The spitting cobra locked onto me.
He bobbed to and fro, doing a deadly dance few people ever get to see and live to tell about it.
I wasn’t a snake charmer cockily and confidently lazing in front of a defanged snake.
I was a scared Booley in Bali.
The spitting cobra hissed.
He could have easily projected his venom 10 feet into the air, aiming for our eyes, as spitters typically do.
My Balinese neighbor even shared a sad tale of how her dog was blinded and killed by a spitting cobra.
After a few tense moments and a lethal jab from a spade by my friend the cobra lay on a wall, headless.
He decapitated the snake.
I buried the cobra, dead mother hen and 2 dead baby chicks the following day.
The weirdest thing about this experience?
I learned a brilliant blogging lesson that you struggling bloggers *need* to learn.
Here’s what it is: always be prepared.
Until the moments where you find yourself completely unprepared.
Then, you just need to run with it until you’re done with it.
Or, you need to see any hairy, challenging or difficult blogging situation through, by any means possible.
Storytelling and Blogging
No way in Hades you’d read those prior 16 lines and say:
“Yeah, typical blogger goes to Bali, faces down a spitting cobra, helps his friend decapitate one of the most dangerous snakes on earth type stories to lead in a post….BORING!”
I probably arrested your attention after you read the first line.
I snagged your focus.
Like the spitting cobra grabbed my focus the split second I got within spitting range of this impressive, beautiful and terrifying reptile in a Balinese fishing village.
Blogging From Paradise ain’t always about sitting on tropical beaches and drinking fresh coconut juice, ya know?
Anyway, the story I told pulled you in.
You had no other choice.
You *had to* pay attention.
If you want your readers to lock on like a pitbull grasping a play toy or heck, like a spitting cobra zeroing in on a mouse (or on a well-built, storytelling, island hopping, Amazon best selling pro blogger), simply tell stories and link the stories into your niche.
No Need to Be Exotic
Commonplace, day to day stories are entrancing too.
Everybody loves a good story. And everybody has a good story to tell.
You are human. By default, your life is a story.
Cave men told stories and every human since then has lived and told a story.
Doesn’t matter if you’re facing down spitting cobras or sharing challenging tales of building your blog part time as a single mom of 3 growing kids.
Doesn’t matter if you’re a college student struggling to publish one post a week while trying to ace a challenging major.
It doesn’t matter if you’re a meteorologist, former fired security guard and current world traveler who inspires people to retire to a life of island hopping through smart blogging (yes, that’s me. Meteorologist by schooling. Al Roker, eat your heart out).
Some of my life’s wildest stories occurred during my days as a security guard in a shipping terminal.
Life is an intriguing story.
Every blogger has a story to tell if you can learn to:
- Add details to build a vivid picture
- Link the story to your niche
How to Tell Stories
Observe your life.
What happened today?
Tell 3 to 5 stories – out loud – to yourself, to develop your power of observation.
Here are a few stories of mine from today: I spoke to someone on the train who asked me what I’d say “paradise” is, after I suggested he buy one of my 126 eBooks on Amazon, when he gazed at the back of my Blogging From Paradise T-shirt. I noted paradise is wherever you’re happy, then suggested the island of Fiji and Bali as 2 of my fave islands, where I am pretty dang happy. He suggested I visit St. Kitts and Barbados. This happened on a New York City Subway.
I listened to a kinda out there woman scream about Moses, keeping your money hidden and being evicted from a corner deli on the subway.
I spoke to a deli owner while he prepared a delicious bacon, ham and cheese hero sandwich for me here in NYC. Learned he was from Yemen. And that Yemen was in a civil war. Which I’m afraid to say, I was unaware of. I told him how we visited Cyprus and Istanbul, Turkey recently. We then talked Syrian refugees.
So many stories to tell when you observe them.
2: Add Details to Build a Vivid Picture
Add as many details as possible to your picture.
Read Will Hatton’s blog, The Broke Backpacker.
Dude is a brilliant story teller who vividly takes you through his wild world travels, one detail at a time.
Add details to your daily stories.
Colors, movements, sounds, everything.
You think in pictures.
If you build a detailed blog story you do much of your reader’s legwork for them.
3: Link the Story to Your Niche
Link the story to your niche.
I turned my experience with a Balinese spitting cobra into a blogging lesson: be prepared, until the poop hits the fan. Then, be flexible, be in the moment and roll with the situation.
