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1 Way to Avoid the Unpleasant Feeling of Being a Blogging Fraud

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Guess I gotta walk my talk, right?

I made the bold move of filming a Facebook Live Broadcast in the middle of Bangkok, Thailand this morning.

The guy who preaches moving out of your comfort zone regularly definitely exited his comfort zone doing a live video in a bustling place filled with curious Thai folks, wondering what this farang was up to.

The internet connection gets spotty sometimes. Video quality may suffer because of that.

But I dive into a key topic for new and struggling bloggers.

Watch the video if you want to see me delving into the topic in Bangkok, Thailand:

Many bloggers struggle because they see themselves as frauds.

Like liars who have no tangible results reflecting success back to them.

How can they teach people how to succeed if they get 4 visitors a day to their blogs?

Clinging to this fear destroys their blog, creating a vicious cycle of making excuses, dissolving your cred, not publishing posts, all leading to blogging oblivion.

Not a good look.

I know one way to get around the feeling of being a blogging fraud.

Link to trusted sources.

Link to new blogging buddies.

Link to old blogging buddies.

This ain’t about you gaining cred as much as it’s about getting clearer on value you bring to the table.

Example; new bloggers with little traffic and zero profits results-wise may feel like frauds. Or not the best teachers.

Linking to 1, 2 or 3 trusted blogging sources – being established pros in their niches – can help you get clear on the value you bring to the blogging table. Maybe you haven’t retired to a life of island hopping through blogging but Ryan Biddulph has. Even if he blogs in 3rd person sometimes it helps to reference his blog if you write about how to retire to a life of travel through blogging.

Pick established pros related to the topic you cover. Linking to their blog helps you feel credible and capable because these bloggers know specifically what it takes to succeed. Power of association.

Google also loves blog posts linked to authority, related sites. Builds serious link juice. This is an added benefit of linking to trusted sites.

But make it about feeling confident and clear on your blogging message because you’re referencing top bloggers who successfully put these concepts into action for years.

Dissolving the Fraud Feeling Leads to Greatness

Fabulously successful bloggers are human. Said humans may doubt themselves – however rarely – because we all have fears.

The top bloggers doubt themselves rarely though. They could never succeed wildly if they saw themselves as frauds because the fear-energy behind feeling you’re a fraud tells readers to stay away from you.

Dissolving this fraud energy became easy for me when I focused on having fun blogging and helping folks. Linking to successful bloggers persistently became easier when I wasn’t concerned with proving myself or my blog worthy and focused mainly on shouting out other bloggers.

Following the Golden Rule of blogging – promoting successful bloggers as much as you promote yourself – leads to an avalanche of blogging benefits. Dissolving the fraud fear is one of many sweet results of linking to top bloggers throughout your blog posts.

Be Transparent

Are you struggling with your blog?

Share your struggles. Don’t bemoan your blogging failures. But do share how you are learning how to blog successfully to feel clear, transparent and authentic in all you do.

Never, ever, ever fake it until you make it because this vibe reeks of inauthentic energies.

Focus instead of sharing your story and add links to pro bloggers bolstering the points made in the blog post.

Explain how you’re learning from these blogging big dawgs to feel good about teaching folks.

Example; if you’re sharing how to build a rocking blog, consider linking to blogging pros like my friend Matthew Loomis at Build Your Own Blog. Seeing how he succeeded by sticking the fundamentals you’re sharing helps you feel like a pro even before you see pro results, and your readers will feel your clear, confident vibe.

Your Turn

Do you ever feel like a blogging fraud?

What have you done to address this issue?

How are you getting clear on your blogging value so you feel credible and trustworthy?

Have you looked past this strategy of promoting top bloggers on your blog?

 

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How Most People Think Blogging Is and How it REALLY Is

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I love my gig. Right now, I blog from beautiful NYC. Quick 9 day trip to Manhattan. Can you imagine how fun and freeing this life is? Circling the globe, seeing places like Fiji, Bali and Thailand, experiencing these spots for years at a time? Amazing journey indeed. I feel appreciative of this fun, freeing life. I also know how most people think my life goes; write a few words, tap a publish button, make money, soar off to Fiji for 4 months. Most human beings cling to a terribly flawed aspect of their personality; ego. Ego sees free people and assumes, to preserve itself, how freedom must be an easy, comfortable journey for other people to take, because ego KNOWS freedom has not been an easy, comfortable objective, for ego.

