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How Struggling Bloggers Can Boost their Traffic Despite Have No Connections



Are you terrified to start blogging because you feel you have no connections and zero clout?

You see connected pro bloggers with huge networks and feel like “How in the heck am I ever going to get there?!”

It can feel as frustrating as heck when you feel like an outsider. Or when you feel like nobody on earth knows about you, your blog, and your message.

It almost feels like you’re writing a cyber diary as a newbie; I mean, who in the heck knows about your blog? And how in the heck will people ever find out about it?

Before you get too worked up, take a deep breath. Relax. I have a solution for you. This solution will help you increase your blog traffic despite having zero connections.

How do you build connections to increase your blog traffic as a new blogger?

1 to 1.

Making friends with folks 1 to 1 helps build strong bonds. Good friends promote you to their networks. This increases your blog traffic quite quickly compared to other new bloggers who try to game systems to drive traffic. While they foolishly try to manipulate Google or social media networks you’re making friends with 1 or 5 or 10 bloggers daily. Good friends, these folks become, as you comment on their blogs and promote their blog posts via social media.

Good friends do the same for you. 1 Retweet here. 1 Facebook Share there. An interview. A feature. Appearing on someone’s podcast as a guest. All these sweet friendly benefits increase your traffic pronto. But one aspect of doing the connection bit is so vital I need to mention it again.

All connections must be built:

1 to 1.

Not 1 to many. Which means, not by gaming a system to gain 30,000 Twitter followers (also known as “numbers on a screen”) so you can tweet your blog out to these 30,000 followers, believing you can get 5,000 or 10,000 blog visits from these 30,000 followers (most likely bought) because you ain’t getting jack squat from numbers on a screen.

Numbers on a screen are inanimate. This is why taking the 1 to many approach of trying to build traffic as a newbie is foolish. And quite futile.

Numbers never respond to your blog, to your calls to action or to anything you do online.

People do.

Friends respond.

Good friends REALLY respond favorably.

And you make good friends one connection at a time. One to one.

Places to Build 1 to 1 Connections

Think offsite as a new blogger. Since you are just starting to build your online presence.

Question and Answer Sites

Become an active contributor on Question and Answer sites like Quora. If you love your blogging niche – and you should – you will have ample information to share with your audience, either via your blog or through Q and A sites.

Jerry Low shares a few neat Q and A sites and strategies for driving traffic through these rich resources in this helpful article:

5 Effective Ways to Grow Your Blog Traffic


Twitter is my personal favorite social networking site for its ease of use.

If you’re a new blogger intending to build powerful 1 to 1 friendships hop on this platform immediately.

Brian Honigman at Smart Blogger does a fine job helping you build 1 to 1 connections offsite via the micro blogging platform here:

10 Simple Twitter Tactics that Will Get You More Traffic Today


Triberr is a newbie blogger’s dream.

This platform gives you the ability to connect with a large collection of successful bloggers by sharing their content and commenting on their blog posts.

I wrote a 13 step tutorial on my blog helping you learn the in’s and out’s of Triberr:

13 Tips for Using Triberr to Increase Your Blog Traffic Quickly

Now let’s dive into a few practical tips to help you establish critical 1 to 1 connections for boosting your blog traffic.

No clout? No problem!


Practical Tips for New Bloggers Building 1 to 1 Connections

  • comment on top blogs from your niche, building 1 to 1 friendships with fellow bloggers, addressing them by name and adding value to their posts through your comments
  • tweet their posts, tagging them to let them know you’re spreading their word
  • Facebook share their posts, tagging them to let them know you’re spreading their word
  • G Plus share their posts, tagging them to let them know you’re spreading their word
  • Email bloggers from your niche – 1 to 1 of course – and ask if there is any way you can help them….let them know you’re a new blogger and ask if they need a tweet or mention on Facebook or perhaps if they want to guest post or interview on your blog, they are free to do so
  • respond to every single comment you receive on your blog within 1 day
  • Respond to all Facebook Like, Retweets and G Plus shares of your blog posts, 1 to 1, thanking your social media buddies for giving you props

Newbies gain traction stupid quickly by building 1 to 1 connections. It ain’t a numbers game. It’s a good friends game.

Your Turn

What tips can you add for driving traffic to your blog as a new blogger?


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How to Better Handle Blogging Obstacles



Take a breath.

Now, take a deep breath.

This, too, shall pass.

