A few days ago I enjoyed my birthday. Although specific days seem not too big of a deal to me – I do my best to live in the moment – it feels good to celebrate one more year on planet earth. Birthdays genuinely seem to be all about the person celebrating the birthday. 99% of my friends and connections wished me well and told me to enjoy the day, which I appreciated. But a handful of folks – after wishing me well – either told me to do stuff for them or asked me if I could do them favors. I appreciated these interactions too because each offered me this blog post idea 🙂
One blogger told me to promote his FB Page and blog through my social media. Other bloggers asked other favors. Thinking inward, about yourself and your needs, kills your blogging campaign because all money, traffic and business you want flows from generously thinking of and helping other bloggers. How do you make money blogging? Think about other people, identify their problems, solve their problems through free and premium content, and as your skills, exposure and credibility increases, traffic and money flows your way. But if you think mainly about your needs – needing money, needing business, needing traffic – you instantly cut off the sources of your wealth (being generous, thinking about other people, serving other people).
Bloggers stuck on themselves basically transmit these thoughts and feelings to the Universe:“ME, ME, ME, ME, HELP ME, I NEED YOUR HELP, ME, ME, ME, ME.”
I have compassion for ME-FOCUSED bloggers because fear drives these people to think inward about themselves and their needs versus thinking outward about others. Since I have compassion for them, I no longer feel annoyed or agitated by their apparent selfishness but I do ignore their inward-focused desires because struggling bloggers need to learn that success is in service, not self-service. Successful bloggers generally and genuinely think about helping people and follow through with generous help. Increased skills, exposure and credibility boost traffic and profits but only because the bloggers thought about others primarily, not about themselves. Me-itis kills blogging careers because all blogging success is in other people’s problems, dreams and hopes. The money is in your mind as a generous service idea, then, the money flows from other human beings to you when you help people freely for hours every day.
No blogger succeeds by focusing on themselves and their needs because success is in serving others, not in trying to survive by thinking only about yourself. Imagine wishing someone a happy birthday and being so self-absorbed that you demand the birthday boy or birthday girl helps you? Do you see how fear, desperation and greed deludes you into being so selfish and self-centered that you cut yourself off from the world and from becoming a successful blogger?
Face your fears. Feel your fears. Clearing fears moves your focus from self toward others. Feeling grateful, abundant and loving simply goads you to help other bloggers and readers freely. Gone are your failing, inward-focused ways, being replaced with outward-focused, generous service. Now you’re on to something! Do you want to become an influential blogger? First, buy my eBook. Then, read it. Then, become a generous servant. All success is in generous service. All success is in thinking outward about other people and how you can help them. Being of service challenges you to be altruistic, a bit more, and to think less and less of your pressing needs. Helping people generously allows all of your needs to slowly and surely be met. Do you require money for your blogging business? Help a ton of fellow bloggers freely, make friends and observe how your blogging buddies gradually boost your traffic and profits.
Listen to Pro Bloggers
I received a pitch from a stranger a few days ago. The entrepreneur offered me free file space – I think; I forget, among the thousands of pitches I get – in response for a review. I think. Genuinely, I do not remember. Why? Thousands and thousands of strangers try to pitch me stuff or ideas. Strangers want valued space on Blogging From Paradise. But strangers have nothing of value to offer me. So I ignore their pitches. If I am not too busy, I offer help, so these folks experience more success and make more money. Alas, my pro blogging advice often falls on deaf ears. Because if you program yourself mentally to fail, you WILL fail by ignoring successful advice. Guaranteed. Every time.
Look at the featured image for this post. Said pitcher offered me free storage or something. Never heard of her. Never heard of her site. I know she is awesome. Site solid, too. Nothing personal. But the second I see a cold pitch, I lose trust in the individual and in their business. If business were TRULY booming, ALL business would flow to you and you ain’t cold pitching strangers. Real talk. Anyway, I suggested she buy my eBook:
because she obviously struggles, following the amateur blogger approach of blindly cold pitching strangers. Of course she has no interest in buying and reading my eBook. Successful advice evades bloggers who think, feel and act like unsuccessful bloggers. I believe she is awesome. But I share this real world experience to teach, to inspire and to wake up bloggers with the truth. Listen to pro bloggers. Pay close attention to pro blogger advice. We teach you how to blog the right way. We teach you how to succeed. If this person bought my eBook, read it, and followed my advice, she would place her guest post and business links on hundreds of respected blogs, over years. She would gain serious trust. She would make a bunch of money for her business. But alas! Since she ignore my successful advice she will keep following her failing advice, and, will fail, cold pitching strangers, never building strong bonds with pros, burning out, and failing.
Are you completely blind to pro blogger advice? Observe your blogging career. Do you struggle? Struggling bloggers blind themselves to pro advice because fear clouds your mind. I advise new, struggling bloggers routinely. Being filled with fear, most foolishly question my advice. Why? Obviously, you are a new, inexperienced, struggling blogger. Your strategy sucks. Now it’s time to follow a new, successful strategy. Pro bloggers succeed. Pro bloggers teach you successful strategies to succeed. Listen to them. Buy their eBooks. Follow their advice. Position yourself to succeed.
I am not right. Struggling bloggers are not wrong. But I know what works and teach what works. Do not be a fool; if a pro teaches you what works, buy the eBook. I instantly saw the thousands of hours and years of struggle this entrepreneur faces because she has zero interest in spending $7 to get excellent blogging advice. Ego errs because ego sees illusion. Ignore it. Be humble. Listen to pro bloggers. Succeed.
