Getting severely attached to blogging outcomes can cripple your career.
I was fully convinced I was the worst blogger on earth when I sold 4 copies of a book in 4 months.
The book was titled “The Blogging Manifesto.”
I devoted an entire blog to the book.
Got lots of traffic.
But 4 sales.
Halfway decent read, a blog and brand ago in a galaxy far, far away.
I was down in the dumps for weeks after this perceived failure, going into a blogging funk until I created Blogging From Paradise a few months later.
You may define yourself on some unwanted outcome.
Which is utter rubbish.
And which kills your blogging career.
The happiest, most successful bloggers don’t worry much about outcomes.
Of course, the great irony here is when you don’t worry about blogging outcomes those same outcomes tend to manifest.
Follow these 4 tips to detach from leaden blogging outcomes.
Just sat for 10 minutes.
Light evening session.
I also sat 30 minutes this morning.
- helps you detach – some – from blogging outcomes
- helps you detach – completely – from some blogging outcomes
- clears your mind
- boosts your creativity
- boosts your energy
It’s almost like you become fully aware of your worries about money and traffic and subscriber counts when you meditate regularly.
Then you let each worry go. Largely.
I mean, you DO become aware of those worries.
Then you let them go. Largely.
2: Have Fun (Predominant Vibe)
I have been disgustingly attached to outcomes during times when I skipped having fun to do stuff predominantly to:
- pay da bills
- get traffic
- get social shares
- get Blogging From Paradise subscribers
Then I decided, after I got fed up enough with chasing outcomes, that I didn’t want to have these bullet points on my headstone:
- he paid da bills
- he got blog traffic
- he got social media shares
- he got Blogging From Paradise subscribers
Predominantly, blog to have fun.
Blog your passion.
Blog your joy.
Work will feel effortless – largely – and you’ll also think less about any specific outcome.
3: Get Excited About Creating and Connecting
I go gaga about writing posts.
I love connecting with folks.
At 6:20 PM, with my wife Kelli and I about to go live with our class in an hour or so, after a full day’s work, I’m gliding through this post like a hot knife through butter.
This ain’t a labor of love.
I could care less about how much traffic this post gets.
Or how many subscribers I will get after I publish this bad boy.
Icing on the cake.
Cherry on top.
The whipped cream on the pie.
The disgusting, gag-worthy, strawberry cream with raisins on the Thai sweet snack hot dog bun (I’m into weird things).
Love what you do.
The work/play becomes the reward.
Everything else is gravy, baby.
4: Fully Embrace Disappointments, then Let those Suckers Go
I recall going one full year before making my first sale on a product.
That’s one year.
Oh yeah; the product page nabbed 8,000 views during this sales-less time frame.
Most bloggers would have offed themselves.
I simply got really pissed, cried some (where was my Binky?!) and let go the feelings of being a loser or failure really quickly.
If you feel hellishly tied to some blogging outcome like making money or getting traffic you probably are resisting some old disappointment in life.
Could be a blogging disappointment.
Or a life disappointment.
Whatever the deal, you gotta hug your grief and anger and embarrassment and eat a poop sandwich for a bit before you can let go outcomes more easily.
Be with resistance.
Let go resistance.
Open yourself up to brilliant ideas, blogging power brokers and all types of sweetness.
Those are 4 tips to help you detach some from blogging outcomes.