that bad boy a few days later, you will quickly, easily and simply see how you feel about your blog when you:

  • Wear the shirt in public (in very public, busy places, where you get max visibility)
  • Elicit comments from passerby
  • Wear the shirt regularly to get mad eyeballs on your shirt and blog

I felt so excited when designing my Blogging From Paradise shirt.

More excited to don it when the t-shirt was in the mail.

Then when I received it, and prepared to wear it for the first time in public, amid the excitement I felt a little persistent voice in my head:

“You’ll look like an idiot/clown/moron/tool wearing a shirt with your blog logo, your URL, and your face plastered on the darn thing! ”

Of course, I was happy to see this little lack of clarity/belief shortage/embarrassment/shyness feeling arise.

I faced, embraced and released these feelings and dove out of my comfort zone, deciding to wear the T-shirt in public.

A few hours later I was walking around hyper busy JFK Airport donning my Blogging From Paradise walking advertisement.

When I sat down on the Air Tram a Scottish gentleman asked me:

“So, how’s your blog?”

My answer:

“Richard Branson’s writers liked it. I do too. But I am biased.”

10 minutes later I had a subscriber and one more set of eyes on my 126 eBooks.

Beware these Mental Blocks!

While reading this post and pondering the idea of creating a blogging shirt you may say to yourself:

“That’s just not me.”

“That’s not my style.”

“That seems *too self-promotional.*”

The prior 3 lines are blogging limiting beliefs based on some wickedly confining mental blocks you should face, embrace and release to accelerate your blogging growth.

Hey, maybe wearing a T-shirt with your blog logo and URL on it doesn’t vibe with you.

In Cyprus.

In Cyprus.

But it’s well worth doing this experiment to see how you REALLY feel about your blog, when you are well outside of your comfort zone, in the Truth Zone.

Being aware of and letting go these limiting beliefs can accelerate your growth as a blogger in miraculous fashion.

Have you designed your blogging shirt?

How often do you wear it?

Do you feel embarrassed or shy to do this?


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Are You Trying to Rank or Help People?



Check the intent behind your blogging actions. What are your drivers? Some bloggers desperately want to rank, to place articles on page 1 of Google, to drive sweet, passive search engine traffic. Good luck with that. Nobody succeeds ranking until you give virtually all of your attention and energy to helping people with your blogging efforts. The rank comes after the generous help and that generous help often spans years of your life because developing page 1 Google skills is no joke. If it were easy, everybody would rank on page 1, right?

But you would be surprised by how many folks struggle blogging because the focus on rank over help dominates their minds. I never fell afflicted to this common limiting belief because I give scant attention to ranking on Google. Most of me could care less. I help people through my guest posts, blog posts, course and eBooks. My intent is to help people not to try to get traffic and money through manipulating things. Be honest about the big difference between the two because making this shift will improve your life tremendously, along with positioning you to experience increasing blogging success.

Focus heavily on people and little on things to discover the secret of blogging success. Bloggers succeed by generously helping human beings for sustained periods of time. Imagine some blogger who appears to be all over their blogging niche. Study this individual. Guaranteed, this bloggers generously helped people for years, hours daily, through multiple methods of helping people. Imagine guest posting, blogging, broadcasting live on Facebook and podcasting. See how the top bloggers always seem to be assisting people from a generous, genuine energy? Be that person. The tops never obsess over ranking because doing so attaches you to outcomes. Attach to outcomes. Feel fear. Attachment is fear. Any time you blog from a vibe of fear, you will struggle, fail and quit eventually. Top bloggers feel fears but release the energies versus panicking and bailing on generously helping readers. Everybody else panics, bails and tries to manipulate things to get traffic and money, failing horribly over the long haul.

Nobody gets ahead trying to manipulate things because money flows through humans mainly, then, through things which act as receiving channels. Imagine if I sell a copy of my blogging course. Generously helping human beings instills trust in the person who bought my course. Money flows from them to me through Selz, and my bank account, from their credit card or bank account. The things – Selz, bank accounts – are receiving channels, facilitating the sending and receiving of money, but generous service and trust put the financial transaction into action.

Stop trying to rank before all else because dealing with things solely – SEO and Google – moves you out of the realm of reality, into thing-ality. Bloggers who succeed keep helping folks generously and keep promoting themselves, realizing the things are just tools humans use to connect with each other, to help each other and to prosper each other. Focus on helping humans, not trying to rank on page 1 of Google, to uncover the secret to successful blogging….and to uncover the secret of ranking on page 1 of Google.

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Why Blogging Jealousy Is a Damaging Emotion



I spent today enjoying lunch and a hike through the forest with my wife. But like the past goodness knows how many years, I will work 6-8 hours daily….or more. I put in an hour or so this morning. Now I get to work a bit before 5 PM. People love my travel photos. Folks often tell me how jealous they feel, envying our life. We are so lucky! We are blessed. We are aligned. All that jazz. But the same folks NEVER feel jealous or envious of the fact that I worked 6 hours daily for the past goodness known how many years of my life. I tell folks about my workload sometimes; most look at me like I have 3 heads, people proclaiming themselves lazy and definitely, believing I can have this workload because working long and persistently is not for them.