Most human beings vibe from a dominant energy of fear so most human beings see illusions, appearances, NOT reality, a magic trick, something not REALLY happening. Most humans see me living in Thailand for months and see the illusion of me spending 2 hours to publish a post, seeing me making money, then, flying to Thailand. What fear-filled folks cannot see is the truth of this: me blogging for 5,000 hours – or more – through ups and downs, highs and lows, love and fear, peace and terror, and an even wider range of emotions….to live a life of blogging in Thailand for months at a time. The truth, the reality, of how blogging really is: blog for thousands of hours, make little or no money, then, after blogging for thousands of hours from a generous, calm, trusting, abundant vibe, feeling deep fears here and there along the way, the money flows in freely and you get to circle the globe whenever you want to circle the globe.

Take a look at this picture of me in Lyttelton, New Zealand:

Most people see an illusion: “Ryan is SO lucky! He gets to spend 2 months in New Zealand! I wish I had his life!”

The few human beings on earth who see the truth see this: “That guy lives an amazing life, being in New Zealand for 2 months, because he blogged for 10,000 hours, often times, when things did not appear to be coming together, outlook, appearing bleak.”

Truth seers are rare birds, folks. Why do you think I spend 3 or more hours daily meditating, doing yoga and exercising? I stabilize my vibe, uncover and purge illusory-producing fears and see the truth, more often than not. You need to see the truth to taste freeing, sweet blogging success. Can you taste my life? Imagine how it’d feel to live in NYC for a week? Imagine how it’d feel to live in Bali for 6 months? Fun, eh? Freeing, right? Of course you’d feel free, circling the globe, changing time zones like people change their minds. But to live this fun, freeing life, you have to live the truth of blogging for hundreds to thousands of generous, trusting hours, before you live the life, and, before you experience this level of fun and freedom. Most humans mean well but totally get caught up in the illusion, not seeing the truth because they fill their minds with fears, creating the insanity of luck and the delusion of envy, and the crazy, mentally ill, concept that you can live an amazingly fun, freeing life with a few hours, a few weeks or a few months of lazy blogging effort.

Do you want to step up to the blogging big time? Step away from most people. See the truth. This blogging gig takes serious effort and serious time. Most people live in delusion, in an illusion of fear. You know better. You know how blogging REALLY is. Sure blogging feels scary in moments but the ride feels largely fun and freeing when you follow your fun, generously help people and trust in yourself, and, trust in the blogging process. I know you’re up it!

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Face Newbie Blogger Fears Early to Accelerate Your Success

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Do you genuinely want to hit the ground running with your blog? Face newbie blogger fears early. Do not mess around. Do not play around. Never be anchored down by doubt. Face fears, feel fears and you will feel so good, and free, and ready to succeed through your new blog because fear cannot hold you back if you face it, feel it, release it and proceed.

Life as a solopreneur feels fun, freeing and highly challenging because you do not possess the resources of more established entrepreneurs or people working for a company. The #1 tool in your new blogger arsenal is a willingness to face, feel and release deep fears related to being a newbie. Do this; be golden. Fun, freedom and expansive success awaits you because your generosity, creativity and willingness to connect just accelerates your blogging success…yes…even as a new blogger. How cool, right? No new blogger needs to struggle, fail and quit before giving themselves a chance, because fear is the only thing standing between you and what you need to do, to succeed. For example, I routinely tell new bloggers to buy courses or eBooks for due diligence material. More importantly, I tell them NOT to rely solely on questions and answers through Quora for their due diligence campaign because free platforms pale in comparison to trusted, premium resources from the top bloggers, in terms of research materials.

