I have a bit of a potty mouth sometimes.
But I’m being authentic. I blog how I talk. And sometimes I drop a cuss word. Or 2.
I don’t frequently use salty language. I rarely cuss like a sailor. Though I worked for 4 years in a shipping terminal chatting with truckers all day long I don’t curse like a truck driver.
But I have to give thanks to 2 F words. For each utterance saved my blogging career.
My Horrendous Blogging Past
I use colorful language to weave a mean tale here and there but today I’m talking about how I went from Nobody to Somebody Known by more than 3 people to pro blogging, island hopping, kinda recognized blogger.
8 years ago I attracted 3 visitors a day. To my old blog. We shall call them “The 3 Amigos.”
Probably the same person. When you think about it. Yeah I’d say they were the same meat suit. My first fan I guess.
God bless them.
Way back in the day I blogged for: money first, then for traffic, then for fame. I cared not about much else. I greedily gobbled up lukewarm to downright curdling ideas (rotten to the core), I acted on said lame ideas and the 3 Amigos (or single person) stopped by to pay their respects, along with a growing chorus of rhythmic but passive crickets.
Tumbleweeds were my best friend during the lean years. Along with a bevvy of sweet snacks I regularly hoarded and binged upon to bury my feelings of depression, of being a failure, and of fearing that I’d go broke.
I subsequently spent way too much money on the $1 “50% off” bay at Shop Rite and as you may guess by now I spiraled into a wicked, evil, Demonic Trinity of being depressed, of failing horribly and of going flat broke.
My Turning Point: Using the F Words
I am originally from New Jersey, although I travel the world now.
So if you expected to hear someone barking nasty curse words like a dockworker from Bayonne right now, you will be severely disappointed.
Although I may start “tawking” like mobsters from the movie Goodfellas when I get fired up (North Jersey accent; I apologize) I have no swear words to utter now. No curse words to drop. Because the 2 F words which saved my blogging career are:
Freedom and Fun
My first serious shift in the blogging game involved detaching from blogging outcomes a bit more. The old me fastened onto stats like traffic numbers and profits and social shares like a spoiled little brat possessively guarding its rattle.
Then I saw how attaching heavily to outcomes led to my wicked failure; I devoted like 90% of my energies to GETTING and 10% of my energies to GIVING. Makes sense I fell flat on my face. My content lacked punch. My blog lacked authenticity. I feared going broke more than I enjoyed writing. Of course I should fail….and I did.
But when I predominantly blogged to free me and my audience, a funny thing happened: I cared less and less about stats because I freed myself from those stats. As I slowly cut those strings/attachments to blogging outcomes I focused more on giving than getting. I did stuff to free myself. Meaning, I wrote in my authentic, genuine writing voice. I integrated my wacky travel stories into blogging. I crafted colorful titles.
I did stuff I’d seen few cats do in the blogging tips niche. Because doing these things felt freeing to me. And to my audience.
Since we all want to be freer every day I attracted more readers. I grew a community. Profits jumped. My blogging business grew because I devoted most of my energy to giving and less and less to getting.
But…..I was still missing something.
Enter the 2nd F word.
Even though my freeing driver opened all types of doors and expanded my presence and did worlds of good for me and our community, I was still lacking something. I felt a void. Turns out, I blogged primarily from a space of *needing* freedom versus from a space of *feeling* free.
I recognized this after a massive internal shift in 2015. I was still too attached to outcomes.
After some time spent in quiet I decided to do what the happiest people on earth do: I blogged for fun. I still ran a blogging business. Still traveled. Still connected with folks on twitter and Facebook. Still published blog posts. But I only did these things if I was in a fun-loving, playful mood. I did not work much. I blogged for fun.
Within a few months of making this conscious decision to blog for fun I appeared on Richard Branson’s blog, Forbes and Neil Patel’s blog. I opened 4 new income streams in a week. I felt at peace. I helped to create astounding results while working 2 to 4 hours on some days.
Such is the POF: Power of Fun.
Once again, an F word saved my blogging career.
Why You Should Consider Blogging for Freedom and Fun
Blogging for freedom and then progressing to blog for fun makes you 1 in a billion.
Check out my blog: Blogging from Paradise
Have you ever seen a blog like that? A blogging tips blogger who circles the globe, who lives in many of the world’s most exotic destinations, and who blends his travel stories into blogging lessons that’ll help you become a full time, pro blogger?
Note: I’m saying this from a humble space. Honest. I am nothing special. But following my fun has made me 1 in a billion. Following your fun will make you 1 in a billion. If you aren’t already killing it online.
Every single blogger on the face of the earth would become wildly successful (whatever your definition of success means to you) if they followed their fun.
