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Do You Have the Blogging Posture of Pasta?



How quickly do you collapse like a house of cards when someone wants to land a $5 sponsored post on your site because they are on a budget and you fear losing money, or need the $5 to pay bills? This is having the posture of limp, cooked, pasta. You are mush.

How quickly do you angrily block or complain about the same person who wants to offer you a steep, volume discount for sponsored posts? No way can they afford a $1000 sponsored post for a single post but they can offer you a quantity of 200, $5 posts, for the next 5-10 years. Does this person anger you, annoy you or agitate you? Guess what? You have the posture of raw, uncooked, brittle pasta, breaking the split second someone annoys you.

Do you have the blogging posture of pasta? Either you turn to mush and agree with crap pay because you feel desperate or you anger and break, being triggered by cheapies, and bring annoyance with you throughout your day, messing up your vibe.

How about this option? Feel abundant, whole and complete to completely ignore fear. Develop the blogging posture of granite. Be completely unmoved at anyone, if pitchers arrive from fear energy. Nobody can trigger you into a 5 dollar sponsored post price. Nobody can torment you into feeling annoyed for longer than 5 seconds. Talk about freedom. Talk about liberation. Talk about relaxation. Talk about developing genuine blogging posture.

Why Be Posturing?

Big blogging freedom, money and traffic flows to posturing bloggers because said bloggers:

  • feel calm no matter who finds their inbox
  • only agree to people who pay their price
  • never agree to cheap prices
  • stand firm without being annoyed at fear-filled bloggers who pitch and beg desperately

I will give you a perfect example.

Imagine someone asks for your best sponsored post price. You email with your $1000 sponsored post price. The blogger responds with the price being way too expensive. Maybe your metrics do not warrant the price in their humble opinion. But they promise to pay you $5 for the post. Genuinely prospering bloggers who know success is theirs and believe 100% in themselves ignore the response email to move forward. No annoyance. No wasted energy. No justifying. No bartering.

The only reason why you:

  • justify
  • barter
  • fight
  • bicker
  • feel annoyed
  • feel agitated
  • get angry
  • agree to a cheap, $5 price
  • agree to a cheap, $10 volume discount

is because the non-posturing, fear in you agrees with their cheap-fear on some level, and it feels bad, really bad. In reality, you lack genuine, granite-like posture, and need feel your fears to release the fears to have granite-like posture. I almost have granite-like, un-moving blogging posture now but still get a little annoyed sometimes when someone tells me my price fits not into their budget. Oh well. I am more calm than I used to be. I tend to ignore fear-driven bloggers who budget, barter, cajole and follow up 2, 4 or 10 times with desperate pleas to place sponsored posts, guest posts, and cross promotions.

I see through their fear and refused to get involved with it. Does that make sense? I see through it versus engaging and feeling annoyed or agitated. Plus I never, ever, ever agree to rates under my prices. Either you pay or move on. Imagine managing a grocery store. What would you do if someone promised to pay 2 cents for a $2 can of beans? You would ignore them and get on with your work. Either they pay $2 for the beans or go home, manifest the $2 and return to buy the full price for the beans. Imagine someone asking you if you accept $5 for a $200 consultation fee for your doctor services? Think about it. Would you agree to the $5 or politely alert the person of your $200 fee and get back to work? Either they pay the $200 or go home to get $200 to pay your fee. No debating, no annoyance, just a neutral means of exchange.

Doctors, lawyers and store managers have posture because each feels clear on their offering. Pay to get service or do not pay and do not get service. As a blogger, adopt the same clear, knowing posture. Trust implicitly in yourself. Trust 100% that you are being taken care of. Believe in you. Do not give into fear from others. See through the illusion. Feel whole, complete, abundant and confident to see a whole, complete, abundant world in your experience. If you feel abundant you see through and ignore people who do not act abundantly. Some fear-filled people try to get me to do stuff from fear but I see through their illusion and move on without cowering to their fear or without angering in reaction to their fear.

Be clear. Have blogging posture like a slab of granite. Be unmoved. See greater success as your posture positions you to receive greater blog traffic and even greater blogging profits.


Ryan Biddulph is the owner of Blogging From Paradise. He's a blogger, author and world traveler who's been featured on Richard Branson's Virgin Blog, Forbes, Fox News, Entrepreneur Dot Com and Neil Patel Dot Com. Ryan can help you become a full time blogger with his course.

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  1. Vishwajeet Kumar

    July 4, 2019 at 10:22 am

    Excellent Post Ryan. I am also receiving these type of email asking for sponsored posting and pay $5 per post. I think that if you accept the offers in such a low price, You are demoralized yourself or in the simple term, you conned yourself. Great Post 🙂

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Blogging Is Not What You Are Doing But What You Are Being




Think this one through.

