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How to Deal with the Discomfort of Being a Successful Blogger

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Guys, this blogging journey is SO fun and SO freeing most of the time. I am typing these words from a beautiful apartment in NYC, enjoying jaw-dropping views of the Hudson River. Imagine that? Step into those feelings. Would you too enjoy this fun and freedom? Unless you already enjoy such a fun, freeing life? If so, awesome. You picked the right blog post to read and study. Success is yours. Success is your birthright. I believe in you. Sometimes, though, becoming successful creates discomfort. Why? Fear stands between you and your fun, freeing dream life. Nothing else. Facing and feeling fear? Heck yeah, THAT is the discomfort we speak of. But ya gotta do it in order to succeed, to taste fun, to sip freedom and to live your dream life.

My neck feels hellishly stiff now and my mind races likt Usain Bolt sprinting away from a cheetah. Do I give up? Do I throw in the towel? Nope. Feeling and releasing discomfort seems to be a routine thing for me, in short, but intense stretches. I know what happens; my mind aka ego creates fears to move me back into being comfortable and unhappy, my predominant state, a while back. I, being awareness observing the mind-ego – ummmm….sometimes, LOL 🙂 – just watch the feelings, feel the fears, hug the discomfort and release both fears and discomfort, to carry on with successful blogging. No other way around discomfort; you need to go through it, to feel it, to grow through it, in order to position yourself to succeed.

My #1 tip for dealing with discomfort on your pro blogging journey is to follow an energy management ritual every single day. Guys; far and away, you can trash every other fear-facing tip if you diligently follow this tip because managing your energy expands your awareness, exposes your fears, raises your vibe to love-peace-calm-abundance, and helps you cut through discomfort like a hot knife through butter. I spend 3 hours – or more – daily, collectively meditating, doing Kriya yoga, doing deep yin yoga, power walking, and I also spend 40 seconds in an icy cold shower after rolling out of bed. Talk to your doctor before you take an icy cold shower. No one needs to become a blogging popsicle or to suffer from a heart attack 😉

Managing your energy through specific practices like the above, or, consider simple observation of your thoughts and feelings in a quiet room, prayer, EFT tapping, or other techniques…well….managing your energy daily can feel highly uncomfortable in and of itself. Being comfortable with being uncomfortable is the key to freedom, peace of mind, greater blog traffic and bigger blogging profits, because developing a better relationship with fear helps you experience all the sweet, freeing success that sits on the other side of fear.

For example, I publish 10 posts daily between my blog and guest posts, mainly because I spent so many hours managing my energy that I faced, felt and embraced the “HOW IN THE HECK CAN YOU PUBLISH SO MANY POSTS IN ONE DAY I CANNOT PUBLISH EVEN ONE POST DAILY!?!?!?!” fear that cripples most bloggers. Right now, if you seem in awe of me publishing 10 posts daily, you are really, really scared, afraid, fear-filled and crippled, about the thought of publishing 10 posts daily. Your ego, being a tricky jerk, tries to hide-mask the fears you feel as these silly ideas (which are not love, but fear):

  • I am lazy; FEAR
  • I have no time: FEAR
  • I have no ideas: FEAR

Unless you are living your dreams and empowering, inspiring, and uplifting people daily, you are afraid. Accept this truth. Rejecting the truth makes your fear, misery and love of comfort, grow, until things really get bad, leading to mental issues, financial issues, domestic issues and health issues. Own that you need to face your discomfort, and, follow an energy management ritual, to taste the sweet, freeing fun that blogging affords you. All those delicious emotions grow in your being if you face fear-discomfort daily, and following an energy-management ritual is the simplest way to dive in to, to nudge in to, and to feel fear-discomfort daily.

The fear-discomfort is gonna be there as you become more successful; it has to be. Meditating helps you face, feel and release the fear because meditating reveals to you, that you are awareness observing it all, and you are NOT the feelings, that your ego tries to convince you of.

Gotta roll guys…Darwin the 140 pound Bernese Mountain Dog here in NYC is calling.

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How to Deal with the Overwhelm of Blogging Success

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I am no blogging billionaire. Currently.

But some days, as success builds, I feel overwhelmed. How do you devote time and energy to blogging and live a rich life offline too? Do you feel overwhelmed by slow, steadily increasing blogging success? Even though experiencing success feels good, the increased responsibility may feel daunting. I love my gig. But in moments, I fear being up until 1 AM to complete my work day.

Follow these tips to deal with the overwhelm of blogging success.