What can you do to accelerate your new blogger success fast? Nudge into the fear of spending money on training resources, feel the fear, release the fear and buy the course and/or eBook. Doing this, you begin taking the course and/or reading the eBook, putting your new knowledge into action, succeeding more quickly. Meanwhile, most new bloggers who refuse to face their fears keep asking questions on Quora, relying on strangers, possibly skilled but usually unskilled bloggers to supply them with non-vetted answers for critical blogging research. How in the heck can you rely on this most crucial of information if you have no idea who offers the answers? Can you see why this method is totally unreliable, for getting your blogging research? A few skilled bloggers offer some keen insight but step out of the fear-vibe into the abundant, successful vibe by investing money in a top blogging education.

If you can either pay for a Harvard education or ask some stranger on the street for their free advice, what seems to be the more intelligent decision? Invest money in expert advice? Or save money to get advice from some stranger on the street who may or may not know what they are talking about? Can you see why so many new bloggers struggle, fearing to invest money in the best blogging advice, choosing to get free, unreliable blogging advice from the general blogging public?

Pay up to play up. Invest money in your blogging education to move higher in blogging circles. Be a fear-diver; keep nudging into fears to better understand how to succeed, feeling and releasing these confining, restricting forms of bondage. Face newbie blogger fears early and often to remove the shackles that hold you down. Doesn’t it feel better to dive into fears routinely so you can accelerate your blogging success, even as a newbie?

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How to Promote Yourself without Bragging and Repelling Readers

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You do know promoting yourself freely constitutes one pillar of blogging success, right guys? Bloggers need to be clear, confident and relaxed enough with self to appeal to us. Who wants to follow someone with low self-esteem? We seek out bright lights, not bloggers slumming around in the blogging sewer, eh? But self-promoting is a fine art for the discerning blogger to master; go too far, bragging your butt off, and your arrogance repels readers. People despise someone who speaks about self all day long because these over-compensating buffoons, deep-down, fear they are not enough. Bad trait in a leader. I figured it’d be easiest to self promote by simply…..self promoting like the dickens.

Example; buy our new course. Yep, Sue-Ann and I plan to make you happy as a blogging pig in slop with our new course. Do you see how I got right to the point? No beating around the bush. I promoted me, and, Sue-Ann, clearly explaining why you need to buy our blogging course….by saying….buy it, and you will be a happy blogger. Promoting yourself through virtually all content you create is the easiest, simplest way to find the happy medium between being a shy guy or shy gal and being an arrogant, boastful, bragging clown. The real secret is to keep promoting self through all the self-conscious, anxious, money-related, appearance-related fears most of us cling to, before we become clear, confident self-promoters.

Put Attention on Your Readers

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How to NOT Waste Time Online

Let us rewind for a moment, shall we? Time to review how I promoted myself by putting attention on you, you rocking readers of Blogging Tips Dot Com. I promoted self because I promoted my eBook. I make money every time you buy the eBook. Cool. Feels good to me. But did you notice I asked if YOU felt disgusted, and if YOU wanted to drink up sweet blogging freedom, before I promoted ME? This is one secret to promoting your products and services without looking like a dingbat. I helped you by putting the attention on you, making my self-promotion about you and me. We both win. You access a freeing, fun, valued resources and I access an energy we call “money”. Fair exchange, methinks. I never come off as bragging, being boastful or outright being a cocky jerk because I make it about US. See how thinking about everybody, and bringing folks together, benefits everyone? Cultivate your sense of compassion guys; developing this skill helps you go far in blogging, and, in life.

Be Subtle in Sharing Your Accomplishments

Feel free to share your accomplishments if you feel doing so boosts your credibility. But never be a flat out braggart by speaking about yourself in boastful, self-centered, self-serving tones. Why? Doing so turns off folks because braggarts secretly do NOT believe in themselves, and need that facade of boastfulness to even dream of trying to succeed online. Every braggart is broken. Point blank. Even if you achieved immense worldly success and appear to be happy, the appearance is an illusion, as you do not believe in yourself, and people who do not believe in themselves cannot succeed in leading others. Be subtle in sharing your wins. Be delicate in sharing your feats. Humble yourself. Allow other folks to do the bragging so you promote yourself from a relaxed, chill, attractive energy.

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