Every blogging obstacle dissolves into opportunity the moment you breathe, slow down and calm down. Nothing good happens fighting obstacles because your fighting gives attention to the obstacle, making the obstacle grow into something big and scary. But breathing deeply, feeling the fear fueling the obstacle, and letting go the fear-obstacle alerts you the transitory nature of the block, and how it passes into solution.

Better handle blogging obstacles by following a few tips.

1: Take a Deep Breath

Breathe. Take 1-5 deep, slow breaths. Breathing slows down your mind, thoughts and feelings. Slowing down everything allows you to be in the moment, to feel the fear fueling obstacles. Simple process but few bloggers take this step so obstacles appear to run wild.

Take a deep breath, now. Be aware of your thoughts and feelings. Breathing deeply and relaxing expands your awareness. Do you feel nervous now or anxious? Do you fear some obstacle related to time, and losing it? Breathing deeply allows you to be here and now, to feel fears fueling obstacles.

2: Feel the Fear

Fear fuels obstacles. What is a blogging obstacle but fear you cannot get past something? Imagine seeing the white screen of death on your blog. How would it feel? Scary? Why? You fear you cannot get past your blog being a white screen. Other fears cascade into mind; fear of losing readers, fear of losing money, fear of losing reputation, fear of being criticized.

Be with these fears. Feel the fears. You cannot solve obstacles being burdened by fear for you only see what appears to stop you, not solutions, being shackled by fear. Feel fear, release and proceed.

3: See the Opportunity

Opportunities plant themselves in obstacles. Imagine facing some pressing backoffice issue, tech-wise, blogging-wise. You received an opportunity to:

  • learn more about tech, to solve the problem
  • hire a web developer to solve the problem, outsourcing
  • ask your readers and Facebook friends how to solve the problem, humbling yourself

Every blogging obstacle dissolves the moment you breathe deep, feel fears and relax, because opportunities arise in response to following these steps.  Everything is abundance. Everything is opportunity. Fear is illusion so obstacles cannot be real.

4: Invest in a Resource

Do you always seem to be getting tripped up by blogging obstacles?

Buy my eBook:

10 Powerful Strategies for Knifing through Blogging Obstacles

Resources offer you complete guides to reference when times get tough. Minds race. Feelings fluctuate wildly. But breathing, feeling fear, seeing opportunities, and having a resource in your blogging library levels you out, calms you and helps you find solutions quickly.

Obstacles Are Not that Scary

Blogging obstacles are not that scary if you know to solve these mental blocks. Few bloggers put a strategy into place for handling blogging crisis so they panic, struggle and fight foolishly through resistance. Following a few steps alerts you: blogging is not so hard and facing obstacles need not be some endless nightmare creating hours, days or weeks of panic. You are a human, not a tree. Use your awareness, follow these steps and knife gracefully thru obstacles toward greater blogging success

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3 Tips for Bonding with Blogging Influencers



Forget traditional influencer marketing. We want to go deeper.

Bloggers teach influencer marketing from a less genuine space sometimes. Imagine learning how to try to get someone to do something for you. Manipulation marketing. Fear-based marketing. Problems arise; spam folders become your landing spot. I observe a decent percentage of influencer marketing emails in my spam folder because fear-pitches get labeled as spam and become spam, 100% of the time.

What is the solution? Learn how to bond with blogging influencers.

I remember people who befriend me. I admire people who endorse me or promote me. I appreciate people who buy my course or eBooks. I love people who generously help me for months. Guess what? Bonding with established bloggers influences the influencers. I do stuff for dear blogging friends I do not do for anybody else. If a friend sends me a guest post and their writing is tight, I place it. Even if said post spans 1000 words or more – my minimum count is 600 – I place it without hesitating. Friends found my heart. Friends influenced me through kindness and generosity. I am largely putty in their blogging hands.

Instead of trying to manipulate a successful stranger, bond with a friend. Change your approach to influencer marketing. Make friends. Help without asking. In time, blogging bonds form organically. If you practice writing, the world becomes your oyster because influencers take you to new levels of success, without you even asking.

Follow these tips to bond with influencers.

1: Buy a Resource

The best way to bond with an influencer is to get inside their heads.

Influential bloggers had to influence influential bloggers on the way up to become influential. Invest in a resource like my influential blogger eBook to learn how influencers do it. Speak their language. Connect. Take their viewpoint. Learn how to be influential yourself.

When you discover how to be influential through my resource you in essence, learn how to influence, influencers, by bonding with these pros.

