“Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless — like water. Now you put water in a cup, it becomes the cup; You put water into a bottle it becomes the bottle; You put it in a teapot it becomes the teapot. Now water can flow or it can crash.” ~ Bruce Lee
You know I am a blogging mindset nut.
I am an energy guy.
Heck; I can only do as I do based on my being.
No way in Hades I could write and publish so many blog posts unless I worked diligently on my energy.
Recently, I have seen something neat occur with my blogging career: the more flexible I am, the more success I see. Financially, exposure-wise and traffic-wise too.
I used to be super rigid across my blogging campaign. Success found me but I always felt tension, or stress, in maintaining such a strong, tight posture.
When I developed energetic posture mixed with a healthy dose of flexibility, I saw increased success.
Martial arts legend and actor Bruce Lee shares a gem of a quote above.
In essence, he advises you to be like water, perhaps the most flexible element on the face of the earth.
Be Like Water
Water takes the shape of its vessel. It seems soft, or weak, too pliable, too flexible.
Yet water erodes granite. Imagine that? By persistently lapping away at rocks, over years, the seemingly soft or weak or fluid water is the most powerful element on earth in many regards.
Forget about the brute force of water. Look at the power inherent in going with the flow, in shaping yourself to your environment and in being flexible.
As a blogger, when you take the shape of any situation you can effortlessly glide through seeming blogging trials and tribulations with grace and ease, while rigid bloggers crash, struggle and fail.
If you want to see me walking my flexible talk, just read this blog post about deleting 3000 of my blog posts.
Flexible bloggers are open to bargaining, or bartering, in certain situations too, seeing money and relationships outcomes above just seeing money outcomes alone.
Being flexible grows your success exponentially throughout many aspects of your blogging campaign.
Flexible Bloggers Prosper
I have set pricing on my products. Courses, eBooks, audio books and paperbacks are fixed-price, non-negotiable offerings.
But most of my services are fairly flexible. I tend to have energetic posture if someone I do not know wants to barter but if a friend approaches me with a reduced rate, I think through both the money I’d receive and the strength of our long term bond before making a decision.
It is only money.
If I am flexible enough to receive $300 instead of $500, it is all good. Factor in helping a trusted buddy and you have a win-win scenario.
Rigid bloggers who never bend an inch often struggle to make a full time income because their rigidity is rooted in fear, tension, stress and anger.
Much of the time, your prices will stand. I get that. But sometimes, softening just a little bit to meet a buddy halfway or to publish something that benefits your audience is well worth the pay cut.
This advice seems counter-intuitive to my prior posturing stance across the board, in every situation, but as I grow, and gain experience, I see how it is easier to make more and more money when you are flexible, bendable and open to bartering, within reason of course.
The old me completely ignored anyone who attempted to barter or bargain. The new me still releases on strangers who attempt such tactics – if I don’t know them, or trust them, I cannot offer them lower rates with confidence – but shows flexibility in finding a price for services if I am helping trusted friends, in specific cases.
I realized that much of my old posturing stance was not grounded in love, but in a fear-based, angry energy that was not healthy for me, or my wallet.
Feel the Fear to Blog with Love
Blogging with love is the easiest way to be flexible.
But blogging with love almost always involves facing, embracing, and releasing deeply held fears so you dissolve the lower energies to make room for higher energies.
I often see bloggers on big Facebook Groups complaining about cheap clients, bargain-driving potential clients and tire-kicker readers, with anger and flat out rage seething through their being.
These folks are brimming with fear; fear of loss, fear of being unworthy and fear of running out of money. The fear manifests as false bravado, anger, sarcasm and rage.
The way to dissolve the fear – and anger – is to feel it, however unpleasant the process – so you can clear it out and blog from an energy of love and fun.
Flexible bloggers feel pretty detached from outcomes. If a trusted blogging buddy comes along and asks for a sponsored post in the $300 range versus your normal $500 asking price, the flexible, pliable, loving you sees the opportunity to make $300 and build an even stronger long term friendship.
Even better? When you work with trusted folks for a lesser rate or even better, when you release on strangers who just want the cheapest price, without any anger or sarcasm directed towards them (both of which are the fear of loss, manifest), but with gratitude for them connecting with you in the first place, more money flows to you through established and new sources, almost like a hire hose of cash opening up for you.
Be like water.
