Take a chill pill guys.
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Creating content and relaxing is a simple way to see greater blogging success. Why? Power attracts and force negates.
Alonzo Pichardo is one of the best guys online for putting this concept into action. He publishes content and simply allows it to do what it does. Posture. Power. Instead of rushing around in fear, like a chicken with your head cut off, trying to promote a piece of content so people see it, fearing people cannot see it unless you promote the stuffing out of it, you publish, relax, and let your post echo.
Imagine sitting in a huge concert hall. Nobody there. Pure reverb. You speak a soft whisper, from an energy of relaxation, no tension, and the sound carries far and wide, amplified by the environment. This is the power of calmness. You did not need scream for your voice to carry. Nor did you need to sprint to 50 places in the concert hall to speak your message. You had posture, put yourself in the proper environment, whispered, and nature took care of the rest.
Imagine a still pond, totally undisturbed, spanning 50 miles wide. Now visualize dropping a tiny pebble into the pond. See how the waves carry forever? Again; this is the power of calmness, serenity and relaxation in action. Publish content. Cede control. Let the content do, what it does.
What About Heavy Promotion?
Does promoting posts heavily feel relaxing and peaceful to you? If yes, carry on. But 99.99% of bloggers I know feel:
if they do not promote a post after publishing a post. None of these energies are relaxation. All of these energies are tension and fear. Be honest. Be straight with yourself. Be clear with yourself. I had to be clear with myself to genuinely create and relax, being a control freak at times. Publishing a post and hitting Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn share buttons allows the content to carry far and wide because my fear-tension-controlling does not lessen its reach, through my tension.
Know Your Content Is Shareworthy Without Sharing It
Release the mental block that you need to share content for people to share it. People gladly share solid content if you allow the process to unfold. Most bloggers are anything but relaxed after publishing posts, never allowing the process of organic sharing to take root, because their fear and controlling nature mucks everything up. Guilty as charged for much of my online career; now I learned, finally, once and for all, that good content combined with my clarity and relaxation allows my content to carry far and wide.
Inside Out Game
Blogging is an inside out game. Most bloggers, within, are similar to a raging, hurricane-roiled ocean of fear and tension within…..pure chaos. If you dropped the Empire State Building into this maelstrom, nobody notices. But if you face, embrace and release deep fears, around controlling, deserving, worthiness and trust, you see something awesome happen; the hurricane-roiled waters gradually transition into that calm, still pond, I discussed earlier in the post, and dropping a tiny pebble creates waves traveling far and wide.
What About Lists and Social Media and Promotion?
If email list building, social media and heavy promotion feel relaxing to you, engage. But again, take away virtually all blogger’s lists, and we will see how relaxed these people are. Talk about fear! I know of seasoned marketers who feared losing 1 subscriber, let alone their entire list. This is not relaxation, but tension, and force, which negates, and eats into organic, natural traffic, that easily flows to calm, confident, poised, trusting bloggers.
Guys; you need to be straight with yourself. I am not advising you to be a fully, 100% detached Blogging Buddha, not caring or being attached to anything. But largely, you should be totally relaxed and chill about email lists, social media, and the like, because if like most bloggers you fear you need lists and social media and heavy promotion, that tension destroys your relaxation, reduces your pure organic reach and dissolves much of your trust in self, and knowing of your success.
You rock. Success is yours. Allow your helpful content to do what it does, carrying far and wide.
What About Blogging Buddies?
Make blogging buddies from a detached, fun loving, generous, relaxed energy but most of all, believe deeply in yourself and your success-promoting abilities. Friends help amplify your success but you often see that followers who find you via pure organic channels become your most loyal clients, customers and followers. Network but relax. Be calm, cool and collected. Stop fearing that you need someone or something outside of you to succeed. Friends are complements to your success but all success flows from within, as you trust the process and enjoy creating and connecting from a chill space.
Do Not Panic
Many bloggers nod at this post. Feels good, maintaining this energy/frame of mind, right? But after writing and publishing a post, a strong fear emerges; if you do not heavily promote the post, nobody will read it. Like all fears, this is 100% untrue, a complete lie. In this moment of deep fear and tension, you either panic and cave into the fear, rushing around in a resistant, tense, fear-filled promotion blitz, or you relax, allow the fear to pass, and understand what true posture and genuine organic traffic is all about.
Start believing in yourself and abilities. Seeing success and making buddies gets easier the more you believe in you.
Blogging Is Not What You Are Doing But What You Are Being
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Think this one through.
