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How to Deal with the Discomfort of Being a Successful Blogger

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Guys, this blogging journey is SO fun and SO freeing most of the time. I am typing these words from a beautiful apartment in NYC, enjoying jaw-dropping views of the Hudson River. Imagine that? Step into those feelings. Would you too enjoy this fun and freedom? Unless you already enjoy such a fun, freeing life? If so, awesome. You picked the right blog post to read and study. Success is yours. Success is your birthright. I believe in you. Sometimes, though, becoming successful creates discomfort. Why? Fear stands between you and your fun, freeing dream life. Nothing else. Facing and feeling fear? Heck yeah, THAT is the discomfort we speak of. But ya gotta do it in order to succeed, to taste fun, to sip freedom and to live your dream life.

My neck feels hellishly stiff now and my mind races likt Usain Bolt sprinting away from a cheetah. Do I give up? Do I throw in the towel? Nope. Feeling and releasing discomfort seems to be a routine thing for me, in short, but intense stretches. I know what happens; my mind aka ego creates fears to move me back into being comfortable and unhappy, my predominant state, a while back. I, being awareness observing the mind-ego – ummmm….sometimes, LOL 🙂 – just watch the feelings, feel the fears, hug the discomfort and release both fears and discomfort, to carry on with successful blogging. No other way around discomfort; you need to go through it, to feel it, to grow through it, in order to position yourself to succeed.

My #1 tip for dealing with discomfort on your pro blogging journey is to follow an energy management ritual every single day. Guys; far and away, you can trash every other fear-facing tip if you diligently follow this tip because managing your energy expands your awareness, exposes your fears, raises your vibe to love-peace-calm-abundance, and helps you cut through discomfort like a hot knife through butter. I spend 3 hours – or more – daily, collectively meditating, doing Kriya yoga, doing deep yin yoga, power walking, and I also spend 40 seconds in an icy cold shower after rolling out of bed. Talk to your doctor before you take an icy cold shower. No one needs to become a blogging popsicle or to suffer from a heart attack 😉

Managing your energy through specific practices like the above, or, consider simple observation of your thoughts and feelings in a quiet room, prayer, EFT tapping, or other techniques…well….managing your energy daily can feel highly uncomfortable in and of itself. Being comfortable with being uncomfortable is the key to freedom, peace of mind, greater blog traffic and bigger blogging profits, because developing a better relationship with fear helps you experience all the sweet, freeing success that sits on the other side of fear.

For example, I publish 10 posts daily between my blog and guest posts, mainly because I spent so many hours managing my energy that I faced, felt and embraced the “HOW IN THE HECK CAN YOU PUBLISH SO MANY POSTS IN ONE DAY I CANNOT PUBLISH EVEN ONE POST DAILY!?!?!?!” fear that cripples most bloggers. Right now, if you seem in awe of me publishing 10 posts daily, you are really, really scared, afraid, fear-filled and crippled, about the thought of publishing 10 posts daily. Your ego, being a tricky jerk, tries to hide-mask the fears you feel as these silly ideas (which are not love, but fear):

  • I am lazy; FEAR
  • I have no time: FEAR
  • I have no ideas: FEAR

Unless you are living your dreams and empowering, inspiring, and uplifting people daily, you are afraid. Accept this truth. Rejecting the truth makes your fear, misery and love of comfort, grow, until things really get bad, leading to mental issues, financial issues, domestic issues and health issues. Own that you need to face your discomfort, and, follow an energy management ritual, to taste the sweet, freeing fun that blogging affords you. All those delicious emotions grow in your being if you face fear-discomfort daily, and following an energy-management ritual is the simplest way to dive in to, to nudge in to, and to feel fear-discomfort daily.

The fear-discomfort is gonna be there as you become more successful; it has to be. Meditating helps you face, feel and release the fear because meditating reveals to you, that you are awareness observing it all, and you are NOT the feelings, that your ego tries to convince you of.

Gotta roll guys…Darwin the 140 pound Bernese Mountain Dog here in NYC is calling.

