The old me had a terrible time gaining clarity and confidence in my blog.
Now I walk around wearing T-shirts of my blog, carrying my paperbacks to all corners of the globe, promoting myself freely.
I slammed into years of struggle because secretly I had like zero belief in what I did online. I feared criticism. I feared failing. Sure enough, criticism and failure followed me around for a minute.
It wasn’t until I established a clear, confident blogging direction that things turned around and I saw greater success.
If you see any of these red flags with your blog take a deep breath, own your lack of clarity and confidence and follow the solutions.
1: You Fear Sharing Your Blog with Family
I speak to many new bloggers who fear sharing posts with their family and friends.
This is simply the fear of criticism and rejection manifest. But it shows more than anything that you lack confidence and clarity in your blogging message.
You may use any reason to support your lack of sharing:
- sensitive subject matter
- uncomfortable encounters with family and friends who don’t like your blog content
- the belief that your family will think you’re nuts or taking dangerous risks by doing what you do
In the end, either you feel confident, clear and at peace with what you do on your blog and can share it with any human being or you fear how they will react to the post, which has everything to do with them and nothing to do with you.
Be bold. Believe in yourself. Get clear on your blog.
If you hide the true you from family and friends you will never be true to yourself.
Share your posts with everybody you know. Not 1 to 1, but fear not sharing your latest posts on Facebook or Twitter or anywhere. If somebody has an issue with it the issue is with themselves, not you.
2: You Fear Guest Posting
I feared guest posting for years.
Turns out the fear of criticism was a big deterrent for me but getting to the bottom of things I simply lacked clarity in my blog. I was unclear on my blog’s niche and the value I had to share through posts. I lacked clarity around my income streams too.
Finally, when I trashed my old blog to create Blogging From Paradise I felt like an energetic fog had cleared from around my blog. I could see clearly. I had a special story to share to inspire aspiring pro bloggers. I felt confident in my message. But I need to gain clarity and boldness in what I did online to dive into guest posting.
Do you feel terrified to guest post? Assess your blog. You likely have little confidence in your cyber home and need to get clearer on your niche, message and value you provide to start nailing down guest post opportunities left and right.
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3: You Fear Buying a Domain and Hosting and Premium Theme
For years I felt terrified to buy a premium theme. I secretly believed doing so was a waste of time anyway.
Who was I? A loser who ran a ho hum, failing blog. Even when folks told me my theme looked terrible I either cursed them out or simply ignored their good advice.
I finally spotted the issue: I had clarity and confidence problems. I was not clear on my blog and lacked confidence in my online real estate so investing in a premium theme would be wasted money.
I finally agreed for my web developer to upload my bespoke theme. Never looked back.
If you resist buying a domain and hosting or purchasing a premium theme you need to be fully committed to your blog. That commitment grows if you gain clarity in your blog and increase your confidence in your offering.
4: You Fear Changing Things Up
I hated changing up my blog in the past because I secretly believed that improving my job was a hopeless cause. I’d fail anyway.
I had zero confidence in my blog and the clarity of a captain sailing through a typhoon.
I eventually listened to feedback, honored my intuitive nudges and got clearer and clearer on my blog direction. I believed in my blog and message so much that I was willing to make huge scale changes to become successful.
If you feel unclear on your blog it may be time to change things up. Doing so alerts you to where you can get clearer and believe more in the direction of your blog.
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Are you lacking clarity and confidence in your blog? Why?
Are You Trying to Rank or Help People?
Check the intent behind your blogging actions. What are your drivers? Some bloggers desperately want to rank, to place articles on page 1 of Google, to drive sweet, passive search engine traffic. Good luck with that. Nobody succeeds ranking until you give virtually all of your attention and energy to helping people with your blogging efforts. The rank comes after the generous help and that generous help often spans years of your life because developing page 1 Google skills is no joke. If it were easy, everybody would rank on page 1, right?
But you would be surprised by how many folks struggle blogging because the focus on rank over help dominates their minds. I never fell afflicted to this common limiting belief because I give scant attention to ranking on Google. Most of me could care less. I help people through my guest posts, blog posts, course and eBooks. My intent is to help people not to try to get traffic and money through manipulating things. Be honest about the big difference between the two because making this shift will improve your life tremendously, along with positioning you to experience increasing blogging success.
Focus heavily on people and little on things to discover the secret of blogging success. Bloggers succeed by generously helping human beings for sustained periods of time. Imagine some blogger who appears to be all over their blogging niche. Study this individual. Guaranteed, this bloggers generously helped people for years, hours daily, through multiple methods of helping people. Imagine guest posting, blogging, broadcasting live on Facebook and podcasting. See how the top bloggers always seem to be assisting people from a generous, genuine energy? Be that person. The tops never obsess over ranking because doing so attaches you to outcomes. Attach to outcomes. Feel fear. Attachment is fear. Any time you blog from a vibe of fear, you will struggle, fail and quit eventually. Top bloggers feel fears but release the energies versus panicking and bailing on generously helping readers. Everybody else panics, bails and tries to manipulate things to get traffic and money, failing horribly over the long haul.
Nobody gets ahead trying to manipulate things because money flows through humans mainly, then, through things which act as receiving channels. Imagine if I sell a copy of my blogging course. Generously helping human beings instills trust in the person who bought my course. Money flows from them to me through Selz, and my bank account, from their credit card or bank account. The things – Selz, bank accounts – are receiving channels, facilitating the sending and receiving of money, but generous service and trust put the financial transaction into action.