Because each of us has a special, unique writing voice which differentiates us from all other bloggers….IF we follow out fun. That’s the kicker. That’s the lynch pin.
Here’s the #1 reason why you should consider blogging for fun: blogging for fun (mainly) detaches you from outcomes. Meaning you’ll give most of your energy to creating something fun and connecting with fun people. Meaning you’ll make money blogging, grow a thriving community and boost your list subscriber count with increasing ease. Because you’ll blog in your voice. You’ll practice writing because writing is fun for you.
In essence, blogging for fun removes all stress, tension, worry, anxiety and hurry from your blogging life.
Imagine how unbelievably creative, how insanely prolific and how inspired you’ll act without those low energies dancing around in your mind.
The Great Irony
When you blog predominantly for fun:
- your blogging income jumps quickly
- you find your writing voice easily
- you’ll stand out like a sore thumb…in a good way
- you’ll put your branding game into overdrive
- you’ll become magnetic to profitable ideas
- you’ll connect with influential bloggers more easily
Avoid my blogging nightmares.
Follow your fun. Blog for fun.
Resurrect a dying blogging career.
Enjoy the ride.
Shine brightly for readers in your niche.
What Does Your Blogging Network Look Like?
I do nothing on my own.
Everything is a team effort.
As I teach in my blogger networking eBook, the way to increased, ever-expanding blogging success is to look for, grow and tap into a huge, loyal network of blogging friends through the power of generosity. Be generous. Help people. Shout out fellow bloggers. Release expectations. Get super connected. Most of us understand this is how to succeed online; be generous and get connected because 100 is better than 1. 100 friend efforts are far better than your effort alone.
One basic problem arises for most new or struggling bloggers: overcoming the deep fear of networking. For odd reasons, humans cling to pulsating fears concerning reaching out to other human beings. Bloggers fear being rejected, failing, being criticized or giving up credit for their blogging success. Honor that fear. See how far you get on your own steam. Not only that, the agony of micro-managing makes you sick, broke and quite dumb, if you are honest with yourself. How silly of you! Why do everything on your own today? Why not comment genuinely on a few blogs, retweet a few blogger blog posts and mention a few bloggers on your blog? Begin networking. Build a network. Succeed online.
What’s It Look Like?
Be honest, my blogging sweet robbins. What does your network look like? Is it even there? Do you even have a network? Many bloggers publish a post, share it to Twitter and Facebook and sit there, dumbfounded. Do you honestly believe your network just materializes out of thin air? Nope. But if you buy my eBook, follow my 13 steps and build your blogger buddy network by being generous, you can land on famous blogs, earn coin and drive traffic to your blog, too. Everything hinges on your honesty. Admit having only 1, 3 or zero blogging buddies. Truths set you free to network generously and successfully.
How to Grow Your Network
Simple. Be generous. Begin now. Publish a thoughtful, personalized comment below. Be seen. I cannot read all comments but the thousands of people who read blogging tips tend to read comments. Somebody eventually reads your blog comment if you comment genuinely and generously every day on Blogging Tips after reading posts. Someone clicks your link because they love your comment and want to meet you. One visit to your blog later, you may have a blogging buddy, or even a client or customer. Or maybe you have a loyal reader. This is networking 101; be generous, engage people and you build your network.
But do not stop after commenting on Blogging Tips. Branch out. Go wide. Read and comment genuinely on other blogs in your niche. Make more friends. Life gets easier and easier if you have more blogging friends in your corner because these folks inspire you to keep going, plus your friends amplify your presence exponentially.
Be generous and genuine. Reach out to more bloggers every day. Networking is a bit uncomfortable sometimes if you look for immediate returns but gliding through these temporary feelings helps you tap into something special with your blog. Connected bloggers have no issues growing their blogging business because 100 is better than 1. Remember that they next time you try to go lone wolf with your blogging campaign.
Are You Leveling Up with Your Blog?
Every time I reach a new level with my blog, I notice another level invites me. I do not work harder. I never work longer. I love what I do and keep generously helping people but think of how to go wide as I level up. Think of that one for a moment: consider how to go wide, and what it means.
I write and publish multiple posts to my blog. Each post gains views. Going wide. 4 quality posts beats 1 quality post. But I go even wider by writing and publishing multiple guest posts daily. I speak to 2 or 3 or more different blogging audiences, going wider and wider, increasing my exposure and expanding my presence online. But I go even wider as I level up; I contribute on Quora and on the Warrior Forum daily. Leveling up is uncomfortable sometimes but always freeing. Leveling up helps you see greater success versus hitting blogging ceilings.