Blogging is what you are being. Not doing.

Blogging is not mindlessly doing stuff. Oh shoot. You realized something, didn’t you? Blogging is not building an email list. Email lists do not give you success. Nope. Clear, confident, detached bloggers who have fun building email lists and who trust in the blogging process grow big, responsive, profitable lists….over time. What does this mean?

“Over time” means you do not panic, flip out or bail on blogging, if you calmly build a list and have fun doing it, for a long time, and see the appearances of little or no growth. This is BEING a successful blogger; having fun, trusting, being patient, taking the simple, easy route, even if it feels uncomfortable after blogging and list building for a bit and seeing the illusion of scant results.

Most Bloggers Fail Because They Screw It Up

Most bloggers buy into a lie; doing specific things makes you successful. Nope. If this were the case, everybody who builds a list would be billionaires. Because they built a list, lists breed success, right? Nope. Even if you follow steps robotic-like, your energy, your emotions, your feelings, all make up your BEING. The 6 and 7 and 8 figure earners who happily take this journey are being the 6, 7 and 8 figure earners energetically, calm and confident, after having fun creating content and connecting, and seeing $4 in blogging profits after 6 months of being the person. Every other blogger panics after 1 day, 1 week or 1 month, stop being the millionaire success, do dumb stuff, begin being a broke person, and see struggle and failure until they decide to be the successful blogger again.

The Core Elements of Being a Success

Blog mainly:

  • for fun
  • taking the easy but uncomfortable path; do what feels natural to you, even when you slam into fear of wasting your time, fear of being criticized, fear of mental blocks, etc
  • with a complete trust in yourself
  • with a complete trust in the blogging process
  • with a complete trust in sound, proven advice from successful bloggers

Very few bloggers be these energies persistently. Very few bloggers happily earn a pretty penny over time. Few bloggers be success. Most bloggers try to do their way to success but since they act without giving any thought to their intent, their driver, their energy, almost all of these bloggers are being broke, poor, struggling and failing.

Blogging is not robotic. If blogging was robotic, every blogger who did specific things in a certain way would succeed. But this is not true. Blogging is energy. Top bloggers use all types of different approaches to reach the top. This indicates blogging is primarily energy, your energy coloring your actions and results.

Imagine if you feel like a failure. I advise you to write a guest post for me. You tell me you are lazy, have no ideas, cannot do it, need to take a few months off, etc. I offer you an opportunity to promote your success but since you are BEING a failure and feeling like a failure you are blind to the DOINGs (generous guest posting) of a successful blogger. See what I mean? Plus, if you seize the guest posting opportunity while feeling like a complete failure, either the post quality stinks or you write a masterpiece by the odd chance, that nobody reads. Nobody read it because you are feeling/being a failure, so, you see failure results.

100% of the time, blogging is energy. Being a success means blogging your fun, doing what feels easy and natural to you, trusting in self and the process, and feeling uncomfortable along the way.

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Why Does Blogging Seem Hard?




The question of blogging questions.

Why does blogging seem hard?

Blogging in and of itself is not hard. Blogging is a concept. A blog is an inanimate object. It is neutral. It is not hard, tough or easy.

Human beings label their feelings with emotions. THIS is why blogging seems hard.


Doing the neutral activity of blogging feels scary, meaning you unearth and either resist or feel fears. Feeling the fears feels highly unpleasant. Especially if said fears feel deep, strong, and terrifying, depressing or anger-inducing.

But if you resist these deep fears, and refuse to feel them, and blog mainly from a dominant vibe of fear, you fully experience the feeling of blogging being super hard. Blogging is actually neutral but you refuse to feel deep fears that blogging has unearthed. You resisting fear leads to prolonged blogging failure, aka, not seeing much money and traffic, aka, blogging being really hard.

Real World Example

A few moments ago, I scanned one of my daily blogging income streams. I made a little less than I had been making for 1 of a billion reasons. 1 such reason may have been the internet crashing here last night. We experienced a few big, powerful thunderstorms.

Anyway, I noted the dollar amount being lower and felt fear arise in my body. Rather than resist the fear, I felt the anxiety, and my mind hurriedly racing ahead to next month’s paycheck, and then, after breathing deeply for a few moments and fully embracing the fear, I released it. I did not resist it. I felt it. The fear disappeared. I then blog from an abundant, relaxed, detached, generous energy, which helps me become more and more successful.