Stop trying to rank before all else because dealing with things solely – SEO and Google – moves you out of the realm of reality, into thing-ality. Bloggers who succeed keep helping folks generously and keep promoting themselves, realizing the things are just tools humans use to connect with each other, to help each other and to prosper each other. Focus on helping humans, not trying to rank on page 1 of Google, to uncover the secret to successful blogging….and to uncover the secret of ranking on page 1 of Google.
Why Blogging Jealousy Is a Damaging Emotion
I spent today enjoying lunch and a hike through the forest with my wife. But like the past goodness knows how many years, I will work 6-8 hours daily….or more. I put in an hour or so this morning. Now I get to work a bit before 5 PM. People love my travel photos. Folks often tell me how jealous they feel, envying our life. We are so lucky! We are blessed. We are aligned. All that jazz. But the same folks NEVER feel jealous or envious of the fact that I worked 6 hours daily for the past goodness known how many years of my life. I tell folks about my workload sometimes; most look at me like I have 3 heads, people proclaiming themselves lazy and definitely, believing I can have this workload because working long and persistently is not for them.
Before you envy my movie-worthy life, envy my movie-worthy workload. Before you jealously bust my chops about my photos in Fiji and Bali, be just as envious and flat out jealous of the 20,000 hours I have blogged over the past decade of my life. You cannot have the sweet fruit unless you patiently water the seed and allow for it to thrive, during growing season. Likewise, you cannot have blogging success unless you patiently, persistently and generously work, to succeed.
Jealousy and Damage
Most bloggers never realize the intense jealousy that damages their blogging campaign. Why does jealousy hurt you and your blog? Delusion, that’s why. Take my Fiji or New Zealand or Costa Rica pictures. Most people who see the pictures envy my life because most folks CHOOSE to work a 9-5 job and CHOOSE not to travel. In the same breath, after expressing intense jealousy at me living a cool life of travel, I advise the person to begin blogging, to engineer a similar life for self and family. In an instant, most bloggers complain about having no time, no time, and no drive to design such a life of fun and freedom. Why? Being jealous of bloggers immediately places you in a “they have it, but I cannot have it,” type victim, non-empowered, weakling energy. If you believe only I can live this life, and envy me, and you foolishly believe you cannot life this life, you make endless excuses to cling to your belief system. Said excuses guarantee your unhappiness and comfort.
If you envy my life of travel, envy the 6 to 10 hours or more I have worked every single day of my life over the years. Do you envy working 8 hours every Saturday and Sunday? Are you SOOOO jealous that I will work 6-7 or more hours today, after being out of the house for about 6 hours, hustling into the evening? Nope. I did not think so. Few human beings envy someone who works generously, diligently and persistently because most people hate doing the very thing that sets them free. Why? Doing the thing that sets you free forces you outside of your comfort zone, to face deep, pulsating fears. Facing these fears seems highly unpleasant. Nobody enjoys facing fears, but you need to face fears in order to grow, to succeed, and to live a life of movie-worthy levels, you being the object of blogger envy.
Stop being jealous. Get to work, admire industrious bloggers who live their dreams, and you too will live your dreams.
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How to Ride out Traffic Swings
Traffic swings occur for every single blogger who ever blogged.
Literally, nobody is immune from seeing traffic stats swing high, low, back, medium and all over, in between. How do you ride out these swings? Blog for the love of blogging and see traffic as an extra, a bonus, or some add on to your blogging campaign. Make the blogging work, the reward. See all else as extra, or a bonus, and you become totally chill in response to inevitable traffic swings. Way too many bloggers become obsessed with traffic stats. Even more make the foolish mistake of obsessing over traffic stats on a daily basis. Guys; this is nuts. How can you focus on daily traffic swings when you know all good, lasting things take time, energy and a willingness to have a vision? Relax. Slow down. Calm down. Trust in yourself. Trust in the blogging process. Good things take time and generous service.
Imagine if Jeff Bezos panicked over day to day traffic and sales numbers on founding Amazon over 2 decades ago? Imagine how doing so would have crippled his campaign? Everybody experiences swings – usually, wild swings – as a newbie entrepreneur and blogger because no growth is perfectly linear. Over time, with generous effort and a blanket trusting in the blogging process, you traffic increases month over month. But day to day analysis is a silly way to assess how you are doing. How in the heck can you honestly make a blanket assessment of your blog over a 24 hour period? It’s only 24 hours! We measure success in thousands and tens of thousands of hours…..not 24 hours. Come back down to earth. Get your head out of the clouds. Nothing of meaning, of lasting value, unfolds in 24 hours. Please be gentle with yourself and be even more gentle with your silly mind because the mind wants fast results but your heart knows; successful blogging is a long term gig.
Check Stats Infrequently
Do you have an absolute blast checking stats? If so, check stats monthly. Allow momentum to gain by generously helping people daily, over a monthly period. Observe your traffic stats to iron out any kinks and to not be swayed by the day to day fluctuations leveling most bloggers, creating a roller coaster wave of emotions in mind. I barely check metrics because if I love what I do, trust in the process and trust myself, the more generous service I put into blogging, the more blogging generously serves me. Simple equation here. Why in the heck would I assess my success based on 24 hour increments? Blogging success hinges on thousands of hours of generous service, not 24 hour blogs of work, right?
Pump your breaks guys. Get uber busy helping your readers by creating as much quality content as humanly possible. Be generous. Focus heavily on giving, not getting, to allow your daily stat checking obsession to dissolve just a wee bit. Blogging become uncomfortable here and there but does get easier and easier the more often you give freely of your time and talents. The challenge is not to panic when you resist checking stats for a few weeks as most folks go bonkers mad, ready to explode, once they try to detach from frequent stat checking.
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