I have a shameful little secret to share.
I suffered from GPP for years.
This nasty blogging disease often manifests endless suffering for the afflicted blogger. GPP is worse than the common cold. I liken it to the blogging equivalent of Black Death. The Blog-Bonic Plague crippled me for a healthy chunk of my online career.
What Is GPP?
Guest Post Phobia. I feared rejection. I feared being embarrassed. Most of all I feared wasting my precious time. No way in heck Zac or Darren Rowse or any top blogger will read my guest posts, I thought. Let alone publish the thing. (Image below: my latest Blogging Tips guest post…location: sunny Costa Rica.)
So I surrendered to GPP for years. Giving in to this wicked blogging illness perpetuated my struggles because one of the quickest and easiest ways to fail online is to blog in a cyber cave. I published a gazillion posts to my blog. None on other blogs. My audience in those days? Crickets. Crickets are poor readers. Even worse clients. They just seem to make that endless noise all day long.
Anyway, one day my love for freedom overpowered my GPP. After making that shift, I greedily feasted on the benefits of publishing guest posts on Big Dawg Blogs:
- increase your targeted blog traffic instantly
- align yourself with blogging celebrities (note….this does NOT hurt your brand or blog)
- build prospering blogging partnerships
- form strong bonds with an increasing number of subscribers while you grow your email list
- dip into the miraculous power of leveraging
GPP was a bear to shake. Like a wet, hacking cough or crabgrass, the stinking thing just DID NOT go away. But I eventually wrote, submitted and landed guest posts on top blogs by finding the remedy for this insidious blogging malady.
If you’re suffering terribly from GPP or if you’re held hostage by an overpowering, irrational fear of guest posting, RB has the Rx for you. That’s right. I have concocted a neat little homemade recipe – from the tropics – to help you guest post on the tops blogs from your niche.
1: Build Friendships to Get Around that Awkward Feeling
I recall pondering whether or not to ask my friend Ayu to be my social visa sponsor.
The scene: Bali, Indonesia. The year: 2015.
I was house sitting at a monstrously large villa in the posh town of Jimbaran for 6 months. Ayu was one of the staff who kept the villa in tip top shape. We bonded daily. We talked about the USA and Bali. She became a dear friend. I didn’t wind up taking the social visa route but I would have had no problem asking her to accompany me to Immigrassi so she could be my sponsor. She was my buddy. I knew she’d vouch for me. I trusted her. She trusted me. No weird feeling in asking her.
Imagine if I asked a Balinese stranger off of the street to be my sponsor? How awkward would that feel? They would likely smile – in the face-saving ways of SE Asia – and move on as we both recoiled from the hyper uncomfortable experience.
Stranger-ness creates awkwardness. You know what I mean. But you likely have no problems asking a friend for something. Friends trust friends. Friends have lovingly helped each other out for years. No strings attached. Such is the power of friendship.
I shared Zac’s posts for years. I commented on Zac’s posts for months. When I asked to submit a guest post Zac was happy to extend the invitation.
I never had to experience that “I need a warm shower” feeling of being a pitching, shilling, blogging pimp. I built bonds with folks in high places. I could ask to submit guest posts and would most likely land them. Even if I didn’t land the post no feelings would be hurt because Zac’s an awesome dude. No worries. No awkwardness.
Promote the stuffing out of top bloggers. Help them. Tweet their latest posts. Comment on their latest posts. Connect with them through email. After 3 or 6 months of bond-building, trust me, they will know who you are. This is the foundation-building act which sets everything into motion.
2: Have Fun Writing, and Write…..and Write….and Write
I once wrote 10,000 words daily. Or more.
I sometimes observe my fingers in a miraculous light: I’m stunned they have not fallen off.
I didn’t bust my tail though. I have fun writing. So I write. And write. And write some more.
Imagine your favorite hobby. What do you most enjoy doing? You’ll probably spend much time doing that because we seek out fun.
I love to play basketball. As a kid I’d sometimes spend 8 to 12 hours playing basketball on the playgrounds of New Jersey because I had fun playing the sport.
Ditto with writing. Following my passion inspired me to write. Then I wrote some more. After writing thousands of words every single day for months I gained confidence in my writing. I believed I could land a guest post on a well-read blog. I could rub elbows with Blogging Big Dawgs like Zac and Darren Rowse. I could schmooze with the most successful bloggers from my blogging tips niche.
The power of following your fun, right?
I built a bond with the pro’s pros. Then, after picking a blogging niche I loved writing about I wrote, and wrote and wrote. I felt confident about my writing.
2 things happened at this point: either I asked top bloggers if I could submit a guest post or top bloggers asked me if I wanted to submit a guest post. My writing skills improved dramatically. I found my once non-existent blogging voice. Things came together for me pronto.
Confidence gives you the clarity and detachment to beat the fear of rejection into a bloody pulp.