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Listen to Pro Bloggers

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I received a pitch from a stranger a few days ago. The entrepreneur offered me free file space – I think; I forget, among the thousands of pitches I get – in response for a review. I think. Genuinely, I do not remember. Why? Thousands and thousands of strangers try to pitch me stuff or ideas. Strangers want valued space on Blogging From Paradise. But strangers have nothing of value to offer me. So I ignore their pitches. If I am not too busy, I offer help, so these folks experience more success and make more money. Alas, my pro blogging advice often falls on deaf ears. Because if you program yourself mentally to fail, you WILL fail by ignoring successful advice. Guaranteed. Every time.

Look at the featured image for this post. Said pitcher offered me free storage or something. Never heard of her. Never heard of her site. I know she is awesome. Site solid, too. Nothing personal. But the second I see a cold pitch, I lose trust in the individual and in their business. If business were TRULY booming, ALL business would flow to you and you ain’t cold pitching strangers. Real talk. Anyway, I suggested she buy my eBook:

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because she obviously struggles, following the amateur blogger approach of blindly cold pitching strangers. Of course she has no interest in buying and reading my eBook. Successful advice evades bloggers who think, feel and act like unsuccessful bloggers. I believe she is awesome. But I share this real world experience to teach, to inspire and to wake up bloggers with the truth. Listen to pro bloggers. Pay close attention to pro blogger advice. We teach you how to blog the right way. We teach you how to succeed. If this person bought my eBook, read it, and followed my advice, she would place her guest post and business links on hundreds of respected blogs, over years. She would gain serious trust. She would make a bunch of money for her business. But alas! Since she ignore my successful advice she will keep following her failing advice, and, will fail, cold pitching strangers, never building strong bonds with pros, burning out, and failing.

Blindness

Are you completely blind to pro blogger advice? Observe your blogging career. Do you struggle? Struggling bloggers blind themselves to pro advice because fear clouds your mind. I advise new, struggling bloggers routinely. Being filled with fear, most foolishly question my advice. Why? Obviously, you are a new, inexperienced, struggling blogger. Your strategy sucks. Now it’s time to follow a new, successful strategy. Pro bloggers succeed. Pro bloggers teach you successful strategies to succeed. Listen to them. Buy their eBooks. Follow their advice. Position yourself to succeed.

I am not right. Struggling bloggers are not wrong. But I know what works and teach what works. Do not be a fool; if a pro teaches you what works, buy the eBook. I instantly saw the thousands of hours and years of struggle this entrepreneur faces because she has zero interest in spending $7 to get excellent blogging advice. Ego errs because ego sees illusion. Ignore it. Be humble. Listen to pro bloggers. Succeed.

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Cheapies Never Go Far in Blogging

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Someone wrote me a few moments ago. I quoted my sponsored post price. He replied asking for my best price. I told him all prices are final. Literally, I told him kindly but clearly to take it or leave it. He replied, asking me to accept his offer for $10, which is absurdly lower than my $11 sponsored post rate. I am joking; just seeing if you pay attention LOL 🙂 Anyway, his $10 offer is MUCH lower than my sponsored post fixed price. PLUS I already told him twice my fixed price, and to take the price or to leave the price. I *also* mentioned how all prices are final. Of course, I immediately labeled his email “spam” so all future emails, barterings and silly cheap-ness flow directly to my spam folder. I will never see him or his emails again. Nothing personal. But I have no time or energy for cheapies because if you are so filled with the fear of poverty that you completely ignore my emails, I cannot respect you as a blogging business partner.

This is why cheapies never go far in blogging. Imagine this lost blogging soul. He ignores my emails to ask for a ridiculous price on a sponsored post. I label his email “spam”. After 10 or 20 more pro bloggers label his email as “spam”, every single email he sends to bloggers winds up in the blogger’s spam folder. Almost all bloggers never check their spam. Most delete all spam emails without checking the emails. Imagine sending 500 emails to spam folders daily? That marks 499 to 500 emails no blogger will ever see, only to be deleted immediately.