3 Tips for Bonding with Blogging Influencers
Forget traditional influencer marketing. We want to go deeper.
Bloggers teach influencer marketing from a less genuine space sometimes. Imagine learning how to try to get someone to do something for you. Manipulation marketing. Fear-based marketing. Problems arise; spam folders become your landing spot. I observe a decent percentage of influencer marketing emails in my spam folder because fear-pitches get labeled as spam and become spam, 100% of the time.
What is the solution? Learn how to bond with blogging influencers.
I remember people who befriend me. I admire people who endorse me or promote me. I appreciate people who buy my course or eBooks. I love people who generously help me for months. Guess what? Bonding with established bloggers influences the influencers. I do stuff for dear blogging friends I do not do for anybody else. If a friend sends me a guest post and their writing is tight, I place it. Even if said post spans 1000 words or more – my minimum count is 600 – I place it without hesitating. Friends found my heart. Friends influenced me through kindness and generosity. I am largely putty in their blogging hands.
Instead of trying to manipulate a successful stranger, bond with a friend. Change your approach to influencer marketing. Make friends. Help without asking. In time, blogging bonds form organically. If you practice writing, the world becomes your oyster because influencers take you to new levels of success, without you even asking.
Follow these tips to bond with influencers.
1: Buy a Resource
The best way to bond with an influencer is to get inside their heads.
Influential bloggers had to influence influential bloggers on the way up to become influential. Invest in a resource like my influential blogger eBook to learn how influencers do it. Speak their language. Connect. Take their viewpoint. Learn how to be influential yourself.
When you discover how to be influential through my resource you in essence, learn how to influence, influencers, by bonding with these pros.
2: Spend a Few Months Giving Not Asking
Bloggers I remember, then befriend, spend at least a few months giving and not asking. Someone buys my course, publishes 10 comments on my blog, and retweets my posts 10 or 20 times during a 3 month period. These people pop up on my radar screen because they gave and asked for nothing. Bonds form. Friendships develop.
Retweet fellow bloggers. Help them. Feature fellow bloggers. Open your blog to guest posting. Guest post on other blogs. Comment genuinely on blogs. Buy products.
Ask for nothing, for at least 3-4 months. Allow friendships to form organically. Blogging friends help each other because blogging friends trust each other. Influential bloggers fall into this helping lot too, as you generously serve them, ask for nothing and polish your writing skills. I gained more endorsements from pros by being generous than through any other method. Help influential bloggers. Ask for nothing. Influential bloggers help you without you asking for a darn thing.
3: Never Rush the Process
Some blogger friend requested me on Facebook a few moments ago. I scanned my messages to see his business pitch in the “other” folder. He simply rushed the process of pitching an established blogger. I appreciate the friend request but pitching your business before generously helping me ensures I ignore all future messages. He rushed the process so I let him go.
Perhaps he smartens up and begins helping me generously without asking for anything. After a few months of helping me and asking for nothing, we bond. We become friends. From there, the opportunities are limitless. Even if I do not use his service, if he has skills and a reputable business model I can share his services with my readers.
Good things take some time. Never rush the bonding process.
Allow bonds to form organically to do influencer marketing right.
How Do Blogging and Fitness Relate?
I spend 3 hours daily honing my mental and physical fitness.
In truth, you can and will succeed online following simple fundamentals from a generous, detached energy. No need to be fit to go full time blogging. But if you feel bad because your body feels bad and your mind fears losing it all, have you succeeded? I do not believe so.
I wrote an eBook sharing my daily regimen to explain what many of you readers want to know: how do I do it all? I am no blogging god. I am just human. But I write and connect quite a bit. People wish to know how I wrote 100 plus eBooks in addition to all the other stuff I do while circling the globe. Well, blogging and fitness are 2 peas in a pod for me. Both play a big role if you desiring leveling up and feeling good predominantly as you enjoy the ride.
Blogging and Fitness
Let’s say you wake up on a Monday morning as a full time employee who blogs part time. Feeling terrible and dreading work, why write and publish a post? Too busy. Do it later. Put off the post until tonight. But you feel too tired that night. Repeat this cycle for 3 months. 90 days passed. Still no blog post. Why? You filled your mind with fear and pain. Manifesting as blogging loss, backburnering the post for 3 months indicates fear in mind. Why fear? 100% of the time, fear dominates minds of people who spend zero time on mental fitness, never meditating or doing deep yin yoga or observing their thoughts and feelings. Most of the time, these same folks dominated by their own fears never commit seriously to being physically fit through exercising.