Connect your story to your blogging niche. Lead off with a colorful blog post title (grab my eBook if you’re struggling to write effective blog post titles).
Develop a connection to transition from the true tale to some super important lesson for your readers.
You don’t always need to tell stories through your blog, like I used to do a few months back.
Just work them in here and there to captivate your readers.
Do you use stories to reel in your readers?
Or are you having a terrible time trying to seize your reader’s attention?
What storytelling tips can you add?
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How to Ride out Traffic Swings
Traffic swings occur for every single blogger who ever blogged.
Literally, nobody is immune from seeing traffic stats swing high, low, back, medium and all over, in between. How do you ride out these swings? Blog for the love of blogging and see traffic as an extra, a bonus, or some add on to your blogging campaign. Make the blogging work, the reward. See all else as extra, or a bonus, and you become totally chill in response to inevitable traffic swings. Way too many bloggers become obsessed with traffic stats. Even more make the foolish mistake of obsessing over traffic stats on a daily basis. Guys; this is nuts. How can you focus on daily traffic swings when you know all good, lasting things take time, energy and a willingness to have a vision? Relax. Slow down. Calm down. Trust in yourself. Trust in the blogging process. Good things take time and generous service.
Imagine if Jeff Bezos panicked over day to day traffic and sales numbers on founding Amazon over 2 decades ago? Imagine how doing so would have crippled his campaign? Everybody experiences swings – usually, wild swings – as a newbie entrepreneur and blogger because no growth is perfectly linear. Over time, with generous effort and a blanket trusting in the blogging process, you traffic increases month over month. But day to day analysis is a silly way to assess how you are doing. How in the heck can you honestly make a blanket assessment of your blog over a 24 hour period? It’s only 24 hours! We measure success in thousands and tens of thousands of hours…..not 24 hours. Come back down to earth. Get your head out of the clouds. Nothing of meaning, of lasting value, unfolds in 24 hours. Please be gentle with yourself and be even more gentle with your silly mind because the mind wants fast results but your heart knows; successful blogging is a long term gig.
Check Stats Infrequently
Do you have an absolute blast checking stats? If so, check stats monthly. Allow momentum to gain by generously helping people daily, over a monthly period. Observe your traffic stats to iron out any kinks and to not be swayed by the day to day fluctuations leveling most bloggers, creating a roller coaster wave of emotions in mind. I barely check metrics because if I love what I do, trust in the process and trust myself, the more generous service I put into blogging, the more blogging generously serves me. Simple equation here. Why in the heck would I assess my success based on 24 hour increments? Blogging success hinges on thousands of hours of generous service, not 24 hour blogs of work, right?
Pump your breaks guys. Get uber busy helping your readers by creating as much quality content as humanly possible. Be generous. Focus heavily on giving, not getting, to allow your daily stat checking obsession to dissolve just a wee bit. Blogging become uncomfortable here and there but does get easier and easier the more often you give freely of your time and talents. The challenge is not to panic when you resist checking stats for a few weeks as most folks go bonkers mad, ready to explode, once they try to detach from frequent stat checking.
Do you want to make more money blogging by managing my energy?
Buy my eBook:
How Much Traffic Do You Need to Make Money Blogging?
But I do know this; if you ask this question you think like employees. Bad mindset for a blogger. Employees think putting in set amounts of work or reaching some specific goal results in receiving income. 100% of the time, this is NOT true as a professional or amateur blogger. Nobody has any idea how your traffic behaves. Is it targeted, or general? How did you attract your readers? Drilling deeper, it is impossible to surmise that a specific amount of traffic leads to some set amount of income.
Traffic and blogging income are only related in that, if you drive titanic amounts of targeted traffic to your blog, you will make some coin. But other than driving monstrous amounts of traffic – and any blogger asking this question is 10,000 to 20,000 hours away from this type of traffic – you need to understand that making money blogging is about generously helping people, building bonds, creating value, trusting in the process and developing your money mindset diligently, vibing abundance.