1: Address the Overwhelmed Feeling as Being Fear

Feeling overwhelmed is fear, plain and simple. Feel the fear. Fear passes. Overwhelm vanishes.

All successful business owners need face, feel and release fears to accelerate their growth. Every successful blogger faces, feels and releases overwhelmed emotions to proceed from a calm, abundant energy. Face your fears. Feel and release overwhelm to proceed from a calm, peaceful energy.

2: Trade Overwhelm for Gratitude

Change your perspective. Trade the overwhelmed feeling for a feeling of genuine gratitude for money flowing freely to you. Even if you love your gig, taking on increased responsibility feels uncomfortable sometimes. But receiving more and more money for your increased responsibility frees you from financial stresses like worrying about paying bills. Dwell on gratitude. Overwhelm dies quickly in an appreciative environment. Making more money and largely enjoying the ride feels fun, good and freeing. Remember this any time overwhelmed, swamped emotions flood your mind.

3: Ask for Help

Hire someone to help with specific blogging tasks. Outsource. Hand off certain tasks to free up your schedule. Reduce overwhelm by hiring someone to help you or by coming to a mutually beneficial agreement which lessens your blogging load. Hire experts to help you in your business. Outsource intelligently to relax, to leverage and to let go the feeling of being completely burned out with your blogging business duties.

 4: Simplify Your Interactions

A few folks pitched me sponsored post opportunities today. I responded with 2 sentences. I used approximately 9 words and 8 seconds to respond to each email. Release overwhelm by simplifying interactions. Seven figure bloggers sometimes respond only to 1 or 2 sentence emails. Pros often respond with 1-2 words. Otherwise, pros become completely overwhelmed with the sheer volume of business opportunities flowing to their inbox daily. Use a few words to make your point and to dissolve the swamped feeling plaguing successful bloggers.

5: Reduce Interactions

Iconic, fictitious trader Gordon Gekko said in the movie Wall Street: “100 deals cross my desk every day. I choose one.”

As the sponsored post pitches, partnership pitches and overall work volume builds, you need to physically respond to only a small handful of engagements daily to leverage, to keep increasing your traffic and to keep increasing your blogging profits. No highly successful bloggers responds to 1000 plus interactions daily through email, Twitter and Facebook because you need to give most of your time, attention and energy to creating content and building bonds versus desperately trying to respond to every retweet, at least if you want your blogging business to keep growing.

Surrender. After responding to a handful of emails and retweets, let everything else go, to focus your attention and energy on what brings the greatest scale, what benefits the most people and what benefits your blogging business. Tony Robbins gives most of his attention and energy to inspiring millions through live seminars, through doing TV interviews and by writing books; he ain’t responding individually to 5000 emails daily. Be 100% committed to your blog and business growth by giving your time and energy to what matters most.

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How About Helping Versus Pitching Top Bloggers?

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I often get pitched guest post ideas from bloggers I do not know. Although I appreciate the offer I never take up these folks on their offer because I do not know them, their brand or anything they do. No way do I have the time to actually research the individual; I am a busy bee. Another email bites the dust. I either ignore the email or note guest posting closed long ago on my blog, then include a link to one of my eBooks, like this branding eBook.

Who guest posts on my blog?  People who generously helped me, asked for nothing, expected nothing and relaxed. Relaxing is key. Bloggers who help me from a chill vibe often befriend me if they practice writing to hone their blogging skills. From there, opportunities multiply fast.  Sweet backlinks on top blogs often flow your way. Traffic and profits increases slowly, steadily expand over time. Blogging buddies supply you with blog post ideas through their questions and problems.  Everything grows because you helped top bloggers versus pitching them aka asking them for help. Even if you pitch a valuable guest post idea, the guest post idea serves no value unless you publish the guest post on a trusted, authority blog boasting a huge, loyal readership. Pitches seem worthless until content and links actually appear on top blogs, going live and public, for the world to see.

I often advise helping bloggers freely for months before considering any ask or pitch. Most times, blogging buddies invite you to guest post on their blogs. Blogging success flows to generous people because you get what you give. This is one of the advantages of blogging. Give freely, relax, trust in the process and receive easily.  Place your needs to the side. Take care of your fellow blogger. Help them out via a retweet, Facebook Share or perhaps by promoting the blogger on your blog. Nobody needs to struggle blogging. Nobody needs to spend 4 hours daily sending blind pitches to blogging strangers. How about this? Spend those 4 hours patiently, persistently and generously helping people in your blogging niche. Help fellow bloggers to earn their trust. Assist fellow bloggers to befriend fellow bloggers. The split second you earn the trust of any blogger, you plant seeds for a beautiful, thriving, warm friendship. Gaining the trust of fellow bloggers inspires traffic and profits to flow to you. Forget the concept of pitching. I pitched 2 people during my 6 years of running Blogging From Paradise. One blogger pitch served as an experiment with an established, pro blogger and the other pitch served as the direct way to guest post for a 2 million member blogging community.

