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During a recent flight over the Pacific Ocean we ran into an hour’s worth of persistent, bouncy turbulence. This was rare as most turbulence lasts for seconds or minutes at most.
Nothing severe but the situation turned a little rough at times and the regular shaking and bouncing reminded me that being outside of my comfort zone helps me embrace my fears and grow like a weed.
I used to tense up during light, mild turbulence when I was a flying newbie. Now I remain pretty dang calm during long periods of sustained bumpy and bouncy turbulence and even weather those big, sharp, super uncomfortable vertical dips that rarely occur.
If you’re frustrated with running into blogging obstacles regularly and just want to see more traffic and income take these blogging lessons to heart.
Peep these 4 blogging lessons you can learn from plane turbulence.
1: Being Rigid Makes the Turbulence Feel Worse
I recall my first bout with turbulence. During my first flight.
We flew from NYC to Bali. 23 hours. 3 plane rides. I recall feeling the plane shimmy and shake – mildly – during my first hour in the air. Like a flying newbie I tensed up on experiencing turbulence. A wee bit of fear set in. I was unused to this uncomfortable sensation as I’d only known smooth flying to that point.
Tensing up by planting my feet on the floor and grasping the armrest made everything worse. Being rigid accentuated each tiny shift, intensifying my fear and adding suffering to the situation.
I’ve since learned to totally relax my body and simply move with the shakes, shimmies and dips to greatly lessen any suffering and to dissolve my fears associated with turbulence.
Being rigid on the blogging front when things appear to go South hurts you too. Recently I had an issue with my blog formatting. Then the blog didn’t load. Instead of tensing up and fighting the situation by researching the problem for hours on end or by complaining to my host I just opened a support ticket and messaged my developer.
I went with the flow. The situation got resolved.
When the poop plasters the blogging fan, ease up. Let any tension in your body and mind dissolve into relaxation. Then go with the flow to find the solution to your blogging problem. This both lessens your suffering and accelerates the solution to the problem.
2: We All Suffer from Dips at Times
Unless you are in love with roller coasters you probably don’t relish the pretty darn rare but highly uncomfortable sharp dips one may experience during turbulence.
Even though the dips rarely exceed 5 to 10 feet you swear the plane drops 50 feet or more. Of course this isn’t the case but the “stomach in your throat” feeling leads to wild exaggerations.
Everybody suffers from turbulent dips if you fly long enough.
Just like in blogging.
Traffic dips, income dips, comment dips, social media share dips. Change is the one constant. Even if your blog grows steadily you will note mild dips in stats at times. Or sometimes the dips will be more dramatic, shaking out most bloggers with a poor resolve.
Focus on blogging for fun. Check your metrics as a measuring stick but don’t get heavily attached to stats. These are extra. If anything, metrics are guideposts, not all important end points.
Weather ups and downs. Accept the dips as simply being part of the blogging game.
3: The Shakes and Dips End
You’ve accepted that the turbulence dips and the shimmying shakes will happen. No regular flier completely avoids turbulence.
The next concept to accept is that turbulence will eventually end. In most cases, much quicker than you believe.
Don’t allow the fear of 5 turbulent minutes scare you off from circling the globe.
My recent flight from Manila to Vancouver was an anomaly. Out of over 120 flights I only experienced such sustained steady turbulence one other time, over the Indian Ocean during monsoon season flying from Sri Lanka to Malaysia.
Whenever I experience turbulence now I relax and understand that the shaking sensation usually lasts seconds or maybe minutes. No big issue. Temporary deal.
Ditto with blogging shimmying and shakes.
Don’t get faked out by a shake out. Accept the ups and downs as being temporary.
I spent so many hours flipping out over tough moments when my attention and energy should have been focused on a few second’s worth of blogging turbulence.
Don’t make the common and paralyzing mistake by believing that blogging setbacks are permanent, unconquerable events.
All the dips pass. Like everything in life.
4: Facing Your Fear in the Air Helps You Face Your Fears Down There
I have faced, embraced and conquered more blogging and life fears by experiencing turbulence than you’d believe. The first few times I went through strong turbulence I felt anxiety and panic set in. Would the plane crash? What about that highly uncomfortable dip? Was it coming?
Feeling these strong fears course through my body – and embracing the fears and releasing them – helped me conquer strong fears related to my blogging career.
You cannot avoid turbulence. No way to step outside of a plane 36,000 feet in the air. You gotta deal with it. Ditto for your blogging fears if you want to become a successful, fun-loving, inspired blogger.