But the old me – and most bloggers – see a lesser dollar amount for daily earnings, feel an intense fear arise, panic, bury the fear versus feeling it, and run around like mad men and mad women with that DEEP FEAR DRIVING THEM, desperate and greedy, resisting the fear, being driven by fear, and of course, they do stupid stuff with a dominant fear energy guaranteeing their blogging failure. Then, these humans who refuse to face, embrace and feel fears, proclaim blogging to be hard. This is a lie. Blogging is neutral. But you refuse to face, embrace and release your fears, so blogging *feels* hard.


Feel fears when fears arise. Cry it out. Shout it out. Feel depressed or deflated.  Do not resist fear. Then, after feeling fears, you will feel good, detached, relaxed and trusting. Feeling these dominant abundant energies, you will create, connect, trust, persist and blog from a relaxed, chill energy. Blogging from this calm, trusting, generous energy makes blogging easier and easier and easier. Money flows in easy. Traffic flows in easy.

Blogging went from hard to easy because you faced fears, felt fears, and progressively blogged from an abundant, generous, calm, detached vibe.

Tip for Feeling Fear

Engage in some energy management ritual that expands your awareness. I do deep yin yoga and power walk daily. Prayer and/or meditation may help. Breathing deeply helps. Do anything that expands your awareness so you can observe and feel fear versus resisting this destructive energy.

Some humans bury fear with busy-ness and jobs they hate. Other people turn to drugs or alcohol to bury fears. All of these folks are unhappy and depressed because you cannot feel good, abundant, relaxed and successful with oodles of fear buried deep inside of you.

Be with your fears. Be gentle with yourself. The blogger who feels and releases fear soon learns blogging gets easier and easier.

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Do You Need to Respond to ALL Comments?




One mistake holds back many bloggers who fail to scale. These folks obsess over responding to every single comment, every email, every message. Why? Pride. Obsession. Attachment to people. Fear of missing out on an opportunity. Fear of missing out on friendships.

Unfortunately, if you spend 14 hours daily responding to every single social request and chat and email and blog comment and message – even if it feels fun – you lose opportunities to scale through blog posts, guest posts, podcasts and doing interviews.

Please; if responding to virtually everything feels fun, do it. But 99% of bloggers BS themselves on this because they respond to EVERYONE from an energy of fear, pain, lack, resistance, force and hustle. Bad idea guys. Force negates. But, power attracts. Meaning if you are willing to use power, and love, and fun, to inject into your work, you quickly see: the cornerstone of massive scaling and persistent growth and freeing blogging success is writing, publishing and placing blog posts and guest posts.


Today, how do I have most fun growing my business, reaching more people, helping more people, and leveraging my blogging presence? Do I achieve these feats by spending 3 hours responding individually to every retweet, Like, blog comment, and so on, and so on? Nope. I spend those 3 hours effectively and efficiently by writing and publishing 3-6 blog posts and guest posts. Blog posts and guest posts scale. Blog posts and guest posts help me reach hundreds to thousands of targeted folks through each blog post and guest post.

Blog posts and guest posts never seem to be written by people who complain about having no time to blog post, and, guest post. Meanwhile, a hefty chunk of these humans spend 1, 2 or 3 hours responding to every Like on Facebook, from a strained, forced energy, fearing they miss out on traffic and bonds, not having fun doing it. But the wise move would be spending 10 minutes responding to comments on Facebook and maybe a few Likes, then, devoting 2-3 hours to writing and publishing blog posts and guest posts.

Think Scale Not Small Time

WAY too many bloggers play small, giving most of their attention and energy to building 1 to 1 bonds. Making friends is important but meeting new friends is even more important.

One lesson I learned from millionaire bloggers: scaling through blog posts and guest posts is the quickest way to reach more people, make more money and increase your blog traffic. Building 1 to 1 bonds by engaging commentors plays a role in succeeding online, but the top bloggers on earth are not running around, spending endless hours responding to Likes on Facebook.

Titans scale.

Titans also build one to one bonds through engagement, but if you are not getting 1000 page views a day, something is wrong in the scaling department. Namely, you are playing it small, not thinking about scaling. Scale. Guest post. Post to your blog. Make this the focus of your day. Then, feel free to engage folks 1 to 1 in a limited time frame.

You need to let go responding to every single person all day long to genuinely scale, to reach an increasing number of folks and to do what matters most to your business.

People will buy your stuff without you engaging them. Guaranteed. Folks will find your blog, love your content and buy your course or eBooks. This is a simple, organic process that you muck up every time you believe you need to respond to and engage every single person who reaches out via all online channels.

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