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1 Quick Way to See If You are REALLY Shy or Embarrassed about Promoting Your Blog



Me in Northern Cyprus spreading the BFP word.

Me in Northern Cyprus spreading the BFP word. Don’t worry; we’ll go on a T-shirt world tour below.


Many aspiring bloggers rock.

They are doing their best to spread the word about their blog and brand.

Even veteran bloggers are doing their best to promote their blogs effectively.

But they still come up short.

Here’s why: sneaky subconscious beliefs trip you up.

Almost like walking on a sea of marbles in pitch black conditions, you will trip, slip and fall again and again until you find firmer footing.

The worst part about tripping up routinely is that it feels impossible to end your failures.

You can’t build bonds with influencers.

Blog traffic feels like water in the Sahara Desert.

Blog comments? A veritable chorus of crickets serenades you kindly – but passively – with each new blog post.

How can you stop tripping up?

By addressing an all too common blogging block:

Being embarrassed or shy about promoting your blog.

Embarrassment, Shyness or Coyness

You may *talk* a big game about believing in your blog.

Maybe you fancy yourself the PT Barnum of Blogging, being willing to hawk your wares like a carnival barker drunk on self-promotion.

But when it comes time to step things up a level, you cower like a puppy with its tail between its legs.

In Istanbul, Turkey.

In Istanbul, Turkey.

In truth, when you have the opportunity to:

  • Submit guest posts to top blogs
  • Get featured on world famous blogs
  • Build profitable friendships with top bloggers
  • Let your authentic, inspired, entertaining writing voice out with each post on your blog

….you freeze!

Because deep down, you feel embarrassed or shy about promoting your blog.

The reasons run from here to Hades to Heaven and back.

Deserving issues. Worthiness issues. Low self-esteem. Lack of self-love.

Lack of clarity about your blog. An ego-based stubbornness to try to do it all on your own.

Since this is not the Dr. Phil Show – although I may be the blogging equivalent (with much more hair, perhaps more rugged looks, and much better abs) – I will not delve into the reasoning part of being stupid embarrassed about promoting your blog.

Let’s just say: You are shy or embarrassed about promoting your blog because:

  • You aren’t clear on it
  • You don’t believe in your blog (I mean, REALLY believe in it)
  • You don’t believe in yourself (I mean, REALLY believe in yourself)

What’s the Big Problem with Being Shy or Embarrassed to Promote Your Bloggy Blog?

Energetically, you are telling readers to: “stay away!”

If you hide away from readers – on some level – readers will hide away from you.


In New York City.

You may see some success. Make some inroads. But you will self-sabotage, implode and reach a serious sticking point if you don’t feel clear and confident in yourself, and in your blog.

Here’s 1 quick way to see if you are – or aren’t – embarrassed about promoting your blog.

1 Quick Way to Call BS on Your Bravado or to See if You Do NOT Feel Embarrassed to Promote Your Blog


Design a T-shirt with your blog logo and URL plastered on it.

Wear the T-shirt out in public.

Easy peasy.

You will IMMEDIATELY see where you are at, clarity-wise, when you begin the design process online.

Then, when you order the shirt, and receive that bad boy a few days later, you will quickly, easily and simply see how you feel about your blog when you:

  • Wear the shirt in public (in very public, busy places, where you get max visibility)
  • Elicit comments from passerby
  • Wear the shirt regularly to get mad eyeballs on your shirt and blog

I felt so excited when designing my Blogging From Paradise shirt.

More excited to don it when the t-shirt was in the mail.

Then when I received it, and prepared to wear it for the first time in public, amid the excitement I felt a little persistent voice in my head:

“You’ll look like an idiot/clown/moron/tool wearing a shirt with your blog logo, your URL, and your face plastered on the darn thing! ”

Of course, I was happy to see this little lack of clarity/belief shortage/embarrassment/shyness feeling arise.

I faced, embraced and released these feelings and dove out of my comfort zone, deciding to wear the T-shirt in public.

A few hours later I was walking around hyper busy JFK Airport donning my Blogging From Paradise walking advertisement.

When I sat down on the Air Tram a Scottish gentleman asked me:

“So, how’s your blog?”

My answer:

“Richard Branson’s writers liked it. I do too. But I am biased.”

10 minutes later I had a subscriber and one more set of eyes on my 126 eBooks.

Beware these Mental Blocks!

While reading this post and pondering the idea of creating a blogging shirt you may say to yourself:

“That’s just not me.”