Feel good by caring for your mind and body. Vibe higher than fears crippling most bloggers. Imagine the above scenario with one difference: you devote 1-2 hours daily exercising and raising your energy via mindset training. Devote 30 minutes to power walking and 30 minutes to deep yin yoga. On waking that Monday morning, either a blog post idea finds you and you write the post, or after a few uncomfortable moments and feelings, the idea flows to you and you write the post.
I cannot explain this process logically because it flows 100% emotionally, feelings-wise. Visualize yourself in moments you feel really good. All seems possible. Ideas flow to you. Opportunities flow to you. Why? Feeling good magnetizes you to freeing, success-promoting ideas. Being fit mentally and physically is the easiest way to feel good most of the time. Plus in those moments you feel bad mentally and physically, you face, feel and release the bad feelings, quickly, because you feel mentally and physically fit, predominantly.
Being fit naturally alerts you to the success-promoting idea of gratitude. Gratitude builds blogging success because seeing every penny of income, every blog comment and all interest in your blogging courses feels awesome to you. Feeling awesome inspires you to blog for years generously. Blogging generously for years makes you successful.
Corey at the Good Oil Marketing retweeted my blogging course recently. I feel grateful he spread the word for me considering he is a successful, high level marketer. I feel these feelings and build on my success because I feel grateful. I feel grateful because I trained my mind and body to feel good, through being fit daily, in order to tune into appreciation easily.
Be a successful blogger by being mentally and physically fit.
Why Doing this Works Better than Asking for Business Referrals
After I released my flagship eBook – How to Retire to a Life of Island Hopping through Smart Blogging – I noticed something neat. My sales increased 12 fold the day I published a guest post for a highly successful blogger.
Seeing this spike clued me in to the quickest, easiest way to increase business: help people for free. Being generous improves skills, increases exposure and expands your business. Greater traffic and profits follow generous bloggers because helping people for free helps you be skilled and see, two qualities in every prospering blogger who reaps sweet blogging profits.
A large set of bloggers goes in another direction. Some ask for business referrals from trusted blogging buddies to drum up business. Feel free to take this route but know referral fishing is an ineffective way to drive profits because of two clear reasons:
- referral-seeking seems to be time-wasting
- referral-seeking rarely inspires trusted bloggers to take clear, business-building action, for you
I know 20 plus web developers. A few trusted blogging web developer buddies have reached out to me, seeking referrals. Two issues arise:
- the referral seeker has no idea if I know bloggers needing web development; non-targeted campaign
- I already know 20 plus developers, trusted buddies all, so I could never choose one to refer to someone if 20 seem qualified
Top Bloggers Become Ruthlessly Effective with their Time
Versus seeking referral business by asking blogging buddies if they know someone requiring your service, spend 20 minutes to write and publish a quality guest post for a blogger in your business niche. Instead of pitching 1 human, show off your web development skills for free, via a guest post, for 1,000 people. Do you see what I mean? Leverage. Do not ask for business. Serve for business. Although time needs pass and generosity needs inclusion in blogging business-building, helping for free is the quickest, simplest way to increase blogging business because you reach large, targeted audiences of clients with your attention and energy versus asking 1 person for business in non-targeted, ineffective fashion.
12 Times Daily Sales
I recall the day vividly, 5 years ago. I created and launched Blogging From Paradise. Before writing 100 plus eBooks, I wrote one. I did drive some sales through my blog but guest posting woke me up; why not leverage my presence and grow business by helping people for free, via different platforms? Eye-opener for me. Instead of asking, I gave. How easy? Giving freely is the easiest way to get freely. I observed a 12 times daily sales eBook increase for good reason that day: helping people generously through sites other than your blog is a simple way to grow your blogging business.
The simplest, direct, effective way to grow your business is to help people for free. Asking for referrals leads to a client or customer here and there, but full time bloggers are not in the “here and there” business as far as growing your venture. Pro bloggers drive steady profits through their blog by being generous on their blog and on other platforms.
Be helpful for free. Publish posts. Submit guest posts. Run a podcast. Broadcast live on Facebook. Help people for free to help people for pay. Versus untargeted referral-seeking, this is the effective way to grow your blogging business from a generous, genuine energy.
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