Cheapies Never Go Far in Blogging
Someone wrote me a few moments ago. I quoted my sponsored post price. He replied asking for my best price. I told him all prices are final. Literally, I told him kindly but clearly to take it or leave it. He replied, asking me to accept his offer for $10, which is absurdly lower than my $11 sponsored post rate. I am joking; just seeing if you pay attention LOL 🙂 Anyway, his $10 offer is MUCH lower than my sponsored post fixed price. PLUS I already told him twice my fixed price, and to take the price or to leave the price. I *also* mentioned how all prices are final. Of course, I immediately labeled his email “spam” so all future emails, barterings and silly cheap-ness flow directly to my spam folder. I will never see him or his emails again. Nothing personal. But I have no time or energy for cheapies because if you are so filled with the fear of poverty that you completely ignore my emails, I cannot respect you as a blogging business partner.
This is why cheapies never go far in blogging. Imagine this lost blogging soul. He ignores my emails to ask for a ridiculous price on a sponsored post. I label his email “spam”. After 10 or 20 more pro bloggers label his email as “spam”, every single email he sends to bloggers winds up in the blogger’s spam folder. Almost all bloggers never check their spam. Most delete all spam emails without checking the emails. Imagine sending 500 emails to spam folders daily? That marks 499 to 500 emails no blogger will ever see, only to be deleted immediately.
Pay Up to Play Up
Moving up in blogging circles requires you to invest more money into your blog. From paying for your domain and hosting, to paying for your theme, to paying for your blogging education, to investing in sponsored posts advertising your business, the bigger money and greater traffic awaits in higher blogging circles, where money flows freely. Prospering people who buy your products and services without hesitating meet you through friends in higher blogging circles. Same thing happens offline. Jeff Bezos does not do business with someone who cannot afford my $7 eBooks. He does business with serious entrepreneurs who freely invest money in mutually beneficial ventures. Life works that way. Birds of a blogging feather flock together. Imagine if the $10 sponsored post cheapie paid my full price instead? I place the post, his business gets greater exposure in front of prospering eyes and he nets more sales and profits. He makes $100, or $1000 or more, earning more money to boost his sponsored post budget and to move him out of poverty. But the mental illness of poverty prevents him from seeing beyond “I HAVE NO MONEY! I NEED TO ***ONLY*** PAY $10 FOR EVERY SPONSORED POST I PLACE!!!”
He may place a few $10 sponsored post on terrible quality blogs with broke readerships. Truthfully, he should just donate the $10 to bloggers who place his sponsored post for $10 because said bloggers have either 5 daily readers or readers who cannot afford to spend $1, let alone, $100 or $1,000…or perhaps, both. Yikes. Pay up. Play up.
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How Much Confidence Do You REALLY Have in Your Blog?
Watch this video I recorded in Brooklyn Heights today:
Sweet view, eh? I made a powerful point too. Bloggers sometimes boast of their confidence and clarity. Puffing themselves up, they believe deeply in themselves and in their blog. Critics? Who cares? These dynamos seem unstoppable. Belief! Success is on the way, right? Awesome. Then, after mentioning their blog in front of a parent or sibling or cousin, their loved ones make fun of “blogging”, telling these idiots to “get a real job”. OUCH! Like a balloon being popped, your loved ones took a pin to your ego, deflating you. AND showing how you genuinely have little confidence in your blog. Turns out, you feel filled with doubt and pure uncertainty about your blog AND in yourself, blogging-wise. This is a good thing. Critics trigger and unearth deep fears you need to face, feel and release, to reach the next stage of your blogging career. So…how much confidence do you REALLY have in your blog? Talk about your blog to friends and family members, or to strangers. You will find out. Fast. Because these folks are non-targeted and often highly NOT interested in blogging.
I recall mentioning my blog to my fam about 10 years ago. Before doing this, I believed I felt super confident about my blog and self. I BELIEVED in myself! Wild-eyed, ignorant, deluded newbie blogging excitement covered up the fact I doubted myself and my blogging abilities, horribly. After that little chat – even though no family member seemed terribly critical – I felt like crap. Awkward, and lost, my family’s questions triggered deep fears in me. I doubted myself. I doubted my blog. In truth, I had no idea what I was doing because I refused to learn from pros. Bad idea. Naturally, I gained confidence after this session – eventually – because I faced and felt doubts eating into my blogging confidence.
The quickest way to gain blogging confidence is to discuss your blog and what you do with anybody on earth, from friends, to fam, to strangers. Never try to convince or influence or convert folks, because doing so shows your lack of confidence. Let people live their lives and make their choices. Your job is to see how shy or clear you feel discussing your blog. Shy bloggers feeling awkward chatting blogging with folks simply feel filled with fear. Blogging fears need to go for you to succeed. Speak about blogging in public. Broadcast live in a public spot. Record videos in busy spots with heavy foot traffic, as I did above, in Brooklyn. Face, feel and release self-conscious fears that need to go for you to reach the next stage of blogging growth.
One way to be a smarter and richer blogger is by facing your blogging fears routinely. Speaking to or in front of fam or strangers about your blog certainly unearths some of those deep fears. Do it. See where you are at, confidence-wise. Being straight with yourself is hands down one of the quickest ways to accelerate your blogging success. Relax, share your blogging exploits and honestly assess how you feel, to increase your blogging success.
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