“That’s not my style.”

“That seems *too self-promotional.*”

The prior 3 lines are blogging limiting beliefs based on some wickedly confining mental blocks you should face, embrace and release to accelerate your blogging growth.

Hey, maybe wearing a T-shirt with your blog logo and URL on it doesn’t vibe with you.

In Cyprus.

In Cyprus.

But it’s well worth doing this experiment to see how you REALLY feel about your blog, when you are well outside of your comfort zone, in the Truth Zone.

Being aware of and letting go these limiting beliefs can accelerate your growth as a blogger in miraculous fashion.

Have you designed your blogging shirt?

How often do you wear it?

Do you feel embarrassed or shy to do this?


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What Is Your Blog Post Publishing Frequency and Why?



From time to time, assess how frequently you publish blog posts. Ask yourself why? Sit. Wait for an honest answer.

I publish 4-5 blog posts daily. Sometimes I publish 6 posts. Why? I share oodles of helpful videos, podcasts and articles but on a deeper level, I intend to get my 124 eBooks in a billion hands or more. Yes; I wrote and self-published 124 bite-sized eBooks. Publishing 6 posts daily allows me to promote 6 different eBooks daily on my blog. I also publish 3 or more guest posts daily to share value and promote my eBooks in more spots. Note; that is 3 or more eBook promotions, in addition to all of my eBooks I promote on social media.

Promoting 124 eBooks daily is no joke. I needed to raise my vibe, practice writing and video and podcasting and get clear on upping my post frequency to drive traffic and business through an approach. I see my blog more as a high volume, blogging news portal, like CNN or Fox News, and less a blog for publishing weekly and leaving it at that. Hey; that is just me, though.

You may be different because all bloggers hold different intents and vibe at different frequencies. Imagine blogging once monthly. Today, you set an intent to publish 5 posts daily between videos, articles and podcasts. Seems foolish, right? Few humans make this quantum leap without putting in years of writing practice and also giving substantial attention and energy to energy management, or, mindset work. Never raise your blog post frequency from energies of fear and delusion; burnout and failure await.

But do bump up frequency if it feels fun, relaxing, prospering and generous to publish more frequently.

On the flip side, pull back on blog post frequency if your current schedule feels heavy, tiring, exhausting and overwhelming.

Only you know how frequently you post and why you post at that clip. You know the honest answer. Be straight with yourself.

Optimal Blog Post Frequency

None exists.

Follow your fun and relaxation.

What feels really good and fun and relaxing, but maybe a bit uncomfortable, to you? Run with it. Daily? Awesome. Weekly? Cool. Twice daily? Great. One post, one day, and 3 posts, the following day? Why not? If readers enjoy your content they read your content, keeping up with what they can keep up with. Trust your gut.

I advise publishing at least weekly in most cases unless you publish a long form post monthly ranking well on Google, genuinely knocking folk’s socks off. Why? People forget you as you vanish from the stream for a month at a time. Blogs are news portals for your niche. News should not be published monthly. Weekly at a minimum works fine for news updates.

Making Money and Frequency

In my eBook:

How to Find Buyers Online

I break down how you find buyers for your business online.

Pondering post frequency, money flows to frequent posters and less frequent posters. Everything money-wise depends on your clarity with receiving money and following your frequency strategy because your energy dictates your income. Feel good, and at peace, and relaxed, about your blog post frequency. Success will find you based on your money energy and life energy, independent of your blog post frequency.

Do the inner work and the outer results expand freely and easily over time.

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Blogging Income Tip: How Do You Feel about Money?



As I promote my eBook:

11 Techniques to Conquer Anxiety

I ponder one massive source of anxiety for most bloggers: money. Most of you grew up with money limiting beliefs. Money does not grow on trees. Money is not easy. Money is hard to get. Money is scarce. If you want money, get used to owning and facing each money fear because blogging full time requires you to work for free, generously, for a while, and no human with money fears works for free. All humans clinging to heavy money fears only work for pay. What is working for pay? Jobs. Working for someone allows you to get paid for every hour you work because being employees guarantees payment, per work, per your contract.

Guess what? Blogging is a different animal. Nobody gets paid to be an individual, business-owning blogger because blogging is a business. Business is about building something to boost skills and exposure to where your streams of income yield cash for you. Complete 180 from being an employee because you need face money fears, release fears, and proceed from a generous energy to gain skills and exposure enough to earn a full time income through your blog.

