I received a few more lame guest post pitches this morning.
Note; I have compassion for these bloggers. I have been in their shoes, struggling to grow my readership.
But wasting your time doing silly stuff like blind pitching strangers adds years to your blogging learning curve. Never mind the struggles you face doing such fear-based stuff.
My friend Alonzo Pichardo and I recorded our latest online success chat – keep an eye out for the Online Success Chats Podcast coming soon – to help you connect with online influencers.
Watch it here:
We explain how to connect with influencers effectively by helping them without looking for anything in return plus we discuss how to keep things personal and why this benefits you.
Influencer marketing is all the rage these days.
But most people do influencer marketing all wrong.
Take the lame pitches I received today. Strangers to me with few writing skills – based on the pitch emails – tried to land guest posts on Blogging From Paradise.
This is like a Junior Varsity, unskilled basketball player calling the front office of the New York Knicks to ask for a spot on the roster.
It takes years of practice or even over a decade of practice to become an NBA player. It takes months and years of writing practice and promoting me without asking for anything in return to appear on Blogging From Paradise.
Just like the writers at Forbes don’t hand away guest posts like candies to a baby I don’t allow any old body to guest post on my blog.
I tell people; landing a feature on my blog is incredibly difficult. After honing my writing and networking skills for 10 years you need to prove to me you have practiced your writing and networking skills for years. Being featured on Virgin, Fox News, Entrepreneur and Forbes, I get it; my blog has aligned with world famous brands. I treat it as such.
How to Impress Influential Bloggers the Right Way
Help top bloggers without asking for anything in return.
Retweet their latest post. Publish a 3-4 paragraph, personalized comment on their blog. Share their latest post on Facebook.
Help bloggers for weeks, then months. Ask nothing of them.
Over months, you will begin to impress influential bloggers. Impressed big dawg bloggers will count you as friends.
Thinking of an example of how to do influencer marketing right I went right to the solid proof: the blog comments field at Blogging From Paradise.
Anybody who persistently comments genuinely on Blogging From Paradise without asking for anything cares about me. These people are my friends.
I hook my friends up.
Joy Healey always publishes genuine, engaging, candid, helpful comments on my blog. She is generous, offers value through blog comments and tirelessly promotes me on social media.
Joy even accepted a recent guest post of mine that goes live in a few weeks.
Of course I will feature her on Blogging Tips. I take care of my friends!
She helped me without looking for anything in return, persistently shouting me out and commenting on my blog. She was genuine. Joy gets a shout out here, helping expand her brand awareness on an authority blog.
See how that works?
Keep Things Personal
Chatting about life away from the laptop is another way to impress established bloggers.
This shows you don’t want to use some pro to advance your business ends but actually want to get to know them over time by finding shared interests.
Alonzo Pichardo and I connected chatting about old school rap. We struck up a chat on Facebook.
Keep it light guys.
If you want to connect with top bloggers make it personal, not about business.
Blogging Income Tip: How Do You Feel about Money?
As I promote my eBook:
I ponder one massive source of anxiety for most bloggers: money. Most of you grew up with money limiting beliefs. Money does not grow on trees. Money is not easy. Money is hard to get. Money is scarce. If you want money, get used to owning and facing each money fear because blogging full time requires you to work for free, generously, for a while, and no human with money fears works for free. All humans clinging to heavy money fears only work for pay. What is working for pay? Jobs. Working for someone allows you to get paid for every hour you work because being employees guarantees payment, per work, per your contract.
Guess what? Blogging is a different animal. Nobody gets paid to be an individual, business-owning blogger because blogging is a business. Business is about building something to boost skills and exposure to where your streams of income yield cash for you. Complete 180 from being an employee because you need face money fears, release fears, and proceed from a generous energy to gain skills and exposure enough to earn a full time income through your blog.
How do you feel about money? Does money feel scarce to you? Do you fear running out of money? Be honest guys. Being straight with yourself allows you to make money because before you make money through your blog, you need to face, feel and release money fears. Why? You never move into actions required to make money being burdened by the heavy fear of losing money, a yoke that saddles most of humanity.
I have noted how Gary Vaynerchuk did 2000 YouTube interviews before he began to get major media and TV coverage. He worked for free for 2000 interviews because he was not burdened by the terror of losing money, vibing abundance and generosity and trust. Most of humanity is so scared to lose all of their money that they never give one interview for free; these people work jobs to guarantee they get money for what they do work-wise, but sacrifice their fun and freedom in the process. You cannot live your dreams through blogging if you have no vision for the future and you cannot create a vision if you feel weighed down by the fear of money loss. How can you dream big dreams if you secretly feel terrified to lose it all? The fear of losing it all dominates your mind, body and actions so you will just work a job to get money and you will treat your blog casually, because your blog does not yield money, like your job.
Of course, your blog does not yield money because you vibe a poverty consciousness and poverty-vibing folks never do the generous giving – working for free, for a sustained period of time – to position themselves for success, a’la Gary Vee and his 2000 YouTube interviews. I have written and published nearly 1000 posts on Blogging Tips. Nobody paid me directly for writing and publishing these posts but the traffic and links and money I gained indirectly through these nearly 1000 posts helped me live a neat life. I began giving generously the moment I faced my money fears.
Expect to do the same if you want to live your dreams through blogging.