2: Spend a Few Months Giving Not Asking

Bloggers I remember, then befriend, spend at least a few months giving and not asking. Someone buys my course, publishes 10 comments on my blog, and retweets my posts 10 or 20 times during a 3 month period. These people pop up on my radar screen because they gave and asked for nothing. Bonds form. Friendships develop.

Retweet fellow bloggers. Help them. Feature fellow bloggers. Open your blog to guest posting. Guest post on other blogs. Comment genuinely on blogs. Buy products.

Ask for nothing, for at least 3-4 months. Allow friendships to form organically. Blogging friends help each other because blogging friends trust each other. Influential bloggers fall into this helping lot too, as you generously serve them, ask for nothing and polish your writing skills. I gained more endorsements from pros by being generous than through any other method. Help influential bloggers. Ask for nothing. Influential bloggers help you without you asking for a darn thing.

3: Never Rush the Process

Some blogger friend requested me on Facebook a few moments ago. I scanned my messages to see his business pitch in the “other” folder. He simply rushed the process of pitching an established blogger. I appreciate the friend request but pitching your business before generously helping me ensures I ignore all future messages. He rushed the process so I let him go.

Perhaps he smartens up and begins helping me generously without asking for anything. After a few months of helping me and asking for nothing, we bond. We become friends. From there, the opportunities are limitless. Even if I do not use his service, if he has skills and a reputable business model I can share his services with my readers.

Good things take some time. Never rush the bonding process.

Allow bonds to form organically to do influencer marketing right.

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How Do Blogging and Fitness Relate?



I spend 3 hours daily honing my mental and physical fitness.

In truth, you can and will succeed online following simple fundamentals from a generous, detached energy. No need to be fit to go full time blogging. But if you feel bad because your body feels bad and your mind fears losing it all, have you succeeded? I do not believe so.

I wrote an eBook sharing my daily regimen to explain what many of you readers want to know: how do I do it all? I am no blogging god. I am just human. But I write and connect quite a bit. People wish to know how I wrote 100 plus eBooks in addition to all the other stuff I do while circling the globe. Well, blogging and fitness are 2 peas in a pod for me. Both play a big role if you desiring leveling up and feeling good predominantly as you enjoy the ride.

Blogging and Fitness

Let’s say you wake up on a Monday morning as a full time employee who blogs part time. Feeling terrible and dreading work, why write and publish a post? Too busy. Do it later. Put off the post until tonight. But you feel too tired that night. Repeat this cycle for 3 months. 90 days passed. Still no blog post. Why? You filled your mind with fear and pain. Manifesting as blogging loss, backburnering the post for 3 months indicates fear in mind. Why fear? 100% of the time, fear dominates minds of people who spend zero time on mental fitness, never meditating or doing deep yin yoga or observing their thoughts and feelings. Most of the time, these same folks dominated by their own fears never commit seriously to being physically fit through exercising.

Feel good by caring for your mind and body. Vibe higher than fears crippling most bloggers. Imagine the above scenario with one difference: you devote 1-2 hours daily exercising and raising your energy via mindset training. Devote 30 minutes to power walking and 30 minutes to deep yin yoga. On waking that Monday morning, either a blog post idea finds you and you write the post, or after a few uncomfortable moments and feelings, the idea flows to you and you write the post.

I cannot explain this process logically because it flows 100% emotionally, feelings-wise. Visualize yourself in moments you feel really good. All seems possible. Ideas flow to you. Opportunities flow to you. Why? Feeling good magnetizes you to freeing, success-promoting ideas. Being fit mentally and physically is the easiest way to feel good most of the time. Plus in those moments you feel bad mentally and physically, you face, feel and release the bad feelings, quickly, because you feel mentally and physically fit, predominantly.


Being fit naturally alerts you to the success-promoting idea of gratitude. Gratitude builds blogging success because seeing every penny of income, every blog comment and all interest in your blogging courses feels awesome to you. Feeling awesome inspires you to blog for years generously. Blogging generously for years makes you successful.

Corey at the Good Oil Marketing retweeted my blogging course recently. I feel grateful he spread the word for me considering he is a successful, high level marketer. I feel these feelings and build on my success because I feel grateful. I feel grateful because I trained my mind and body to feel good, through being fit daily, in order to tune into appreciation easily.

Get fit.

Don’t quit.

Be a successful blogger by being mentally and physically fit.

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