Be More Generous to Make More Money and to Avoid Lulls
I speak to bloggers who suffer lulls. One client signed up 4 months ago but no clients signed up since. The appearance of a 4 month client drought, or lull, simply indicates a lack of leveling up and a lack of generosity. Even if no clients signed up during your 4 months of leveling up, your eBook sales would triple. Audio book sales would jump, too. Plus you would open 2 new income streams. This just happens. Be generous and blogging will be generous to you.
Being more generous by helping more folks across multiple platforms feels uncomfortable sometimes. Who wants to go wide when doing so means leaving your comfort zone on a daily basis? I love blogging. But I feel uncomfortable writing my third post on a train ride to Connecticut. I will go super wide when I reach the destination though, publishing a combo of posts and guest posts to level up effectively, reaching more people in less time.
Most Bloggers Never Level Up
Most bloggers write and publish a post to their blog weekly. Struggles ensue because they never level up after publishing weekly for 3-6 months. Be more. Serve people generously. Go wide. Publish blog posts and guest posts more frequently to expand your reach. Increase blogging traffic and profits.
Why do you think most bloggers never make $100 during their careers? Few bloggers regularly level up, playing small to be comfortable, dodging their fears. Of course, their fears manifest as 0 dollars and 6 blog visitors daily for the next 12 months UNTIL they level up, go wide, be generous, leave their comfort zones and face their fears. This is not a fluffy, pleasant process but we all pay a fear tax to level up and to become successful bloggers.
Pay Up to Level Up and to Play Up
Pay up by spending time and generous energy reaching as many people as possible through blogging. Guest post. Publish more frequently to your blog. See increased blogging responsibility as more fun and freedom and service. I enjoy freedom offline because I level up online. I pay up, level up and play up in higher blogging circles because all top bloggers paid the same dues to reach the top. Why do top bloggers hobnob with one another? Top bloggers respect how other top bloggers pay their dues on this blogging journey and connect deeply with one another, co-promoting each other’s success.
The fun and freedom you experience through blogging is well worth the effort and discomfort of leveling up.
If you need a guide for facing blogging fears, grab my blogging mindset eBook on the way out.
1 Warning About Blog Site Speed and Successful Blogging
I know blogs should be fast loading for becoming a successful blogger.
But successful blogging depends not on site speed alone.
Before you go bananas trying to make your site as fast as possible because you believe you cannot succeed sans a razor sharp, lightning fast loading blog, get this: a handful of bloggers I came across yesterday made $10 grand, $20 grand or $30,000 monthly – or more – running relatively slow-loading sites heavy with ads and images. Far from being lightning fast loaders, the blogs took a while to render on my Chromebook. Why does someone make $30,000 monthly with a kinda slow loading blog? How clear you are on your blog determines how much you succeed with your blog.
I feared publishing high volumes of content for worrying the posts would slow down my lightning fast blog. I held back. But hugging the fear of slowing down my blog, I decided to publish more content and experienced greater blogging success. Traffic and profits rose. Even though my blog slowed down a little bit, people did not care. Like the $30,000 a month bloggers, I got clearer on my blog loading more slowly and saw greater success because I hugged the fear of having a slow loader, and proceeded in that direction.
My blog does not load lightning fast and I experience increasing success. But when my blog loaded blindingly fast, I did not see as much success because I stopped posting generously due to my fear of posting too much and slowing down my blog. Do you see how insidious fear is? Do you see why I wrote an entire blogging mindset eBook? Blogging struggle is fear. Blogging success is feeling fear and letting fear go, to blog from abundance, love and trust, being generous with your time and talents.
Slow Blog Big Bucks
I have seen legit slow loading blogs run by bloggers who make hundreds of thousands of dollars every year. The blogger proves: if you let go fear in any area of your blog, success is yours. I betcha these bloggers did not have the fear of a slow loader in their ear; these bloggers have posture, knowing loving readers read their content if said content loads in under 1 second or in 10 seconds. Seriously; some blogs load 10 seconds or longer for me and the bloggers owning these blogs make serious bank and have serious clout online
By all means, speed up your blog. But do not make the common mistake of trying desperately to preserve lightning fast load times at the expense of increased blogging profits, increased blog traffic and stunning success over the long haul. You can always upgrade hosting too; the option is available at any time. But do not foolishly believe blogging success is a simple speed test. I vividly recall feeling proud how fast my blog loaded, publishing 1 post every few days, and seeing my lukewarm to not so hot at all blogging success. I had fun generously increasing my posting frequency, then, voila! My blog slowed down some but my traffic skyrocketed and profits grew fast too.
Never allow someone’s fear – including your own – dictate your blogging campaign direction. Bloggers who make serious coin run some slow-loading blogs. People stick around and read your blog if you fear not it loads slowly. Simple energy thing. But the clarity needs to come from within if you want to make a lasting change and get super clear of this destructive, failing energy.
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