Pay Up to Play Up

Moving up in blogging circles requires you to invest more money into your blog. From paying for your domain and hosting, to paying for your theme, to paying for your blogging education, to investing in sponsored posts advertising your business, the bigger money and greater traffic awaits in higher blogging circles, where money flows freely. Prospering people who buy your products and services without hesitating meet you through friends in higher blogging circles. Same thing happens offline. Jeff Bezos does not do business with someone who cannot afford my $7 eBooks. He does business with serious entrepreneurs who freely invest money in mutually beneficial ventures. Life works that way. Birds of a blogging feather flock together. Imagine if the $10 sponsored post cheapie paid my full price instead? I place the post, his business gets greater exposure in front of prospering eyes and he nets more sales and profits. He makes $100, or $1000 or more, earning more money to boost his sponsored post budget and to move him out of poverty. But the mental illness of poverty prevents him from seeing beyond “I HAVE NO MONEY! I NEED TO ***ONLY*** PAY $10 FOR EVERY SPONSORED POST I PLACE!!!”

He may place a few $10 sponsored post on terrible quality blogs with broke readerships. Truthfully, he should just donate the $10 to bloggers who place his sponsored post for $10 because said bloggers have either 5 daily readers or readers who cannot afford to spend $1, let alone, $100 or $1,000…or perhaps, both. Yikes. Pay up. Play up.

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How Much Confidence Do You REALLY Have in Your Blog?

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Watch this video I recorded in Brooklyn Heights today:

Sweet view, eh? I made a powerful point too. Bloggers sometimes boast of their confidence and clarity. Puffing themselves up, they believe deeply in themselves and in their blog. Critics? Who cares? These dynamos seem unstoppable. Belief! Success is on the way, right? Awesome. Then, after mentioning their blog in front of a parent or sibling or cousin, their loved ones make fun of “blogging”, telling these idiots to “get a real job”. OUCH! Like a balloon being popped, your loved ones took a pin to your ego, deflating you. AND showing how you genuinely have little confidence in your blog. Turns out, you feel filled with doubt and pure uncertainty about your blog AND in yourself, blogging-wise. This is a good thing. Critics trigger and unearth deep fears you need to face, feel and release, to reach the next stage of your blogging career. So…how much confidence do you REALLY have in your blog? Talk about your blog to friends and family members, or to strangers. You will find out. Fast. Because these folks are non-targeted and often highly NOT interested in blogging.

I recall mentioning my blog to my fam about 10 years ago. Before doing this, I believed I felt super confident about my blog and self. I BELIEVED in myself! Wild-eyed, ignorant, deluded newbie blogging excitement covered up the fact I doubted myself and my blogging abilities, horribly. After that little chat – even though no family member seemed terribly critical – I felt like crap. Awkward, and lost, my family’s questions triggered deep fears in me. I doubted myself. I doubted my blog. In truth, I had no idea what I was doing because I refused to learn from pros. Bad idea. Naturally, I gained confidence after this session – eventually – because I faced and felt doubts eating into my blogging confidence.

The quickest way to gain blogging confidence is to discuss your blog and what you do with anybody on earth, from friends, to fam, to strangers. Never try to convince or influence or convert folks, because doing so shows your lack of confidence. Let people live their lives and make their choices. Your job is to see how shy or clear you feel discussing your blog. Shy bloggers feeling awkward chatting blogging with folks simply feel filled with fear. Blogging fears need to go for you to succeed. Speak about blogging in public. Broadcast live in a public spot. Record videos in busy spots with heavy foot traffic, as I did above, in Brooklyn. Face, feel and release self-conscious fears that need to go for you to reach the next stage of blogging growth.

One way to be a smarter and richer blogger is by facing your blogging fears routinely. Speaking to or in front of fam or strangers about your blog certainly unearths some of those deep fears. Do it. See where you are at, confidence-wise. Being straight with yourself is hands down one of the quickest ways to accelerate your blogging success. Relax, share your blogging exploits and honestly assess how you feel, to increase your blogging success.

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