Blogging is what you are being. Not doing.
Blogging is not mindlessly doing stuff. Oh shoot. You realized something, didn’t you? Blogging is not building an email list. Email lists do not give you success. Nope. Clear, confident, detached bloggers who have fun building email lists and who trust in the blogging process grow big, responsive, profitable lists….over time. What does this mean?
“Over time” means you do not panic, flip out or bail on blogging, if you calmly build a list and have fun doing it, for a long time, and see the appearances of little or no growth. This is BEING a successful blogger; having fun, trusting, being patient, taking the simple, easy route, even if it feels uncomfortable after blogging and list building for a bit and seeing the illusion of scant results.
Most Bloggers Fail Because They Screw It Up
Most bloggers buy into a lie; doing specific things makes you successful. Nope. If this were the case, everybody who builds a list would be billionaires. Because they built a list, lists breed success, right? Nope. Even if you follow steps robotic-like, your energy, your emotions, your feelings, all make up your BEING. The 6 and 7 and 8 figure earners who happily take this journey are being the 6, 7 and 8 figure earners energetically, calm and confident, after having fun creating content and connecting, and seeing $4 in blogging profits after 6 months of being the person. Every other blogger panics after 1 day, 1 week or 1 month, stop being the millionaire success, do dumb stuff, begin being a broke person, and see struggle and failure until they decide to be the successful blogger again.
The Core Elements of Being a Success
- for fun
- taking the easy but uncomfortable path; do what feels natural to you, even when you slam into fear of wasting your time, fear of being criticized, fear of mental blocks, etc
- with a complete trust in yourself
- with a complete trust in the blogging process
- with a complete trust in sound, proven advice from successful bloggers
Very few bloggers be these energies persistently. Very few bloggers happily earn a pretty penny over time. Few bloggers be success. Most bloggers try to do their way to success but since they act without giving any thought to their intent, their driver, their energy, almost all of these bloggers are being broke, poor, struggling and failing.
Blogging is not robotic. If blogging was robotic, every blogger who did specific things in a certain way would succeed. But this is not true. Blogging is energy. Top bloggers use all types of different approaches to reach the top. This indicates blogging is primarily energy, your energy coloring your actions and results.
Imagine if you feel like a failure. I advise you to write a guest post for me. You tell me you are lazy, have no ideas, cannot do it, need to take a few months off, etc. I offer you an opportunity to promote your success but since you are BEING a failure and feeling like a failure you are blind to the DOINGs (generous guest posting) of a successful blogger. See what I mean? Plus, if you seize the guest posting opportunity while feeling like a complete failure, either the post quality stinks or you write a masterpiece by the odd chance, that nobody reads. Nobody read it because you are feeling/being a failure, so, you see failure results.
100% of the time, blogging is energy. Being a success means blogging your fun, doing what feels easy and natural to you, trusting in self and the process, and feeling uncomfortable along the way.
Why Does Blogging Seem Hard?
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The question of blogging questions.
Why does blogging seem hard?
Blogging in and of itself is not hard. Blogging is a concept. A blog is an inanimate object. It is neutral. It is not hard, tough or easy.
Human beings label their feelings with emotions. THIS is why blogging seems hard.
Doing the neutral activity of blogging feels scary, meaning you unearth and either resist or feel fears. Feeling the fears feels highly unpleasant. Especially if said fears feel deep, strong, and terrifying, depressing or anger-inducing.
But if you resist these deep fears, and refuse to feel them, and blog mainly from a dominant vibe of fear, you fully experience the feeling of blogging being super hard. Blogging is actually neutral but you refuse to feel deep fears that blogging has unearthed. You resisting fear leads to prolonged blogging failure, aka, not seeing much money and traffic, aka, blogging being really hard.
Real World Example
A few moments ago, I scanned one of my daily blogging income streams. I made a little less than I had been making for 1 of a billion reasons. 1 such reason may have been the internet crashing here last night. We experienced a few big, powerful thunderstorms.
Anyway, I noted the dollar amount being lower and felt fear arise in my body. Rather than resist the fear, I felt the anxiety, and my mind hurriedly racing ahead to next month’s paycheck, and then, after breathing deeply for a few moments and fully embracing the fear, I released it. I did not resist it. I felt it. The fear disappeared. I then blog from an abundant, relaxed, detached, generous energy, which helps me become more and more successful.