Do you want to make money blogging? Stop looking at traffic stats. Nobody pays you like an employer if you register 100 visitors daily to your blog. Stop thinking like an employee. Begin thinking like an entrepreneur. Help people generously. Make friends. Trust in the blogging process. Trust yourself. Think abundantly. Keep helping people. Develop your money mindset. Open multiple streams of income. Money will flow your way if you focus less on traffic stats and things, and more on generously helping human beings. Help people generously, patiently and persistently. Make money. This is the secret to successful blogging. But most bloggers fall lost in a world of stats and employee-level thinking, falsely believing generating a specific number of daily blog visitors results in some blogging employer paying them a set salary, a paycheck, for a goal achieved.
Do not fall prey to this common blogging mindset error in error. Money flows to you based on your generous service and based on your trust in the blogging process. Money can and will arrive but only after you relax, detach, help folks and give little or no thought to money, traffic and other blogging outcomes. The less you think about making money through your blog, the more you help people. The more you help people, the more money you eventually make. Successful blogging and making money is simply about helping tons of people for free to increase your blogging skills and exposure. Open multiple streams of income through which to prosper. Eventually, money flows to you.
Do not get distracted by ideas consistent with the blog post title question. Do not get caught up in blogging money and traffic outcomes. Stop looking for your blogging pay day and get busy helping people freely to learn the secret of effective blog monetizing. Money finds generous servants and money sprints away from bloggers routinely obsessed with making money. Sure you want to promote yourself at every turn. Goodness knows, I am always promoting my 100 plus eBooks and 2 blogging courses in all I do. Plus I promote my audio books and paperbacks, too. But my intent is mostly about helping as many bloggers as possible through guest posting, posting to my blog and via podcasting and broadcasting live. Prospering grows easier the more I help folks freely.
How to Develop Super Human Confidence in Your Blog
Baby steps, my Young Blogging Padawans.
New bloggers, baby step your way to being super human confident in your blog. Being wracked by doubt, with a little wild excitement mixed in, you cannot gain unreal confidence in your blog today. But slowly and steadily gaining clarity gives you the foundation upon which to become a highly successful blogger who feels bold, knowing your blog rocks.
I am about super human confident in my blog. I am developing the same level of confidence in my eBooks and courses, too. Why? Believing in my blog and premium offerings helps me to help more people and I also make more money too, which is neat, considering I live a worldly life.
Follow these tips.
1: Feel and Release Fears-Doubts Aligned with Your Blog
Before you become confident, you need to purge any lack of confidence. I know this feels bad but tis a necessary step to become super duper confident in your blog and in your premium offerings, too. Sit with doubts, those nasty traitors. Be with your fears about self, your writing ability and your blog presentation. Feel these unpleasant energies. Clear the energies. Proceed from a clearer, more confident, space. Confidence is borne of clearing a lack of confidence. Do messy energy work to become uber confident in your blog and in your blogging abilities.
2: Surround Yourself with Loving Bloggers
Loving, caring, compassionate bloggers see brilliance in you when you cannot seem to see it in yourself. Although all confidence issues flow inside-out, you need a network of supportive people around you who believe in you, versus being around haters or negative nellies. Never, ever, ever surround yourself with poverty conscious, failure conscious bloggers. Are you running a cyber charity? Are you a therapist? No! Negative people stuck in fear and failure throw negative cross currents into your being, shaking your already fragile confidence in your blog.
Hang with folks who believe in you and who believe in your blog. Pros share where and how you can improve but they always believe in someone who follows their dreams, and will instill that faith in you, and in your blog, too.
3: Write Your Butt Off and Publish Content Like the Dickens
Writing and publishing content is like breathing to me. I do not lose confidence in my ability to breathe because this is an automatic, auto-pilot, process. I just breathe without thinking about it. Ditto for writing and blogging. I wrote and blogged for 20,000 to 30,000 hours so now it is an automatic, easy process I have super human confidence in. I do not even think about it because I do it routinely, automatically, on a type of auto-pilot borne of making writing and blogging a habit.
If someone criticizes my blog, it is like someone criticizing my breathing; sounds weird, or funny, but it stirs me not, because I have equal confidence in each.
4: Do Energy Work
I do not play around; 3-4 hours of energy work daily allowed me to face, feel and release blog doubts, to become the clear, confident blogger I am today. Consider meditating, or doing yin yoga, or doing Kriya yoga, and power walking. Or do it all. I spend 3-4 hours doing each – collectively – daily, to expand my awareness so I can feel and clear doubts and so I can blog mainly from an abundant, generous, relaxed, detached vibe.
Be confident guys. Believe in your blog. Follow these 4 tips to succeed and to become super human confident in your blog.
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