How do you feel about money? Does money feel scarce to you? Do you fear running out of money? Be honest guys. Being straight with yourself allows you to make money because before you make money through your blog, you need to face, feel and release money fears. Why? You never move into actions required to make money being burdened by the heavy fear of losing money, a yoke that saddles most of humanity.

I have noted how Gary Vaynerchuk did 2000 YouTube interviews before he began to get major media and TV coverage. He worked for free for 2000 interviews because he was not burdened by the terror of losing money, vibing abundance and generosity and trust. Most of humanity is so scared to lose all of their money that they never give one interview for free; these people work jobs to guarantee they get money for what they do work-wise, but sacrifice their fun and freedom in the process. You cannot live your dreams through blogging if you have no vision for the future and you cannot create a vision if you feel weighed down by the fear of money loss. How can you dream big dreams if you secretly feel terrified to lose it all? The fear of losing it all dominates your mind, body and actions so you will just work a job to get money and you will treat your blog casually, because your blog does not yield money, like your job.

Of course, your blog does not yield money because you vibe a poverty consciousness and poverty-vibing folks never do the generous giving – working for free, for a sustained period of time – to position themselves for success, a’la Gary Vee and his 2000 YouTube interviews. I have written and published nearly 1000 posts on Blogging Tips. Nobody paid me directly for writing and publishing these posts but the traffic and links and money I gained indirectly through these nearly 1000 posts helped me live a neat life. I began giving generously the moment I faced my money fears.

Expect to do the same if you want to live your dreams through blogging.


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What Few Bloggers Understand



I live a pretty sexy life. I have circled the globe for the past eight years through blogging. Pretty cool, right?

But my blogging duties are seemingly mundane, not too sexy at all and in moments, quite boring. I genuinely love blogging. I have fun doing what I do. But I am also a human being experiencing a wide range of emotions on an hour to hour basis. Sometimes, I just want to go to sleep for a little bit because I feel tired and a bit bored with the blogging process. But if I intuitively know it is time to write a blog post I just write the blog post. In these moments, blogging feels boring and mundane and plain and not too sexy. But doing the seemingly mundane things in boring moments lays the foundation for living a spectacular dream life through blogging.

Few bloggers understand this basic fact of sometimes boring activities laying the foundation for a spectacular dream life. Most bloggers believe I do exciting, inspired and amazing things all day long to live an amazing life. This is 100% not true and nothing could be further from the fact. Blogging is fun for me most of the time but sometimes blogging feels boring. Even when blogging feels fun I am not doing anything earth-shattering or jaw-dropping anytime I write and publish blog posts and comment on blogs and promote one or all of my 100 plus ebooks. Does tapping a retweet button and sharing one of my eBooks on Twitter seem earth-shattering? Nope. Simple. East too. But few bloggers understand simple blogging activities lead to great blogging success.

Most bloggers believe you live your dreams through blogging by trying to knock the ball out of the park with viral blog posts and partnerships with the top bloggers on earth. Nope. You live your dreams by simply publishing helpful content, building friendships with top bloggers by being generous and asking for nothing, and by opening multiple streams of income from an abundant, trusting energy. Each of those steps is simple to put into action but sometimes taking each of those steps feel scary or highly uncomfortable. Nudge through the fear. Take the step. Simple, generous actions eventually lead to spectacular results because all meaningful blogging ventures begin with simple, generous actions. Do not believe top bloggers hit home runs everyday. We hit singles again and again and again and again for 10000 to 20000 hours until all those singles add up to something dazzling over the long haul.

Think in terms of tiny impressions made multiple times daily. I could have tried to write a viral guest post on this blog 3 years ago when I first published posts here. But I just chose to do a solid job writing a simple post some 900 times. Now I have written and published 900 + guest posts on this blog which means on a single blog alone I have 900 links or more, based on the ebooks of mine I link to as well. 900 + links leads up to something pretty sexy and spectacular but it was the simple, generous actions I took daily over 3 years of my life that led to the stunning long-term success. Blogging is doing simple things generously for hours daily for years of your life to build something special and meaningful.

Never believe that top bloggers hit home runs every day for a few weeks before they made it big. Anybody who makes it big does seemingly little things with love and generosity every single day over the course of years of their lives. Imagine 10000 to 20000 hours of doing simple things and you get an idea of what it takes to live a spectacular dream life through the medium of blogging.


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