Before you envy my movie-worthy life, envy my movie-worthy workload. Before you jealously bust my chops about my photos in Fiji and Bali, be just as envious and flat out jealous of the 20,000 hours I have blogged over the past decade of my life. You cannot have the sweet fruit unless you patiently water the seed and allow for it to thrive, during growing season. Likewise, you cannot have blogging success unless you patiently, persistently and generously work, to succeed.

Jealousy and Damage

Most bloggers never realize the intense jealousy that damages their blogging campaign. Why does jealousy hurt you and your blog? Delusion, that’s why. Take my Fiji or New Zealand or Costa Rica pictures. Most people who see the pictures envy my life because most folks CHOOSE to work a 9-5 job and CHOOSE not to travel. In the same breath, after expressing intense jealousy at me living a cool life of travel, I advise the person to begin blogging, to engineer a similar life for self and family. In an instant, most bloggers complain about having no time, no time, and no drive to design such a life of fun and freedom. Why? Being jealous of bloggers immediately places you in a “they have it, but I cannot have it,” type victim, non-empowered, weakling energy. If you believe only I can live this life, and envy me, and you foolishly believe you cannot life this life, you make endless excuses to cling to your belief system. Said excuses guarantee your unhappiness and comfort.

If you envy my life of travel, envy the 6 to 10 hours or more I have worked every single day of my life over the years. Do you envy working 8 hours every Saturday and Sunday? Are you SOOOO jealous that I will work 6-7 or more hours today, after being out of the house for about 6 hours, hustling into the evening? Nope. I did not think so. Few human beings envy someone who works generously, diligently and persistently because most people hate doing the very thing that sets them free. Why? Doing the thing that sets you free forces you outside of your comfort zone, to face deep, pulsating fears. Facing these fears seems highly unpleasant. Nobody enjoys facing fears, but you need to face fears in order to grow, to succeed, and to live a life of movie-worthy levels, you being the object of blogger envy.

Stop being jealous. Get to work, admire industrious bloggers who live their dreams, and you too will live your dreams.


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How to Ride out Traffic Swings



Traffic swings occur for every single blogger who ever blogged.

Literally, nobody is immune from seeing traffic stats swing high, low, back, medium and all over, in between. How do you ride out these swings? Blog for the love of blogging and see traffic as an extra, a bonus, or some add on to your blogging campaign. Make the blogging work, the reward. See all else as extra, or a bonus, and you become totally chill in response to inevitable traffic swings. Way too many bloggers become obsessed with traffic stats. Even more make the foolish mistake of obsessing over traffic stats on a daily basis. Guys; this is nuts. How can you focus on daily traffic swings when you know all good, lasting things take time, energy and a willingness to have a vision? Relax. Slow down. Calm down. Trust in yourself. Trust in the blogging process. Good things take time and generous service.

Imagine if Jeff Bezos panicked over day to day traffic and sales numbers on founding Amazon over 2 decades ago? Imagine how doing so would have crippled his campaign? Everybody experiences swings – usually, wild swings – as a newbie entrepreneur and blogger because no growth is perfectly linear. Over time, with generous effort and a blanket trusting in the blogging process, you traffic increases month over month. But day to day analysis is a silly way to assess how you are doing. How in the heck can you honestly make a blanket assessment of your blog over a 24 hour period? It’s only 24 hours! We measure success in thousands and tens of thousands of hours…..not 24 hours. Come back down to earth. Get your head out of the clouds. Nothing of meaning, of lasting value, unfolds in 24 hours. Please be gentle with yourself and be even more gentle with your silly mind because the mind wants fast results but your heart knows; successful blogging is a long term gig.

Check Stats Infrequently

Do you have an absolute blast checking stats? If so, check stats monthly. Allow momentum to gain by generously helping people daily, over a monthly period. Observe your traffic stats to iron out any kinks and to not be swayed by the day to day fluctuations leveling most bloggers, creating a roller coaster wave of emotions in mind. I barely check metrics because if I love what I do, trust in the process and trust myself, the more generous service I put into blogging, the more blogging generously serves me. Simple equation here. Why in the heck would I assess my success based on 24 hour increments? Blogging success hinges on thousands of hours of generous service, not 24 hour blogs of work, right?

Pump your breaks guys. Get uber busy helping your readers by creating as much quality content as humanly possible. Be generous. Focus heavily on giving, not getting, to allow your daily stat checking obsession to dissolve just a wee bit. Blogging become uncomfortable here and there but does get easier and easier the more often you give freely of your time and talents. The challenge is not to panic when you resist checking stats for a few weeks as most folks go bonkers mad, ready to explode, once they try to detach from frequent stat checking.


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