What can you talk about all day long? Write about it. Blog about it. Practice writing every day. This should RARELY feel like work. It should feel fun. Boost your confidence. Nail down guest posts on authority blogs.
No lie; you may have to use a baseball bat to keep bloggers and their endless requests away from you because your clarity, your writing skills and your confidence will appear like an oasis to bloggers in the middle of a barren desert.
3: The Review and Write and Ask
Since I have been following my blogging buddies’ blogs for months or years I know what their audience digs.
I review the 5 most recent blog posts. I get a feel for preferred topics. I write a guest post on a relevant topic targeted to the blogger’s audience. This is “The Review and Write” phase.
I shoot an email to the Big Dawg Blogger letting them know I wrote a guest post for their blog if they were interested in reading it. If it’s relevant, and if you got tips #1 and #2 down pat, most if not all of your guest posts will be accepted.
It really IS this simple but most bloggers bail on tips #1 and #2. They don’t build bonds. They don’t write. So they’re an SS: a Skill-less Stranger. Skill-less Strangers don’t land too many guest posts on any blogs.
4: If Your Guest Post Isn’t Accepted….
….we like to call this a “non-match.”
This is why, despite being outrageously handsome or stupid hot, leading actors like Leo DiCaprio or Jennifer Lawrence do not land certain movie parts. Studio folks have a certain match in mind. Whether you’re an Oscar Winner or have a square, strong jaw and All American guy looks (like the Blogging from Paradise guy? Where’s my TV pilot!)
or whether you’re drop dead gorgeous, either you’re a match for a certain acting role or you’re not a match.
Adopt the mindset of a Hollywood leading lady or leading man. Rejection does not exist in the minds of confident, detached, veteran actors. Either your guest post is a match for a top blog or it is not.
You may have seen the guest post being published in the tea leaves or perhaps a little white bird cooed in your ear, “You’ll get published, you’ll get published”, but sometimes you just won’t have a match.
Don’t take it personally. It has nothing to do with you. You weren’t rejected. No way. A better guest posting opportunity awaits you.
Drill down on tips #1 and #2. Build relationships. Make friends. Write your passion and keep on writing every day.
You’ll land guest posts on high rolling blogs left and right if you promote top bloggers, if you comment on their blogs and if you write like the dickens every single day.
Have you landed guest posts on top blogs?
What tips can you add?
Advanced Blogging Tip: Have a Poor Link Memory
I create oodles of content daily. One tip to being prolific is to have a poor link memory. I forget what I published content-wise and link-wise to keep publishing content frequently. Do you know how most bloggers publish one blog post, include a link to a product and/or service, and keep checking the post again and again, to see how the link performs as far as clicks and conversions and sales and profits and money? I never do that. I have no time and energy to check how my links perform because I have a terrible link memory. I am always on to the next piece of content to create and the next link to place and the next person to help because I have a poor link memory. I forget links. This works perfectly for me; makes me super duper prolific.
Most bloggers attach to and cling to particular business links. What happens if you attach to a link? You give attention and energy to checking the link again and again instead of creating more content from a generous, prolific energy. How can you appear to be all over your niche if you check links regularly throughout the day and if you are not creating helpful, new pieces of content? You cannot be super successful if you are not prolific and you cannot be super prolific unless you have a poor link memory. Be generous, abundant and detached by forgetting links you place in posts; especially links pointing to business opportunities.
I link to my blogging course quite a bit but never get attached to any one link or blog post or guest post through which I link to it. Why? I have more fish to fry. I have more content to create and more bloggers to bond with and more folks to help and more bloggers to connect with and heck, after converting 50 more of my eBooks to paperback, I will have over 200 products about on Amazon, under the Blogging From Paradise umbrella. That is a lot of products to promote! We need to have a poor link memory to forget the prior link we promoted so we can move forward and promote more links, more content and greater blogging success. Envision yourself having an abundant mindset. What happens if you do not feel like anything seems short, scarce or running out? Being prolific is what happens. Being generous is easier if you are not burdened by any link to promote, to review and to assess regularly. I am not opposed to scanning metrics if doing so feels good and relaxing but most bloggers never take the time to assess their genuine feelings when it comes to how they feel promoting links.
I do. I am ruthless in assessing, observing, embracing and moving along my energies because watching your energy is the key to blogging success. Blogging from abundance, relaxation and trust leads to success while blogging from fear, scarcity, tension and anxiety leads to failure.
Which road do you prefer to take?
How to Get Over the Fear Nobody Will Buy Your Product
Promote the heck out of the product. Unearth fears. Feel fears. See fears come true. Release fears. Sell your product. More and more folks buy your product only if you face, feel and release fears aligned with the product. If you hold the fears ya ain’t selling the product. Even if you publish a blogging product – like my blogging course – and sell it for a little bit you will not generate big sales until you fail enough to finally feel fears triggered by failure. Feeling fears clears fears which clears resistance which helps you inspire more people to buy the product.
