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What To Do When People Aren’t Nice



It’s a dirty fact of the Web: When you combine anonymity with an instant global voice, which the Internet does perfectly, you’re going to run into a lot of jerks.

It is amazing how quickly common sense and basic courtesy get thrown out the window as people people call one another names, tell lies, spread rumors and do whatever they can to hurt the people on the other side of the connection. It is sad, frustrating and petty. However, it is all too easy to do when you forget that there are human beings at the other end of every computer.

Still, whether you are a casual blogger or a massively wealthy professional blogger, you’re going to run into people who don’t like you and make that known both off and on your site.

As such, it is important to know how to handle such situations so you avoid letting them drag both you and your work down to their level.

1. Keep Your Comments Civil

The first and most important place to start is on your own site, especially in your own comments or your own forum if you have one.

It is important to require that all user-uploaded content meet criteria for your site. This means not only ensuring that it isn’t spam, but also that it is civilized and respectful.

On my sites, I have a rule that it is acceptable to express any viewpoint that is on topic, but personal attacks are strictly forbidden. It is one thing to argue the merits of a viewpoint, but another to attack the people expressing them.

If a comment or a post crosses the line, delete it or edit it as appropriate and, whatever you do, do not show any favoritism for commenters you agree with. Keeping an even keel is crucial.

If you don’t allow personal attacks on your site, you immediately go a long way to making your site a better place for all commenters, not just yourself as an author.

2. Delete Emails and IMs

Though it seems most who want to harass enjoy doing so in a public sphere, some will also use email and IM to annoy bloggers or others on the Web they do not like.

The simplest solution to these unwanted messages is to ignore them. If they become too harassing, you can filter out the incoming emails and/or blog the IM accounts being used. If the person continues to be harassing and/or becomes threatening, you can look at the email headers to discover who their ISP and mail providers are and, if needed, notify them of the abuse.

However, the main thing is to not engage back. If someone has already contacted you with a tone that shows an intent to harass and annoy, any attempt to reason or make amends will likely just fan the flames and draw out the incident.

3. On Other Sites

In addition to comments and emails, some will also take the opportunity to post colorful and interesting opinions at other sites, either using forums or their own blogs.

These are tough situations to deal with because, even if the harsh words amount to libel, there is very little one can do about it. Unlike with copyright, there is no way to secure removal of libelous content as hosts, under U.S. law, have no obligation to do so.

The only response in these cases is, if possible, to file suit.

If the work is posted on a community site, such a forum, you might be able to get it removed by contacting the admins. Likely they have community guidelines similar to the ones I mentioned for blog comments. However, if they refuse a polite request to do so, there isn’t much more one can do.

Once again though, engaging and responding is almost certainly a bad idea. Once someone has already thrown good manners and respect to the wind, any attempt to explain, correct or interact is only going to make things worse.

4. Developing a Thick Skin

One of the most important things any blogger can develop resilience to insults, especially if they are going to be involving themselves in any political controversies.

Sadly, there is no real key or secret to developing a tough exterior. Some of it is a matter of nature, certain people seem to take such insults better than others, but much of it is learning how to walk away from a confrontation and distance yourself mentally from those who try to hurt you.

If you find yourself getting emotionally invested in a dispute, it’s best to end it there and walk away. Sometimes, for your own sanity, it is best to allow the other person to get the last word.

Your pride has to take a back seat to your overall happniess.

5. The Most Important Thing

In the end, don’t worry too much about how trolls and those who hate you will affect other’s opinions of you. Even if you run a business, everyone expects a few negative reviews.

The most important things to dealing with those who don’t like you on the Web is to make sure they are in the minority.

If you treat others with respect, create good content, keep your promises and try to do the right thing, for every person who hates you, ten will probably sing your praises. They may disagree with you, but they will respect you and it will show.

Bottom Line

In the end, the Web is a nasty place at times and, no matter how good of a person you are, some people are going to hate you. It’s a fact of life.

The best thing you can do is be prepared for it, understand your rights when you are in that situation and, most importantly, not let it get to you or stop your work, whatever it may be.

If you’re doing something that you feel is worthwhile, then it is too important to even consider stopping it because one person goes overboard with his disagreement. It is that simple.

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eCommerce: 3 Simple Ways to Increase Traffic, Sales and Revenue




For most people blogging is used as a fun and easy way to share their lifestyle or write about their passion. But for some this hobby had become their profession.