But the old me – and most bloggers – see a lesser dollar amount for daily earnings, feel an intense fear arise, panic, bury the fear versus feeling it, and run around like mad men and mad women with that DEEP FEAR DRIVING THEM, desperate and greedy, resisting the fear, being driven by fear, and of course, they do stupid stuff with a dominant fear energy guaranteeing their blogging failure. Then, these humans who refuse to face, embrace and feel fears, proclaim blogging to be hard. This is a lie. Blogging is neutral. But you refuse to face, embrace and release your fears, so blogging *feels* hard.
Feel fears when fears arise. Cry it out. Shout it out. Feel depressed or deflated. Do not resist fear. Then, after feeling fears, you will feel good, detached, relaxed and trusting. Feeling these dominant abundant energies, you will create, connect, trust, persist and blog from a relaxed, chill energy. Blogging from this calm, trusting, generous energy makes blogging easier and easier and easier. Money flows in easy. Traffic flows in easy.
Blogging went from hard to easy because you faced fears, felt fears, and progressively blogged from an abundant, generous, calm, detached vibe.
Tip for Feeling Fear
Engage in some energy management ritual that expands your awareness. I do deep yin yoga and power walk daily. Prayer and/or meditation may help. Breathing deeply helps. Do anything that expands your awareness so you can observe and feel fear versus resisting this destructive energy.
Some humans bury fear with busy-ness and jobs they hate. Other people turn to drugs or alcohol to bury fears. All of these folks are unhappy and depressed because you cannot feel good, abundant, relaxed and successful with oodles of fear buried deep inside of you.
Be with your fears. Be gentle with yourself. The blogger who feels and releases fear soon learns blogging gets easier and easier.
Do You Need to Respond to ALL Comments?
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One mistake holds back many bloggers who fail to scale. These folks obsess over responding to every single comment, every email, every message. Why? Pride. Obsession. Attachment to people. Fear of missing out on an opportunity. Fear of missing out on friendships.
Unfortunately, if you spend 14 hours daily responding to every single social request and chat and email and blog comment and message – even if it feels fun – you lose opportunities to scale through blog posts, guest posts, podcasts and doing interviews.
Please; if responding to virtually everything feels fun, do it. But 99% of bloggers BS themselves on this because they respond to EVERYONE from an energy of fear, pain, lack, resistance, force and hustle. Bad idea guys. Force negates. But, power attracts. Meaning if you are willing to use power, and love, and fun, to inject into your work, you quickly see: the cornerstone of massive scaling and persistent growth and freeing blogging success is writing, publishing and placing blog posts and guest posts.
Today, how do I have most fun growing my business, reaching more people, helping more people, and leveraging my blogging presence? Do I achieve these feats by spending 3 hours responding individually to every retweet, Like, blog comment, and so on, and so on? Nope. I spend those 3 hours effectively and efficiently by writing and publishing 3-6 blog posts and guest posts. Blog posts and guest posts scale. Blog posts and guest posts help me reach hundreds to thousands of targeted folks through each blog post and guest post.
Blog posts and guest posts never seem to be written by people who complain about having no time to blog post, and, guest post. Meanwhile, a hefty chunk of these humans spend 1, 2 or 3 hours responding to every Like on Facebook, from a strained, forced energy, fearing they miss out on traffic and bonds, not having fun doing it. But the wise move would be spending 10 minutes responding to comments on Facebook and maybe a few Likes, then, devoting 2-3 hours to writing and publishing blog posts and guest posts.
Think Scale Not Small Time
WAY too many bloggers play small, giving most of their attention and energy to building 1 to 1 bonds. Making friends is important but meeting new friends is even more important.
One lesson I learned from millionaire bloggers: scaling through blog posts and guest posts is the quickest way to reach more people, make more money and increase your blog traffic. Building 1 to 1 bonds by engaging commentors plays a role in succeeding online, but the top bloggers on earth are not running around, spending endless hours responding to Likes on Facebook.
Titans also build one to one bonds through engagement, but if you are not getting 1000 page views a day, something is wrong in the scaling department. Namely, you are playing it small, not thinking about scaling. Scale. Guest post. Post to your blog. Make this the focus of your day. Then, feel free to engage folks 1 to 1 in a limited time frame.
You need to let go responding to every single person all day long to genuinely scale, to reach an increasing number of folks and to do what matters most to your business.
People will buy your stuff without you engaging them. Guaranteed. Folks will find your blog, love your content and buy your course or eBooks. This is a simple, organic process that you muck up every time you believe you need to respond to and engage every single person who reaches out via all online channels.
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