Getting over this fear is messy. Do you enjoy feeling like a complete loser? Nope. Do you enjoy feeling like a complete fraud, or huckster, or embarrassed or ashamed? Nope. You hate trying so hard and then, no freaking people buy the course you promoted 10,000 times but doing so and feeling fears triggered simply makes it easy to promote the product, because feeling and getting over the fear makes you promote the product like you breathe. Being in that space, plenty of people see the product and more folks buy the product.
I promoted my blogging course to the tune of 8,000 page views before someone bought it. 8000 page views was nothing. I had to clear fear-resistance during the 8,000 page views to show the world how fun, freeing and inspired this course was. Fear cleared, more people bought it at 10 times the initial price versus the initial cheapy price. Raising the price ten fold? Yep; another fear for me to conquer. But I did it, and far more people bought it at $350 than at $36. See how funny fear works? You fear something, refuse to feel the fear, and struggle. But feeling the fear and doing it anyway leads to increasing success. Buy the course for a fun, entertaining, inspired blogging guide. Tis the season for celebration and joy and love and fun, helpful blogging courses.
I have no tips for nudging into fear save meditating and doing yoga frequently. Following each habit expands your awareness which helps you become intimately aware of your fears, so you can feel fears and release fears. Feels rough but this is part of the blogging journey if you want to get over the fear of selling your stuff. Hey; do you want to hurt people, mislead people or lie to people with your blogging product? No? Then just sell the thing already. Ship it. Publish it. Fear is so insidious. Fear makes you do what you do not want to do, if you trust fear. Fear causes you to tune into an alternate, illusory universe, where nothing is true and everything is lies, smoke and mirrors. Do you really want to take that road? I did not think so.
All I can do is be a cheerleader. You need to be the athlete on the court, not the fan on the sidelines. Get on the court. Publish your product. Promote your product. You will eventually face, feel and release all the fears you need to release to become a successful blogger and to sell your product successfully, too. Get in the game. People will buy your product when you get clear on it.
Pro Blogging Tip: Release Expectations
Am I asking you to be a Blogging Buddha? Nope. Not really. No one save enlightened beings completely releases expectations but us mere mortals clinging some to a worldly life can largely release expectations, to become successful and to enjoy the blogging journey. 10 minutes ago, I checked my email. I received a few. I clearly make it difficult to get in touch with me through email because I want to give most attention and energy to building a passive income empire. Every second I spend in email, I could be spending creating content and building connections. Knowing this, it feels good to receive few emails because it helps me scale and move forward from an abundant energy.
Unfortunately, most bloggers have heavy expectations when it comes to receiving email. Bloggers expect a chock filled inbox, with all types of clients, Paypal payments and sponsored post deals. What happens if you get 3 emails daily, all responses to comments? Your expectations not being met levels you, depressing you, making you sad, sapping your energy. If you expect some sweet outcome and reality is not delivering you the outcome to fulfill the expectation, you eventually lose your blogging motivation and quit. Or you make the massive mistake of quitting after seeing your expectations fall short, then, you begin blogging again, quit again after expectations are unfulfilled, and you suffer through this vicious cycle until you fail and quit for good.
Release expectations. Begin blogging with an intent to live your dreams but let go the anchor of expectation because either you feel hopeless after not getting what you expected or you feel average when expectations line up or you feel super high and excited after exceeding expectations, leading to an imminent crash after your emotions settle down. Expectations are anchors, pulling you down, holding you back, preventing meteoric blogging growth. I expect little to nothing blogging-wise because my day is about having fun helping people to blog successfully. I cannot go wrong whether I sell a copy of my blogging course or not because I have no expectations; I just promote the course in a seeming billion places (coming soon) and leave things at that.
If anything, allow a little part of yourself to desire some expectation but make it tiny. Why? If the expectation does not come true quickly, you will keep blogging from an energetic, relaxed, abundant vibe, positioning yourself to succeed. Harboring wee expectations means you remain unstirred if the expectations do not manifest; no crushed, hopeless feeling. Meanwhile, most bloggers with grand, wild expectations often slam into tons of resistance because no spectacular dream comes through and manifest overnight. Living your dream life through blogging requires years and thousands upon thousands of hours of generous service.
Blog for an absolute love of blogging. Be passionate about the blogging process. Release largely on outcomes because weighing yourself down with expectations slows you down. Imagine desiring big blogging bucks only to see an empty inbox for the next 3 months? 90 plus days, zero dollars. After the 90th day, most bloggers quit blogging for good, because they came up so short on their expectations, being frustrated, disgusted, and tired of wasting their time.
Fall in love with the process – not outcomes – to fuel yourself for your blogging journey.
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