Nowadays there are many options to make money with a blog – for example by getting paid for advertising products. Another way is to add your own eCommerce to the blog and sell the products that you are passionate about in your own web store. Creating an online shop can be the first step into your life as a digital nomad or simply being your own boss.

A few years ago, it was necessary to work with a professional developer to integrate an online store to your website. Especially for small manufacturers, this meant a huge investment before they could even start selling their products. Nowadays setting up a web store has become a lot easier and cheaper: Platforms like Shopify can easily be integrated in existing domains and therefore help makers and crafters to start their own eCommerce without professional help. Once you have set up your own Shopify store it is all about increasing the traffic. A bigger reach will eventually lead to a higher number of sales and more revenue.

So, let’s have a look at three simple steps to do so:

1 – Turn your small business into a smart business…

…by adding automation and product management to your website. When launching your business, it might be fine to keep track of the orders in an Excel spreadsheet at first. But since you expect your business to grow it will become one of the most important things to have a management platform in place that allows you to process orders and handle inventory professionally. Therefore, it can be handy to add a production planning and scheduling software as integration to your existing web store. An easy-to-use solution for Shopify-users is the Shopify inventory integration that adds products to your website, manages inventory or tracks shipments.

2 – Make your products sound and look good…

…by adding high-quality images and longer product descriptions to your page. Not only will this make your eCommerce look more professional, but it is also a great way to increase your traffic by reaching a higher rank in the search results. If you are not able to create these yourself, you can outsource writing or graphic design work to freelancers on sites like Fiverr or Upwork.

3 – Don’t stop blogging…

…or get it started if you haven’t done so yet. While it is exciting to start your own business it also takes a lot of time and energy to set everything up. Anyhow, this should not lead to giving up on your blog. Why? Because a growing eCommerce site and an active blog go hand in hand. And remember: The content of your blog should be interesting to your targeted audience and contain at least one thousand words in order to effectively rank in the search results. Here are some examples of the top eCommerce blogs for inspiration.  

…and that is it!

You are now almost ready to start your own eCommerce! In addition to following these three steps, it is always good to keep an eye on your ecommerce competitors. Do not steal their idea but have a look at what is working for them and aim to go beyond that. As long as you focus on your product, the content of your site and a growing search ranking you will successfully manage to increase your traffic, the sales and the revenue of your business.

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Should You Answer that Blogging Question Again?



“Ryan, how do I increase blog traffic?”


“Ryan, how do I make money blogging?”


If I had a dime for every blogger who asked me each question I’d have quite a few dimes. Toss in all the times I observe bloggers asking each question via Quora and various Facebook Groups and you have as many dimes as grains of sand in the Sahara Desert.


I know what you are thinking; should you answer the same question for the 2nd time, 10th time or 100th time? Confusing. One part of you wishes to be generous. Another part of you fears missing an opportunity to help someone who can be a potential client or customer. Another part of you feels annoyed at being asked the question again. Another part of you feels annoyed at embracing and releasing the guilt of ignoring the question.


Should you answer these common blogging questions again and again?




Of course not.


Answering the same, common question more than 1 or 2 times is:


  • foolish
  • an inefficient use of your time
  • ineffective
  • amateur hour stuff


Here’s what I do to:


  • answer questions quickly and easily
  • open myself up to more potential blogging business through possible clients and customers
  • be calm, cool, collected and at peace despite being asked the same question many times


Are you ready?


Write a blog post!


Or write and self-publish an eBook.




If someone asks me how to drive more traffic to my blog I send them this link:


4 Blog Traffic Driving Fundamentals


Or I send ’em a link from any one of my myriad blog traffic driving posts on Blogging From Paradise.


If someone asks about specific income streams for making money through their blogs I send them a link to my eBook:


15 Ways to Make Money Blogging


Or if someone asks how to make money through guest posting I send them this link from my guest post on the blog of the awesome Enstine Muki:


How to Write a Guest Post that Grows Your Business


What an easy, simple, efficient, effective way to:


  • answer a common question many times
  • answer a common question in 1-2 seconds
  • drive traffic to my blog
  • increase my blogging profits
  • help people, and be helped by people through their prospering of me
  • avoid anger
  • avoid annoyance
  • avoid judging people who have no idea how to blog


Fools complain about new bloggers asking the same, old questions. Why does a new blogger ask a question? They have no idea how to blog! Duh. Why anger at their ignorance? Why get annoyed that you need to answer the question again? Write a blog post answering the question. Send the blog post to anybody who asks the question. Seize opportunities to help people and to drive traffic and profits to your blog.