No matter how hard you try to dodge blogging fears there’s no way to grow rapidly and succeed online if you intentionally avoid your deepest blogging terrors.
I spoke about this through a Facebook Live video:
Face ‘em. Embrace the feelings, no matter how unpleasant. Release the energies to move into successful blogging actions.
What blogging lessons have you learned recently?
Do You Need to Make a Huge Blogging Shift?
Sometimes, you get bogged down with your blogging routine. Routines feel comfortable, right?
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But blogging is a feeling game like life is a feeling game. All flows based on your emotions. If you feel really good – first – then you take good feeling blogging actions and over time, with patience and trust, see good feeling blogging results.
Unfortunately, most humans give almost zero thought to their emotions before diving in to a blogging routine. Bloggers believe you need to do something or follow a set routine to succeed, to drive traffic, and to make money. Day after day, year after year, most bloggers follow a routine without giving zero thought to how they are feeling, if they enjoy blogging, if they have fun following the routine, and if they feel detached, patient and trusting in the process.
This is the only reason why as of about 7 years ago, 80% of bloggers never made more than $100 during their blogging careers. If 8 out of 10 humans can not make $100 through blogging over 1, 2, 5 or 10 years, 8 out of 10 bloggers clearly give zero thought to their feelings BEFORE blogging. Feel bad, and you see no money. But those 2 out of 10 bloggers who feel really good make lots of money over the long haul.
Maybe it is time to make a shift, guys.
2-3 months ago I made one shift. 1 month ago I made an even bigger shift; quite huge, for me. But what I did differently made almost zero difference. How I chose to feel marked the big shift, then, I moved into different blogging actions.
For example, I faced some deep fears, felt the fears, and instantly, after feeling pretty crappy for a short time, I felt better and better. Choosing to face fear, clear it, and feel better, helped me see things clearly. I tired of my blogging schedule, my social sharing groups, blog commenting and heavy cross promotion. In truth, I hated it. I did have some fun with each for a while but the passion long left me. Since how you feel before and while you blog means everything, my mindset-feeling shift told me I’d have so much fun guest posting. So as of about 3-4 weeks ago – maybe less – all I do is guest posting because I have fun guest posting and guest posting comes easily to me.
Making the shift involved facing deep fears of failure, loss and struggle. I had to feel the fear of letting go lifeless activities for me – at the time – to clear out the fear, and properly release these strategies, and to move forward so I could feel good, then, decide what blogging actions would feel fun and easy and enjoyable to me.
All shifts happen emotionally first, by your choice. After feeling some muck and then feeling better, you clearly and intuitively feel through the next fun-feeling, enjoyable step.
What About You?
Do you need to make any shifts with your blogging campaign? Or do you need to make one big, sweeping, all-encompassing shift?
Getting caught up in blogging routines feels comfortable, familiar and safe, sometimes. But do you feel good before you begin the routine? Do you feel good working the routine? Do you feel detached, relaxed, trusting and like you are cared for, and prospering, while following your blogging routine?
Be honest to make a necessary shift. If you love following your routine, cool. Proceed. But most humans are taught – me included – to follow some routine (no matter how you feel) to get something, specifically money, so you can avoid failure, struggle, poverty, going hungry, illness, and embarrassment. This is exactly why most humans work jobs. Follow a routine to get money even if you feel really bad or terrible following the work-routine; aka, even if you hate your job and it feels lifeless, or soul-less.
May be time for a big shift guys.
Why Comedians Teach You a Powerful Blogging Lesson
Last night I saw a funny comedian perform in Atlantic City.
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Chris Delia charmed the audience with his silly, somewhat absurd, level of humor.
He also explained how comedians need thick skin to become successful. Humor is a very personal, subjective topic. Some people find some comedians hysterical but never laugh at other comedians. As you imagine, bombing feels terrible to most comedians. At least until they develop a thick skin.
I once read how Kevin Hart often waited until 1 AM to work an open mic. Sometimes he waited until 1 AM and the place closed down so he never got the chance to do his set. Imagine how thick-skinned you need to be to not let that bother you? Is it any wonder why he is now worth $150 million? He became immune to criticism, failure and rejection. As a matter of fact, after developing a thick skin, he likely did not see criticism, failure or rejection.
All those evenings of 1 AM sets in front of 1-2 lifeless people or all those nights of being told to go home at 1 AM after waiting for hours to do his act purged the fear of criticism, failure and rejection from his being. Void of these fears, he rose up to being one of the most famous, wealthy and powerful comedians on earth.