What Few Bloggers Understand
I live a pretty sexy life. I have circled the globe for the past eight years through blogging. Pretty cool, right?
But my blogging duties are seemingly mundane, not too sexy at all and in moments, quite boring. I genuinely love blogging. I have fun doing what I do. But I am also a human being experiencing a wide range of emotions on an hour to hour basis. Sometimes, I just want to go to sleep for a little bit because I feel tired and a bit bored with the blogging process. But if I intuitively know it is time to write a blog post I just write the blog post. In these moments, blogging feels boring and mundane and plain and not too sexy. But doing the seemingly mundane things in boring moments lays the foundation for living a spectacular dream life through blogging.
Few bloggers understand this basic fact of sometimes boring activities laying the foundation for a spectacular dream life. Most bloggers believe I do exciting, inspired and amazing things all day long to live an amazing life. This is 100% not true and nothing could be further from the fact. Blogging is fun for me most of the time but sometimes blogging feels boring. Even when blogging feels fun I am not doing anything earth-shattering or jaw-dropping anytime I write and publish blog posts and comment on blogs and promote one or all of my 100 plus ebooks. Does tapping a retweet button and sharing one of my eBooks on Twitter seem earth-shattering? Nope. Simple. East too. But few bloggers understand simple blogging activities lead to great blogging success.
Most bloggers believe you live your dreams through blogging by trying to knock the ball out of the park with viral blog posts and partnerships with the top bloggers on earth. Nope. You live your dreams by simply publishing helpful content, building friendships with top bloggers by being generous and asking for nothing, and by opening multiple streams of income from an abundant, trusting energy. Each of those steps is simple to put into action but sometimes taking each of those steps feel scary or highly uncomfortable. Nudge through the fear. Take the step. Simple, generous actions eventually lead to spectacular results because all meaningful blogging ventures begin with simple, generous actions. Do not believe top bloggers hit home runs everyday. We hit singles again and again and again and again for 10000 to 20000 hours until all those singles add up to something dazzling over the long haul.
Think in terms of tiny impressions made multiple times daily. I could have tried to write a viral guest post on this blog 3 years ago when I first published posts here. But I just chose to do a solid job writing a simple post some 900 times. Now I have written and published 900 + guest posts on this blog which means on a single blog alone I have 900 links or more, based on the ebooks of mine I link to as well. 900 + links leads up to something pretty sexy and spectacular but it was the simple, generous actions I took daily over 3 years of my life that led to the stunning long-term success. Blogging is doing simple things generously for hours daily for years of your life to build something special and meaningful.
Never believe that top bloggers hit home runs every day for a few weeks before they made it big. Anybody who makes it big does seemingly little things with love and generosity every single day over the course of years of their lives. Imagine 10000 to 20000 hours of doing simple things and you get an idea of what it takes to live a spectacular dream life through the medium of blogging.
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Why You Are Not a Blogger Unless You Own Your Domain and Hosting
Let’s say you blog on Blogspot. Google owns Blogspot aka Blogger. You own nothing. So you are not a blogger. You blog on a free platform Google owns; Google owns you and your alleged blog. You are not a blogger.
Do you blog on WordPress dot com? Free platform. WP dot com owns your blog. You own nothing. You are not a blogger because you do not own the blog. You are a contributor to a free blogging platform.
Imagine you buy your domain on a Blogger blog. Does this make you a blogger? Nope. Bloggers OWN their blogs. Perhaps you own the domain name but you do not own the blog on Blogger because Google owns the blog. Maybe you cyber live at that location but you do not OWN the location. Imagine being a cyber squatter; someone paid for the home and owns the home. You live there, for free. Similar to when Kelli and I do house sits, we do not own these homes. We live in these homes, for free. I would lie if I called myself a homeowner because I do not own the home. You can say you blog, but if you do not own the domain AND hosting, you are not a blogger. Bloggers own their blogs.
I am on a VPS. I invested money to own BloggingFromParadise.com so I call myself a blogger. I own the blog. I own the brand. Nobody can kick me off my blog unless I do something insanely offensive and break the hosting company terms of service. I own my blog so I am a blogger because bloggers own their blogs and people who do not own their blogs are simply people blogging on free platforms. Good luck trying to become a highly successful entrepreneur blogging on a free platform. Credibility issue. People instantly do not trust someone blogging on a free platform with the amateur-looking domain name because it looks bad, said blogger lacking clarity to invest money in owning their blog.
The cases of someone becoming highly successful on a free blogging platform are so incredibly rare that it’d be flat out foolish to advise you to blog on a free platform. Even if you buy your domain and blog on a free platform like Blogger you:
- never tap into the massive support community at WordPress.org
- never access the branding power of a self-hosted blog
- never access the monetizing potential of a self-hosted blog
- never gain the credibility of owning a self-hosted blog
Imagine you need to climb 10 miles up a towering mountain. Buying your domain and hosting is like traveling up the mountain with the bare essentials of minimum food and hiking equipment and clothing. Lean and mean operation. Trying to blog on a free platform is like strapping on 200 pounds of excess, bloated weight, carrying a TV and laptop and video game system, and wearing a chain mail suit, guaranteeing you fail to make the climb.
Buy your domain and hosting. Make life easier on yourself. Be a blogger.
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