Email Mistake


Do you own Gmail? I do not. Since I do not own Gmail it’d be foolish for me to answer questions via Gmail when I can be answering the same question on my self-hosted blog. I own Blogging From Paradise. I own that online real estate. Answer questions on your owned cyber real estate. Brand you. Grow your business. Increase your traffic. Keep the ball in your court. Have posture.




If I spend 10 minutes answering a question for 1 human I am a fool when I could spend 45 minutes answering the question for 100, or 10,000 or 1,000,000 humans, by writing a helpful blog post answering the question and sending the blog post link to all future folks who ask the question. Plus; when the post goes live, I answer common questions passively, said common questions no doubt in the minds of thousands of bloggers out there.


Leverage. Write a blog post. Do not help one person. Help 10,000 people. Save your time and energy. Make more money.

Matthew Loomis at Build Your Own Blog is a smart guy. Peep his home page. He lays out clear, concise steps for building your blog via his sidebar. You just know how many people asked him the common, pressing, basic blogging questions that he skillfully answered through those clear steps.


He leveraged his knowledge. He answered common questions BEFORE people asked him common blogging questions. Smart! Help a ton of folks quickly and easily. Drive blog traffic. Increase blogging profits. Lower your bounce rate. Improve the amount of time people spend on your blog.


Write a blog post. Send the blog post link to anybody who asks the common blogging question.


Think abundantly.

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Why Cold Pitching and Bartering Do Not Work in Blogging



2 words: nobody cares.

I just checked my email. One stranger who came in cold – as strangers always do – emailed me a reply:

“Is that your lowest price?”

I deleted his email. On a day when feeling less compassionate, I junk the email. Label it as spam. Why?

Nobody cares.

I genuinely care about someone who genuinely cares about me. I do not care much about a stranger who tries to barter with me when he ignored the email where I told him my final, fixed, non-negotiable price. Thousands of strangers have tried this approach. Thousands of strangers get ignored.

Nobody cares.

That was one of the bartering emails.

I received a handful of cold pitch emails. Bloggers emailed me as strangers, asking to guest post on my site. 90% did not even bother to address me by name.

2 words: nobody cares. Meaning, I do not care about them. I delete. I ignore. I move on.

I checked my spam folder to delete the emails. I scanned. 3 more pitch emails popped up in spam. The bloggers pitching through these emails pissed off enough bloggers to ensure; all future emails of theirs land in spam. Try building a blogging business from the spam folder. I dare you.

Genuinely, nobody cares.


Imagine someone knocking on the door of your home right now. Go ahead. Visualize this scenario.

This person wants to sell you a vacuum cleaner. You shut the door in their face unless you are 1 of 1,000,000 people who would actually buy a vacuum from a stranger at your door. The remaining 999,999 human beings either buy one on Amazon or via their local department store.

Save the 1 person, nobody cares about a stranger who blindly pitches their sales services or who blindly pitches an opportunity at the door of their home. Just like nobody cares about a stranger who blindly pitches them a guest posting opportunity.

Nobody cares.

How to Get People to Care

If you want people to care enough to buy your blogging course or to feature you on their blogs, care about them.

If you want to land on Blogging From Paradise just do these things:

  • spend 3-6 months promoting me on your blog
  • spend 3-6 months promoting me on social media
  • publish 2-3 posts weekly
  • practice writing daily; offline

I begin to care about people who care about me generously and genuinely.

You stand out from the thousands of strangers who I do not care about when you care about me. It is such an easy tactic to build bonds with leading bloggers. Simple, too. Care about me as a human being. Ask for nothing. Expect nothing. Pay your blogging dues. Be generous. Be genuine. Be patient. Be persistent. Guaranteed; you will stand out from the crowd eventually. You have to, because generosity is always repaid in some way, shape or form down the road.

My generous, skilled friends get links on Blogging From Paradise for free.

Strangers need to pay my rate. If a stranger tries to barter my rate after I noted my fixed, non-negotiable, price, I delete the email. I may spam the email. People who do not have enough respect for me to read the entire email belong in spam. Landing in spam is the blogging business kiss of death; you will fail blogging for 1,000 years if your emails wind up in spam. The Blogging Scarlet Letter is S, for Spam.

Just freaking care about bloggers. How hard is that? Stop focusing on yourself and your needs and what you want to GET out of me and do some GIVING. Fool proof, simple, powerful way to build a successful blog. Plus you will have the money to invest in sponsored posts so you need not try to barter like a cheapie. Plus you will receive more and more free links on top blogs.

Doesn’t that sound fun?

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