My 13,500 plus backlinks on Blogging From Paradise flowed to me after I pitched only 2 souls. Imagine that for a second. Observe the raw power of making friends, helping people, expecting nothing and being generous. Capitalize on the passive element of befriending bloggers through generous service. Tonight I will spend 90 minutes walking around my neighborhood. During that hour and a half, my blogging buddies will promote my blog and spread my word. Ditto for my 8 hours of sleep tonight; my blogging buddies grow my traffic and profits around the clock, adding an immensely powerful, passive element to my blogging campaign.

Being generous has some serious perks.

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Should You Blog About Everything?

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Blog about everything? I know this idea may be on your mind. Newbie bloggers especially ponder the idea.

I know blogging about anything on your mind seems like a good idea to new or even struggling bloggers. Maybe you gain mojo because you post daily, blogging about anything popping up in your dome. But this is a bad idea. Nobody should blog about any and every topic for the clear reason that nobody follows a specific blogger based on the blogger’s random thoughts, save world famous celebrities who built up a big following through some other niche.

Imagine a movie star begins blogging. Movie stars boast tens of millions of fans around the globe. Anything the star does, people hang on their every word, right? Imagine the icon publishing posts on a wide range of topics interesting to them. People read because of the star, not because of the wide range of broad topics. But imagine being a new blogger with zero followers. No movie stars read this post. Readers head for the hills the moment you change topics because no jack of all trades bloggers build credibility. Who has the time, energy and focus to be an expert in 5, 10 or 20 niches? No one does.

Blog About Everything?

Humans specialize. Doctors and lawyers do one thing and do it well because where attention and energy goes, grows. Imagine if your doctor delivered mail and picked up garbage professionally, too, working 2 jobs in addition to their medical practice. Would you trust her doctor skills? No. Of course not. People trust specialists because specialists devote all professional time and energy to one venture. Generalists? Nobody trusts someone who tries to master 2 or 5 or 10 skills simultaneously because thousands of other people master 1 skill, in these areas. We follow specialists and trust specialists. Generalists fade away.

If you want to blog about everything just ponder the specialist versus generalist point. Blogging about everything is trying to be a generalist. Nobody trusts you. Even though blogging about everything seems easy, seamless and almost effortless, people stop following your blog on each topic change. Imagine blogging about puppies one day. People who love puppies find your post, read it, enjoy it and follow your blog. Tomorrow, you publish about Chinese food. Puppy readers – who followed you for puppy content – skip the post…..most stop following your blog because puppy fans want only puppy-themed content. You just lost readers, for good.

Change Topics Lose Readers

Visualize the following day; you publish about relationships. Everybody stops following your blog. Perhaps a few relationships-focused folks read the post. But you lose trust the moment you shift topics again. Ultimately, who builds a large, targeted, loyal following, blogging about relationships? Relationships bloggers who blog about relationships 100% of the time. Specialists devote all blogging energy to mastering one topic, spending thousands of hours covering the topic, become skilled and trusted in the niche, build credibility and become successful. All multi topic bloggers blogging about everything fade away and vanish.

The world makes room for specialists. Generalists? Nope.

Specialize

Pick one blogging topic. Blog about one thing. Focus on one discipline. Be a specialist, not a generalist, to be a leading blogger in your nice. Face your fear of releasing multiple passions to make room for a single passion. I know you fear letting go. I did too before creating Blogging From Paradise.

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Google

Google loves specialists too. Google turns its cyber nose down at generalists. I scanned a popular blogging key phrase a few moments ago. Guess what? I rarely note SEO but tidying up one blog post with some details for optimizing helped me reach page one on the search engine. Why? I specialize in the blogging tips niche. Apparently. Google interpreted through its complex algorithms that I published thousands of valuable blog posts on a single topic 100% of the time, virtually. Google traffic rocks. Impress the search engine gods by gaining search trust. Specialize. Stick to one blogging topic. Never blog about everything.

Conclusion

Let go the urge to blog about anything that comes to mind. New bloggers need release this notion to build the foundation for a successful blogging career. Specialize by picking one niche you love blogging about. Be a specialist, not a generalist, to succeed with your blogging campaign.

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