Bloggers Need Thick Skin
I once promoted a course to the tune of 8000 page views before I sold one copy. Did I quit promoting the course? No. I developed a thick skin during the process. I did not see 8000 rejections. I only saw meeting and helping more human beings through my blog. Even during moments when I felt like giving up I trusted in myself and believed in the blogging process. Quitting and failure were no options for me. But in the same vein, I needed to be thick skinned to see through criticism, rejection and failure.
I needed to be aware of opportunity amid the appearance of nobody reading my blog. Toss in being patient and persistent in helping folks during my most trying times and you have a pretty thick-skinned individual.
Do Not Care What People Think
Chris Delia shared how he could care less what people thought about him. He dressed down a few hecklers during the show.
Comedians succeed because they care less about what people think of their acts; being heckled, ignored or criticized had nothing to do with their belief in self and their belief in their comedic style.
As a blogger, give no thought to what people think of you. Guess what? You cannot control your reputation. No matter how long and hard you work in life to maintain a positive reputation, you can never physically control what people think of you. I am largely a nice guy 99.99% of the time yet some people genuinely hate me. I cannot control their demons. Plus I know we see the world as we see ourselves so if someone hates themselves I cannot do anything about that self-loathing.
Focus on yourself. Focus on what you think about yourself because this is the only thing that matters. Being comfortable in your own skin aligns you with loving, loyal followers who appreciate you for who you are. Let go everybody else. Critics form an energetic yoke if you care about their thoughts but dissolve into thin air when you could care less about what they think of you.
Bloggers become successful because these few folks who have thick skins shine brightly in a world of thin-skinned bloggers who fear criticism, judgment and rejection. The few who step it up do wonders because we all want a piece of free spirits who march to the beat of their own drum without caring what people think, say or do, in response or reaction to them simply being themselves.
Do You Have an Exit Plan for Your Blog?
This past week I ceased sharing posts in blogging tribes.
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I finally got it; I joined tribes because I feared unless I shared other blogger content, nobody would read my content. I feared if nobody shared my content, nobody reads my content, and I needed to share other blogger content to effectively influence bloggers and people to share mine. Ouch.
As you can imagine, I put in many long, hard hours working a job, NEEDING to be online to succeed with my blog. Rewind. Working a job. Did you see this phrase? I worked a job. I needed to be online to succeed. Largely, at least. Does that sound like a business owner to you? Does that sound like leveraging? Sure I drive some passive traffic and profits to my blog but being honest, I largely worked a job and had a job for much of my 10 years online, and I did not have a pure business so I could step away from my blog and business for months, at a time. Or, forever.
I have more of an exit plan now. I have a blogging business. I am writing my tail off to be in as many spots as possible without relying on sharing tribes and other groups that require me to be online, to social share posts, so other people can social share my posts, so I get traffic and profits. I began to think; what am I doing? I mean, if you love joining social sharing tribes, do it. Nice friendship builder. But you need to have some exit plan with your business and need to see how you can step away one day so it is about a 100% passive income machine – or, so you can sell it at a tidy profit – in order for you to be a free entrepreneur, versus a bound employee.
I am having so much fun writing blog posts and guest posts daily. Plus it is easy peasy. Every piece of content is forever, unless all these blogs vanish or get closed out by all these bloggers. Fat chance. Plus I can drive to Atlantic City today with my wife and enjoy a show this afternoon into evening and my business will still grow from a heavy passive element. Even though I am online writing this morning, all my blog posts and guest posts serve as a passive promotional army for the Blogging From Paradise blog and brand.
Imagine me trying to social share other blogger posts as I am driving down the Parkway? Not happening.
Network. Have fun making friends. Build a rock solid foundation for your blog. But eventually, evolve into someone who leverages your presence so you work a business, not a job. Any strategy 100% dependent on you being online, sharing blogger content so other bloggers share your content and boost your success, is a job, not a business, because you are tied to the online world and have no exit strategy, and a light passive element to your blogging business.
Gradually place less emphasis on networking online. Focus on purely passive elements, like writing more blog posts and guest posts, which last forever. Humans change, quit, fail, change tastes; you never want to be at the mercy of the fickle human beast. Unless all blogs close down, all of those blog posts and guest posts you wrote are pretty much forever.
Focusing a bit more on things – things helping people – helps you leverage your blog and business powerfully so you can make an exit plan and step away from your blogging business for 1, 2 or 3 months. I know bloggers who take vacations for months; everything keeps growing money-wise because they leverage, and are not dependent on people for cash flow, because their system creates the cash flow.
Trust in the process plays a big role too.
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