Yesterday I trawled comments on a well-read blog.
Most contributors kept things positive. A few railed about the blog post. Some felt aspects of the post were unfair to other bloggers. Lots of complaining. Blaming. Finger pointing. I barely read 2 sentences before I closed out the post to move on.
The post author and majority of commentors were moving higher in blogging circles. But the few dissentors were spiraling down, slamming into that resistance one faces when you spent time complaining with complainers.
There is no way you can move up in blogging circles and impress the big dawgs of your blogging niche if you devote your precious time and energy to people lower on the energy scale. This is not a judgment. Nor is it a bad thing per se. Because most folks hang with complainers out of a sense of trying to save them, or to be a shoulder to cry on, or to simply commiserate with angry, failing bloggers, believing they are offering some valued service.
Nothing can be further from the truth.
The worst thing you can do as an aspiring blogger is to hang with energetic bottom feeders because they will pull you down.
The best thing you can do as an aspiring blogger who wants to move up in circles is to end relationships with:
- complaining bloggers
- whining bloggers
- blaming bloggers
The easiest way to rise is to release anchors that hold you down.
The easiest way to impress successful bloggers is to rise up, moving up in blogging circles by networking primarily with successful bloggers.
This feels uncomfortable in the beginning. Hanging out with struggling, complaining bloggers feels safe and comfortable, like home, even if the home is miserable and dingy.
Letting go this lower energy crowd feels scary because they are apt to criticize you, to complain about you, to guilt you and to do whatever they can do to make sure their commiserating blogging drinking buddy comes back home.
Resist the urge to sprint back to the comfortable, familiar and miserable.
Move up in blogging circles quickly.
Kick the energetic bottom feeders to the curb.
What about Struggling but Well-Intentioned Bloggers?
I would not cut bonds with struggling but well-meaning bloggers who are dreaming big. These folks are higher energy, not complaining or bemoaning or blaming or whining, so they are good money, friendship-wise. I would however primarily surround yourself with the happiest, most successful, most-established bloggers in your niche.
If you’re a blogging tips blogger this means Zac Johnson and Darren Rowse and Jeff Goins and Jeff Bullas. Make money online bloggers would hang primarily with John Chow and Pat Flynn.
Hang with folks you emulate. Let go the lower energies to make room for higher energies.
The Pain Point
If you are having a terrible time getting featured on top blogs, or any blog for that matter, you may be disgusted with your blogging campaign. Frustration sets in. You talk yourself out of submitting guest posts or pitching bloggers because you will fail to get your post accepted, anyway. Waste of time in your mind.
How You Get Past this Pain Point
Let go the lower energy blogging crowd. The complainers. The whiners. The bloggers who feel nothing is fair, and blames others for their failures.
Latch on to the most successful bloggers in your niche, commenting on their blogs, leaning on them, learning from them, promoting them, helping them and assisting them.
Learn from the big dawgs. Work your way up in blogging circles. Enter into profitable partnerships. Make friends with top bloggers. Guest post on each other’s blogs. Make more money. Drive more traffic. Render greater service.
Let go the anchors to soar higher than you ever dreamed you can soar.